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Discipline Or Destruction of Self-Esteem. What Do You Think? (plus Blog Reader Asks)




I'm sure we've all seen these viral  pictures of the little boy who was given the grown-up kids special haircut? I think it's a creative way to discipline a child, especially in a society that does not condone or accept physical discipline. The pictures are funny and the look on the child's face is darn priceless. But I can't help but wonder, in a society where there's so much bullying and egos and self-esteem is quite fragile, would doing this not result in more harm than good? Would you give your little one the grown-up kids special haircut?


This brings me to a question someone asked me to make a post. She said to ask the house, especially the parents among us, how one can best discipline children besides flogging them. Some kids are so difficult and the whole "go sit in a corner", "go stay in your room", just doesn't cut it with them. So especially for those who don't believe in using the rod, how best do you discipline (difficult) kids and get result?




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  1. Hahahahhahaha. It is so funny sha. Me I can't stand all these children's smesme. I will flog you when u eff up, talk to you when necessary, and still hug you after everything. I love my Lil brother to bits, but he is a handful. D days I beat him I take my time to do so. So when he acts up and I give him the look he will rearrange. How these people say talk alone wee cure some children's crase I don't know!!! Let the punishment be equal to the crime. That's all. Deprive him of some treats, fav. TV programme, outing, games etc. That is for simple offenses o. But if a child comes and tells me ' go to hell mum, I will show him the way to hell first. Do u know if a well fed baby who doesn't want to go to toilet and isn't uncomfortable keeps on crying, the truth is that baby wants to sleep? Sleep they won't, stop crying they won't. Beg they won't hear. When I get to that stage, I beat the child very well, and the child just goes straight to sleep. We all have peace. Some children just want to test their parents patience. I have like 7niecess/nephews, so I know all these. Their mum's (my sisters) know I don't have patience for rubbish, and they also know I don't beat them unnecessarily so we have never had issues. Sometimes when I think about my children I even become sorry for them, cos the beating they will receive if they mess up ehn... I see some kids messing up outside in their parents presence, and I feel like beating their mum's in addition to the children. lol. My hubby will def be a calm person sha, cos too of us can't be doing the beating. Lol #this is MHO#

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    1. La effizy ,a million likes for this...I flog my three year old son and sometimes ask him to kneel down oh...And he knows what he has done is bad,so he says am sorry mommy..

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    2. La effizy just spoke my mind here
      Spot on!

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    3. "Mtcheeew. if you like vote, if you like don't vote. When you inherit the earth biko just help me take care of our family house (lwkmd)" - Lae effizy,ur just a clown!

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    4. La effizy,your head is there.I really don't get how some parents or guardians will just sit down & watch a child rotten.I don't take nonsense from any child.I see some children outside & the way they misbehave just makes me wonder..God help us.

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    6. May God help this generation of kids oo

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  2. It's my sister's Traditional marriage today..so excited! You all are invited.

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  3. I love what that barber did...Lol,the kid can like to feel bad about it or actually form his grown up man well
    The look on his face thou

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  4. Like la effizy rightly said,let "the punishment be equal to the crime"......that's all

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  5. The kin beating wey I receive sha, For nothing oh.
    Some I deserved, others were just cruel.
    My kids will have the best of both worlds.
    Enough Pampering, Enough beating!
    They must behave.

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  6. Hahahahah, sasha lemme o. #shines teeth#

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  7. I will talk to you. But if you're slow in responding, the flying backhand will fire your Pistons. And get you moving. My brother, inspite of our best intentions, has gone to the Dark Side. I've learned that when you see the child paying attention to the Dark Light, you turn his head. With your mouth, hand, psychology or tough love. The boy in this photo will never forget this. He has learned something. Once they fall into the Dark Side, that's it. People can call me wicked. My boys, must turn out right. Even if they lose a limb.

    Mallama

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  8. I couldn't view the picture earlier. Awwww... this is both funny and not funny. La Effizzy has fine justice to the question.

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  9. I don't know the kind of options to give to a parent who doesn't believe in flogging a child. In my opinion, some kids are so critical that the only thing which brings them back to their senses during those periods of 'indiscretion' is proportionate beating (i.e. not going overboard with the flogging)

    -F

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  10. I couldn't stop laughing to "go sit in a corner", "go to your room".... It's not only go sit in a corner, it's go sit in a circle. The only corner I sat was when am done being beaten and now crying off the last phase of pain. My child will not sit in a corner, circle, square or rectangle. According to his/her sin, s/he will be beaten, s/he will kneel down, pick pin and even fetch the cane for his/her own flogging.

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