There’s something I’d like to share with you and I won’t mind if you share it with the BVs just so I can hear their thoughts too.
There’s this man in my office, I knew him whilst I was an intern, and he was one of those ‘ogas’. Of course as an intern, everyone is your oga and you accord them the necessary respect. Currently, I work for the company and he still works there. The first time he saw me after a long while, he expressed surprise at how big iv grown and of course that was a normal reaction after 3years. But he had this look on his face… you know… that predator look but I just ignored it and felt I was just overthinking things. Subsequently, anytime we meet and I stretch out my hand to shake him, he’ll pull me into a loose hug which I also felt was fine because it felt like one of those egbon to aburo hugs. I know I can be very naïve and I’m very inexperienced when it comes to gauging men, but I just didn't feel comfortable with the look on his face. But I kept telling myself to stop being paranoid and just be myself.
So today, I saw him downstairs before breakfast, we exchanged pleasantries, he hugged me as usual and we parted ways. Later on, he and a group of friends met me in the elevator and he did something. He drummed his fingers on my hip, turned and continued like nothing happened. It came across as playful but I felt sooo uncomfortable. Now, I don’t know… am I being paranoid or do I have something to worry about. Okay, if I’m not being paranoid, how do I react? I can’t be rude to him because he is an oga… so if I truly have a problem on my hand, how do I handle this ‘situation’… the company is big and I’m not in his department but still… I have to be careful.. so what can I do?
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