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Can I be honest?

The worst things about being in a relationship with me are

- I prefer to eat out. It's not that I don't or can't cook but I'd just rather eat out. My mother gave me the "the way to a man's heart" lecture just last night. She told me how she made egusi soup with okpei (don't know the word for it in English) and served it to a customer. She said after the man ate the food he came to meet her and said "Mummy what did you put in that soup? Okpei? Hmmm, mummy why is it that my wife doesn't know all these little things? Why doesn't she know these little little secrets? Mummy, why?" My mum said she could see pain in his eyes, she could see that he was completely heartbroken (Mummy the drama queen! LOL), "...So Nwando, you really need to start doing these things, it's the first thing every man looks out for in a woman" (I don't believe it jor). 
      But my oga recently told one of my friends "I really really like your friend but she just has to start cooking, I'm an African man". Please what's it with Nigerian men and this 'I'm an African man' talk. Allow me to hear word biko. LOL.

BUT I'm already working on this, so I guess it's not the worst thing anymore...

The list goes on but I shall stop here.

Et tu?


  1. Thelma you better listen to your mum. She knows what she is talking about. The worst thing about dating me is circumcision. I don't enjoy sex one bit.

  2. I will mention all... cuz I can't call one "worst"

    1. Uhmmmnnn, i'm very sensitive! Super sensitive! I can deduce 10 things from just one thing you say even if you didn't mean(or imply) 1 out of the 10.

    2. We can be having fun now and you'll say somfn and everything wie just end... like my mood wie just change. End of fun time

    3. I won't do wifely duties for any fiance.. for those that expect it. sex, washing, cleaning... name it.

    4. I can be lazy! Chai! Even I know that!

    5. Iv never kissed someone and I don't like when people do.. looks very irritating to if he likes the kissing tin... he is probably on his own. it'll take time to get used to. Soo he'll wait awhile which he might not like.

    1. So please what do you bring to the table #inThelmasvoice ?

    2. Lol. Anon you better work on yourself, some girls are 100% and they're still single and searching, you're only 30% and you're saying all this proudly. U better buckle up.

    3. Lols,u guys wld be shocked that there are guys willing to die on top her matter

    4. xxx and Queen, that's for me to know and my "partner" to find out...

      Anon thanks for your "concern", I wasn't talking "proudly". I believe the post was about saying all those things. Thanks for giving me a 30%! That was mighty kind of you.

    5. 1 and 2 are dangerous! Please see a mental health specialist ASAP before you really mess things up.

  3. I don't enjoy my cooking (I lose my appetite after cooking) so feeds who?
    Most women experience this but their men are insensitive to it. All they know is Cook,cook,cock. If she don't eat her own cooking,where's the strength to make the next meal which is in a few hours time?

    As for that man,all I wld say is there are a lot of secret ingredients out there. Her mum taught her the one she knows. No woman can know and cook with all the "secret ingredients"

  4. Mood swings, I can want to be alone sometimes.

  5. Mood swings, I can want to be alone sometimes.

  6. Mmmm...can't think of anything now

    In too much pains to think straight.

  7. The Worst thing about dating me?

    I'm sarcastic to a fault, The man has to be Uber intelligent not to feel insulted.

    I'm gonna taunt U with my OCD.

    I hate going out. I prefer getting a projector at home with popcorn & coke. Seeing a movie in my sweats than dolling up to the cinema...

  8. Worst thing about dating me, I'm not a very emotional person, I don't like PDA, lovey dovey things or too much emotions. It can be very hard to be with me if you're not patient. I guess not everybody was created to love. I'm not sure I love myself how much more another person?

    1. Lmao, about this love thing, I am always wondering if I really know how to love. Like how do you know when you are in love? Some people describe feelings I have never felt..yet I know I love my boyfriend

  9. Ah it's long oo. Sometimes I wonder why my boyfriend wants to die on top my matter
    - I do not believe in sex before marriage
    - I am not really into makeup and looking dolled up if you want a constant beauty queen..sorry
    - I am a lazy girl (well used to be in 2014)
    - I don't like all this 'I am an african man' type of men. I believe humans should be able to cook , clean and do all sorts for themselves by themselves. Don't come and delegate everything to me because I have a different reproductive organ than you.

    And many more that I shall not someone doesn't ask what I bring to the table. Even if I bring nothing, I am not forcing you to sit at the table with me, am I?

  10. The question ..what do you bring to the table keeps haunting me, none has ever asked me. But I am really worried. My new year resolution is to get closer to God and find out from him, coz right now all I see are flaws. To the ladies who know, please how did you find out?

    1. Knowing and serving God is a whole lot to bring to the table! All you see are flaws but God sees a vessel that can be used.

    2. I dnt know y I'm feeling like i knw@ wale. Do u attend HICC?

  11. Omo, they are plenty..

    1) I dont cook unless i absolutely have too. Its not like i cant cook (although i'm not a "fantastic" cook) i know my way around a kitchen and wont die of food poisoning if i had to cook everyday.

    2) I have these really annoying mood swings.

    3) Like anon above, i can read 5 different meanings into whatever you tell me, it drives me crazy trying to figure out whether to take your words at face value or one of the many deduced meanings. So i can vex at whatever you say

    4) I can be very pessimistic

    5) pre marital sex is a no no

    6) I'd rather curl up on my bed with a good book than hang out at the cinema or someplace else (working on this tho)

    Ati be be lo...

  12. Ruthy, that sarcasm part is so me. Some friends say I should have a Bsc in sarcasm and bluntness #lol# also I like wahakao. Kai. Step on my toes when I give you a loooong rope, and watch me eat you up. My SO calls me mama palaver. And I don't like to sleep things over, no matter how late it is or how tired you are, we must stay up and talk about it.

  13. I can be disorganized! That's about the worst thing apart from the fact that I easily (unconsciously) raise my voice when in an argument/angry and I could be very stubborn. Also, I love to be indoor.

    Oh, one more thing: I could be very impatient especially with guys who are not super intelligent. I could say some very hurtful things sometimes.


    1. So F are you my clone? J

  14. Why are you all going all hard on ANON 10:28pm, even to the extent of saying she is a 30% Yard material. Please one man's meat is another man's poison. Besides you all judging her did not even say your own bad parts. She already knows its bad Anonymous. The best you would have done, is to encourage her to change not to castigate her biko.

    Anyways, the worst thing about dating me is that when i love, i love deeply and if care is not taken i could overwhelm my SO so much that he will think am crazy.

  15. Worst to about me is that I jump in to conclusions too much. My mind travels so one thing and I don conclude am for my mind. I once dated a guy. Na only date o yet my mind had concluded n made up the scene of where and how he will propose. As in its dt bad. Really dnt knw hw to stop my mind from travelling


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