Good evening people. This came as a call not a mail but basically the blog reader wants me to ask you all, especially the married among us a question or two. She and her boo have been dating for a few months although they've been friends for much longer than that. She lives in the east and he lives in Lagos. He has a regular 9 to 5 while she's still job hunting but has a small business she's doing in the east. In the course of their brief relationship she has gone to see him at least once for a few days every month while he has gone to see her just once because of his busy work schedule, and also because it's more economical, in that when she goes over to see him she stays in his house but when he comes to see her he has to lodge in a hotel and eat out. She's meant to travel to Lagos to see him this weekend and when she informed her mum about this, her mum gave her the go-ahead but said that she should stay in either her aunty or her friend's place; "it's ok to spend time with him during the day or in the evenings, it's also Ok to cook a few meals for him, but sleeping over is a NO-NO. Do not go and cheapen yourself like that".
This has got the blog reader thinking; will staying in her boyfriend's house for a week or two, cooking for him and helping him clean up, and have sex with him make her appear cheap in his eyes?
Does it make a difference if she stays there as she usually does, or if she stays at her friend's place and just spend a little time with him when he gets back from work in the evening? Would this, perhaps, raise the value and respect he has for her?