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World AIDS Day.

Although we cannot say Happy World AIDS day (or can we?), I would use this opportunity to ask some questions on HIV and AIDS that I have been itching to ask but have never been able to. 

You see I was one of those people that would have to have a gun to their heads before I'd go and check my status. Admittedly the first two times I was tested for HIV in my mid-20s it wasn't done so independent of my knowledge or consent, it was one of those moments that you have malaria and the doctor says they'll have to take your blood to run some tests and you'll willingly consent thinking the only tests that needed to be run were for Malaria and Thyphoid but unknown to you HIV testing would probably be carried out first. 

So the questions I've been itching to ask; I'm quite certain that at least one person I know personally is HIV positive but isn't it rude to go about asking people their status... So I'm going to take advantage of social media and you can take advantage of anonymity and let's talk about this. 

-Do you know your HIV status?
-How and why did you go for your first HIV test? Were you forced to, were you ill, was it at the start of a new relationship, was it one of the requirements for a new job... ?
-Are you or someone you know HIV positive?
-From your experience or that of someone close to you, do people (attitudes/personalities) change when they find out they're HIV positive or do they carry on as they always have?
-What has been the reaction of prospective lovers/suitors on first hearing that one is HIV positive?
-Generally whether positive or not, is there anything you'd like to share or know about HIV & AIDS, let's talk about these on this forum. 


  1. Thelma I was scared too. It was when I was getting married I did my first test because I didn't have a choice. I was very scared and I don't even know why because I was a very good girl.

  2. Do you know your HIV status?
    --- Yes I Do

    How and why did you go for your first HIV test? Were you forced to, were you ill, was it at the start of a new relationship, was it one of the requirements for a new job... ?
    --- In camp(NYSC), I just walked into the testing center and got tested. I went because iv always wanted to know my status. I just thought it was the responsible and sensible thing to do. Cuz HIV is not gotten only through sex.

    Are you or someone you know HIV positive?
    I am HIV negative, and I don't know anyone who is.

    Generally whether positive or not, is there anything you'd like to share or know about HIV & AIDS, let's talk about these on this forum....
    --- Generally, I'd like to say everyone should get tested, whether you're sexually active or not. (I say that cuz a lot of people think it's just an STI or God's punishment to those that fornicate(or have multiple partners) and as such they can't test positive if they don't have sex with one or multiple partners. Or you've never had a blood transfusion... but there are several other ways one can contract HIV. The earlier(you get tested) the better. A lot of people are living fine with it... and there's a chance of a more prolonged and better quality of life as opposed to if you don't take it at all. I also know the ARVs have side effects... so it's not a walk in the park but you'll be fine. (the negative I know)

  3. So I heard 2day is world Aids day 4rm one of my BBM contacts dz morning and that free HIV test is available everywere and I jes walked down 2 dz Gv hospital near me and did my test for the umpteenth time and it turned out negerive. Yay! So yeah Thelma, I know my status. *shines teeth* Did my first HIV test in 2006 whn my then company made it mandatory on us lol. It scared d 5hit outta me then like it was a death sentence, but I was happy whn d results came and I was negetaive. I don't know anybody having HIV right now, and I've never met any HIV patient b4 save for one of my aunts and she died some couple of years ago.
    Get tested 4 HIV pple esp. if u are sexually active. It gives u peace of mind!

  4. I do not know my status.
    I know people who are positive but live fine. The drugs give them depression though..
    I will get tested one day.

    1. Is it because you're afraid that you haven't tested?

    2. Ruby berra get tested asap....I check mine every 3months... TNHW

    3. I dunno why I haven't done a test. I will try to. I'm not afraid.
      @Yetunde, you do not look you.

    4. How did u imagine I'd look?...tell me...

  5. Please what are the risks in marrying somebody with HIV and how can you have children without getting infected?

  6. Risk in marrying an HIV patient is that you may get infected, u can't share some personal stuffs e.g blade, tooth brush. You will have to have protected sex except when u wanna make babies. If the patient's viral load is undetectable, u may have unprotected sex for d sake of making babies.

  7. I've checked mine a lot of times and I'm negative, I know someone who's positive and she even works in the health dept in a hospital, married sometime ago and has a healthy boy. I've never been scared of goin for the test and I wasn't the careful type, I think my name should be mercy. Lol okbye

  8. I know my Status, am HIV negative. I know lots of people with HIV because I work in HIv clinic. HIV is not a death sentence.

  9. I dnt knw my scared as hell,waiting for the results can make me die literally
    I personally dnt knw any1 with Aids\hiv

  10. how a HIV patient marries a HIV negative person and they have healthy kids is stil a little mystery to me.
    I'm negative by the way and have no problem with HIV positve people

  11. Ran a test early September, came out negative. Praise master Jesus! My hugs and kisses to those living with HIV, Miracles still happens. Be strong!

  12. Don't know my status. Yet to go for any tests.
    Maybe I would one of these days.

    I don't know anyone living with HIV. Well not like they would tell you if they are.

    **Its laughable when you see someone very critical about sharing sharp objects for fear of getting the virus but ends up having unprotected sex with multiple who does that#rme#


  13. The first time I had the test was at work kai see fear oh,it's not like I had unprotected sex or anything but the fear! I am negative,yes I know a few pple that are positive I think society should stop discrimination

  14. Have never done the test o *deepsigh*

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  16. Ibiye George7:28 pm, December 01, 2014
    I know my status and no, I wasn't forced to do it. Got tested because I was about going into the university in 2012.I went with my elder sister and I wasn't scared at all cos I knew I didn't have any skeleton in my cupboard. lol. I don't know anyone living with the virus but my best friend works in a hospital and he gives me jist about some people with it, their stories and how they got it. I really feel for anyone with the virus. God help us! I don't believe in the use of protection for sex. I PREACH TOTAL ABSTEINANCE. Be wise!

  17. Know my status? O yea! First got tested during free tests while at uni; walked in asked for it (was nervous sha o). Did another one at the end of a relationship d next yr n have had at least one yearly since.
    Have had close encounters with few people who were/are HIV+; family, friends n acquaintances. Except for in the beginning, before I was aware of their status or they just found out, they were/are pretty normal behaviorally.
    On d reaction of friends n SOs, it usually varies based on the mindset n exposure of the people; a friend got infected working the lab prior to meeting her hubby n that didn't deter them, another did via an unfortunate postnatal transfusion from a regularly used donor n her hubby left!
    On a general note I would say get tested, stay tested. Be safe; abstain, be faithful or wrap that shii up. N don't discriminate (cos that's what makes ignorant folks hide their status n go on a 'sharing spree'. Udo!

  18. I know my status, the first time I checked was in 2008 200level, I was actually pushed by friends to check, they were running free tests in school at the time. Initially I was telling myself it would be fun to just check,but when I got there, fear gripped me, what if I have God. Anyway I don't know anyone that has


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