Dear Thelma please I need your advice and that of your blog readers. I started dating my boyfriend about three months ago although he started asking me out over five years now. For one reason or another I never said yes to him because I never believed he wanted a serious relationship. Eventually I agreed three months ago and I'm loving him more and more every day. I am in my late 20s and he is mid 30s and I know he will like to settle down soon and I'm really hoping that he will propose to me this year. I know he cares about me and he said he wants something very serious with me, but I am worried about something.
3 years ago I met one man who offered to give me a ride somewhere. We exchange numbers and started talking and I learnt that he is very rich. He started disturbing him to come and see him and spend the night with him but I refused because he is a married man and he is old too, about 50 years of age. One time I became very broke, I had not found a job then and I couldn't even afford to buy food stuff or recharge card so out of desperation I agreed to go and see the man. After sleeping with me he gave me 40k and we didn't see again after that but he told people that he slept with me (my town is a small town). Now it turns out that this man is my boyfriend's uncle's best friend and the man has told my boyfriend's uncle and all their friends and other men in their family that he slept with me and paid me. I asked my boyfriend about it and he said when he heard it he was very hurt, that he almost felt like crying, but this was before I agreed to date him.
Now that we are dating I am very confused. Do you think my boyfriend can still carry me to his people as the girl he wants to marry? Can my boyfriend overlook what I did and make me his wife, and even if he can try to overlook it won't he be ashamed that everybody knows that his wife slept with one of his married uncles for money? Please do you think I am wasting my time, if you are a man will you still marry me? I am not a bad person but I was desperate and now I am scared that my boyfriend will dump me when he realize that his family will make him laughing stock if he brings me home as wifey. Advise please, should I just break up with him and move on or do I have hope?