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Issues. Yours, Mine and Ours. (Everybody Talks!!!)

Good evening TTB readers. Where have I been all day? I feel like I just blanked out, hope I don't have an alter ego who took over... Ok, I'm sure I don't. So y'all know I'm all about interactions, right? I guess it's the one reason I ask so many questions, because I really want to know you better and I want to get you to talk about things that are MEANINGFUL. Meaningful, i.e things that actually matter to you and not about other people's lives. So I thought about something and I'm very curious to know how this plays out, PLUS I think it might actually end up being helpful for some of us. 

So here's what we're going to do. Share a personal problem in your comment and anybody gets to leave an advice or opinion under it. When you're replying to someone's comment, please don't talk about your own personal problem in that comment, but in a fresh comment. Ok? 

So I'll start this thread! Who's game?


  1. So, I know the boo really cares about me, and I know he makes a lot of effort. But... I sometimes feel like we don't have a lot of things in common. Like, if we end up together is this something that could affect our relationship in the long run, how important is it for (married) couples to have things in common?

    1. Thelma if he really cares a lot abt u then you guys can work on it and build common interests. Stop looking for faults in every Man U date. Just sayin

    2. Ma,What effort have you made?Don't loose 80% looking for 20%. Meanwhile it's important to have common interests and if you don't please find a common ground.

    3. My husband and I don't have a lot in common in the way of recreation although we talk to each other a lot, several times a day. It would not make or break your relationship, in my opinion. However, if you feel otherwise, you can suggest a past-time that you can both enjoy and cultivate it.

    4. Hubby is I a social butterfly. I like to lie on my couch. He loves having people over. I like it to be just us. He's a political animal. I avoided government like the plague in high school. But 16 yrs later we're still going strong ad it's because we were both willi to compromise. I'm ok to go out every now and again and he's ok to just stay in as a family. I'm ok to take road trips every now and again and he's ok to fly ever so often. I developed interest in politics and now fully understand the terrain. And while he may not know all there is to the medical field, he shows a healthy interest. Having common interests is good but showing interest in each other's lives and being willing to meet halfway is even better!

    5. Well said @ Nubian princess. Ever heard the saying that 'unlike (temperament) attracts'. Asides care which takes preeminence, interest is key. You would later find an activity that is mutually beneficial to you both and also refreshing. That's what care does. Also, having a spouse/partner with a different outlook to things enables one to see the world through another set of eyes, mind ... and often this can be stimulating providing a better view of life and also strengthening the relationship

  2. Another thing I'd like your opinions on. What's the best passive way to invest less than 300,000 naira?

    1. Fixed deposit or bonds.


    2. Fixed deposit in Nigeria is rubbish. Very little interest. I fixed 400K in gtb last year and they give me btw N1,800- 2,000 as interest monthly. It's too small na.
      Someone told me about wonderful investment plans with Mansard insurance. They have 1, 2 or 3 yrs plan and they pay very good interest. I will explore it, maybe you should too.

    3. Fixed deposit or bonds are safer investments and thus less profitable means of making returns.
      Investing depends on a lot of things that are important to you like how long you can set aside the money, how much time you can set aside to learn the rudiments of any venture you are investing in and many more (wouldn't want to bore you with too much details).
      For Higher yield: look out for shares (although I must say you'd need to learn the ropes to make something profitable out of it), I hear forex is also profitable though time consuming.

      Aside from doing business with physical infrastructure, online businesses are more profitable ventures for the wise and hardworking since they are more stabilized as against the harsh realities of doing business in the Nigerian economy

    4. You can trade with ur money too. It's a Very common tool people use. Anyone looking to borrow will pay back with reasonable interest. Strictly business..

  3. Thelma thanks for this post, great idea. Please how do you cope with a very demanding husband? We both have 8 to 5 jobs but he wants me home before him and serve freshly made food everyday, and we have two children. When I serve him food that I made one or two days ago he will throw a tantrum and go to bed hungry or eat out. Should I just ignore him and let him eat out? What can I do?

    1. I'm not teaching your bad thing o. But it's obvious you are trying your best. IF you keep trying and he's still throwing tantrums. One day on your way home just eat and clean mouth, make sure you belle full. When you get home make sure you feed the kids and tuck them in bed. Then set about to making his dinner. Just sneeze and fall down while at it. IF he doesn't see or hear you fall. He will be expecting his food and meet you on the floor. If he pours you water open your eye small. By then food should be burning. Just be saying the food. The food. By this time he should be worried more about your health and carry you to bed. LET ME KNOW HOW THIS ONE GOES I'LL GIVE YOU SECOND ACT!!

    2. Hahahahahahahahahahaaaa! Anonymous rider! And you're not teaching her bad thing!!!! Lmaoooooo! I see! Sorry for breaking the rule thelma! *kisses*

    3. Lol..really funny reply, just like nollywood. Some husbands need to calm down and realise their wives aren't machines/slaves.
      Let him continue with his tantrums, one day he go "taya" n calm down. Very unrealistic, selfish and unreasonable demand!!!

    4. I beg of u..Please don't start that "freshly made meal" routine. Ull end up dying in silence, n it may be too late before he realises his selfishness.

  4. Hi T,I really don't know a lot about having things in common n all but I found this blog today she talks about relationship,marriages n co n everything in connection with God's word,try checking it out ,but personally I feel having things in common makes things easier like you get to understand eachother n avoid some unneccessary quarrels that will come up

  5. Please how can I try to start giving bae blowjobs seeing as it's so important? Somebody said something about whipped cream in that other post, tell me more. Also r there any health risk?

    1. Practice with a banana. Make sure he's your only bae so u don't end up with any stds. You can put a cap of irish cream in your mouth while you give him the BJ. If you want you can buy lubes from a phamarcy. Strawberry flavour is nice. NO TEETH. USE TONGUE AND LIPS. GOODLuck.

    2. Dunno why i can't stand BJs. I've got very small mouth. Can't kill myself.

  6. As for the Boo, ask your self, DO u really like /love him, it's solves half of your problem. Do u see him as the one, if yes, then you can work around the other short comings. No one is gonna tick all ur boxes babe, does he make u happy?. Yes/No? Clare

  7. The Hubstar issue isn't funny at all, didn't you know he was a "fresh food kinda guy" when u were dating? My sister married a guy like that, when she nearly died of exhaustion in the market, she advised herself, guess what, the husband is still alive, cos he now eats what she can fix for him.

    In my case I applied the "I'm gonna faint' method, mr hubby, went as far as banning me from going to the market and went as far as getting me an online platform where I can shop from.

    Don't indulge ur hubby cos you will be the "sufferer" in the long run. Do the best you can and make sure your health isn't compromised. Remember your kids need their mother.

  8. The Hubstar issue isn't funny at all, didn't you know he was a "fresh food kinda guy" when u were dating? My sister married a guy like that, when she nearly died of exhaustion in the market, she advised herself, guess what, the husband is still alive, cos he now eats what she can fix for him.

    In my case I applied the "I'm gonna faint' method, mr hubby, went as far as banning me from going to the market and went as far as getting me an online platform where I can shop from.

    Don't indulge ur hubby cos you will be the "sufferer" in the long run. Do the best you can and make sure your health isn't compromised. Remember your kids need their mother.

  9. T and TTB readers please how do you deal with office politics? Some colleagues are worse than the devil and bad mouth others to get ahead. Do you suggest playing dirty or being good and hoping it pays off one day?its just that being good in the kind of office I work may land u @ d bottom.

    1. Identify the core stakeholders in the office - your direct boss, the HR person that does training/appraisal/promotion, the one or two people that should always have your back and you also need.
      Strive to maintain a good, warm yet professional relationship with them
      Always be diligent at your work. Do your reports on time, deliver as at when needed etc
      Ignore the 'office politics colleague', they'd eventually get tired when they see no feedback from you.

      P.S. In the end, nothing triumphs like real work. It might be slow and tiring but it is worry free.

    2. Chrisyinks u couldn't have said it any better.

    3. In addition to Chrisyinks's advise, it seems you are not cut out for such dirty politics, therefore I advise you don't join them as it may backfire very badly


  10. My own problem is I don't know what to do with my life. Everyone is talking about purpose and passion. I actually don't have any passion. I wish I could make money from visiting blogs. Even after getting uni degree I don't know what to do.

    The worst part is I really don't know who to talk to, so I don't come across as someone with no future ambition.
    P.s I studied business management.
    To the people who enjoy their work/ have purpose, pls how did you find out what you enjoy.

    1. Shy girl it's as if I'm the one that wrote your comment. No passion or purpose and I'm always praying to God to show me my purpose but so far nothing has happened. I don't even know what I want to do with my life.

    2. Well, don't allow too much worry about the whole brouhaha about purpose/passion.

      With time one discovers one's true passion. Some discover it early in life, others much later in life.

      I think it is more of one's responsibility to find one's passion rather than God's (this does not discount the essence of God in finding and fulfilling purpose).

      Your passion might be something society considers trivial. So don't get hung up on the idea that it has to be grandeur for it to be sellable to others as your passion.

      Most times, it helps to take an introspective look at your life - what memories stand out, what takes up much of your time, what do you enjoy doing even withoug getting paid, what would you like your favorite day/week to entail, what's that stuff that drives you even when you are weary etc. Usually your answers to these questions would have a common denominator and therein lies your interest. With a bit of sieving, you'd find your passion.

      Also purpose/passion discovery to me is a life time endeavour. It's good one discovers one's purpose early, but as we grow, we become more aware of our capabilities and thus refine our purpose/passion. Start even if you have to start small!

      Also read books - the purpose driven life etc. (Not the biggest fan of books so can't help with you with listing the effective ones)

    3. Hey, I feel your pain. It was easy for me to find my passion as a musician cos just by watching TV, i knew I wanted to play the piano like that guy, rap like that guy..and so I tried it and discovered I also had the gift for it and that's what I want to spend my life doing.
      Try and think of anything you love doing and no, you can't be a Professional Blogreader, and to my cousin, you can't be a Professional Pornwatcher...but I digress..
      Not everyone must have a "passion", its possible that you are built for the conventional 9to5 jobs, embrace that and be the best employee ever. If you didn't absolutely hate your course while you were at the university, then its probably not a bad fit for you...try and find ways to make it interesting for yourself...wish you all the best.

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    5. Was like you last year. Confused and all. Just get a job first and I think from there you can figure out what you like and not then invest in it. It's good to pray but you have to do your part by going out there. Volunteer, or a job and things will start making sense. Don't wait, start acting.

  11. I'm so upset. Why will a guy I am getting to know and we are flowing very very well suddenly just stop talking to me.. no messages, no calls nothing!!
    Please who has this happened to before?? I am still baffled and very upset about this. Just like that o haba! I feel like demanding for an explanation but we weren't dating ( I thought we were getting there) so I can't even demand for an explanation.
    Why do guys do this?? It's so so annoying!!

    1. There are a number of reasons I can think of;
      1. He's just not that into you.
      2. He's in a relationship.
      3. He's not ready for a relationship.
      4. He has too many options and either;
      a- enjoys all the attention a bit too much
      b- can't decide who he wants to date
      c- all of the above
      d- none of the above
      5. You were moving too fast for him and freaked him out.
      6. He fell into a well and hasn't been able to climb out.
      7. Has a tiny peepee and is scared of pursuing a relationship with you so you don't find out.
      8. Just found out he has a calling and is currently registering at the Seminary.
      9. He's interested in someone else.
      10. None of the above.

      BUT I think since you guys were friends and were getting along really well then you should ask him 'what's up, is everything ok? Are we cool? Is something wrong? Is there something I should know?'. Notice I said "ask" and not "demand an explanation", because as you already know, he owes you none.
      Well if you ask and he either
      I. Gives no answer
      II. Gives no sensible answer
      Then I think you should look at No. 1 above and move on. If and when he wants you he WILL make the effort to get you. Don't bother your pretty head trying to understand why men do some things they do, only this guy can tell you why the sudden change, and that's if he even knows. *rme*.

    2. At Adaobi I feel your pain , i'm in the same position. This dude ive been talking just stopped picking calls . He likes my pictures on Instagram, repli

    3. Tee you really like to write. Lol. Adaobi please forget about him, we've all experienced men like this and there's never any explanation so just move on. I know it's easier said than done but for your own good, move on.

    4. T has said it all. Thumbs up!!

    5. Thanks a lot for the replies. I feel so u
      Much better already. Lol @ joining the seminary and having a tiny weeny. You guys rock majorly. I have decided to just let it go, I won't even ask him anything.
      I need to get myself a blog ID and join the family well.

    6. hmmmm, Adaobi r you sure u r not d lady my boo became friends with???? cos he told me 'baby na remember dt girl i met, Ada, that i told u about. smart girl but not as smart as you shes taking things too far, you need to see my call log n msgs (mayb whatsaap or bbm, dunno) when i reduced communication with her. why do girls do that? i told her i have my baby n love her.... well, av stopped communicating with her sha.... apparently she wants more n it cant be from me. lolz atleast he called u smart. move on dear guyz r just like that leading ladies on unnecessarily.

    7. Lol pls i'm not the lady o. Adaobi isn't even my name it's just a pseudonym I like to use because i'm the first daughter.
      Secondly I never ever bombard any guy. I'm not the needy clingy sorta girl. This was just annoying cos one day we were having a good conversation flow and the next day he just went off the radar. I'm over it anyway!
      So my dear no be me o, keep searching for the Ada and may she not snatch ur man.

  12. Crazy network, he replied my new year msg and talked bou wanting to have a wonderful new year with me . But im yet to hear from him. Guys are just weird , so i give up . Well for now.

    1. Seriously babe, keep living ur life like he never existed. It's no use trying to figure out how d male species have their brains wired. Men love mysteries, so very soon ur silence will become mysterious to him n he'll come back trying to figure things out..that's if it won't be too late for him by then.

  13. I didn't want the comments to end. *Huge grin*
    I Loved reading everyone of them.

    U'all give sensible/practical advice to real life problems.

    As for me, My Love life is always a Dilemma. The wrong person loving me so right that I could pass out from feeling too loved up & the right person whom I love loving me so wrong that I could be arrested for premeditated murder!!!

    Seriously life could be a lil less ironic. Just a tad bit. Haba!!!
    *Hope I no break any rule oh*

  14. My comments never appear*sad much*

  15. Where do I start from? I made a resolution to stop complaining about my non-existent love life but damn,it's sooooo hard. I know I need to focus on my career and goals but sometimes I can't help worrying. Will I remain buried in my work? Will I ever find someone?


    1. At least there's a probable cause for your nonexistent love life, most of us don't have that advantage or the luxury of knowing why we have no love life. You know the reason for yours and that's great because it means you can do something about it. In life we need to be able to strike a balance, Mr Man isn't going to come dig out your head from underneath the pile of work that you've buried it in. Your career is your priority and that's understandable but take some time to smell the roses and live a little. HOWEVER, there's no guaranty that you'll find love or it will find you, it's a very very rare commodity these days.

  16. When both of my parents are troubling me to either get married or Have Kids and I'm just in my Mid-twenties. I can understand cos I'm the Only child of my Mother. But are these pressures really necessary especially when you are so focused on making something Big out of your life and the distractions you are getting is 'when are you getting married' 'I want you to introduce me to your "wife(?)"' 'Okay, atleast try and get someone pregnant'.... Like WTF mehn! And yet I'm not talking abt the same parent being against your dreams & aspirations by telling you to come and join the crowd in being a 'Doctor' 'Masters holder (in God knows Course)' etc. *sigh*
    I'm sure thelma knows who this is.

    Like where do I go from here? They are all I've got, I'm not close to any Relative e.g. Cousins, Uncle. Its Me nd My Parents and I'm alone.

    1. Anon 9:57am what I have learnt about parents when it comes to conflict btwn what you want n what they want is to stand your ground in what you believe you want n most importantly do it well n succeed ,in the end they will have to agree with you n will end up being proud of you if you r doing very well n about marriage its a Nigerian thing given that you are an only child it will b worst sef but just tell them you are not ready and dnt let it bug you just focus on doing your thing n pray about it God will take control

    2. I SURE know who this is.hhahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhaah.

      Sorry Dear,the hustle for you to become a Daddy and HORSEband is damn real.
      Forgive me for laughing bet i jes kent staaaaaaaaap
      Epah do'mo.

    3. As much as you have your aspirations and plans about life which you wouldn't want to trade, I'd advise you accomodate your parents need from you. Afterall, you mentioned they are all you've got.

      To be specific with my advise, you can do the following:
      Tell them how long you need till you get married. Be specific - a year, 2 years or more.
      Allow them to come up with ladies they think should be your spouse. You can go on a date with such ladies to see if they tick your boxes and not necessarily date them.
      Talk about wedding plans with them and what you'd like the wedding day to be - guest list, venue, food, colour of the day, cost concerns etc
      Discuss with them what they'd desire in an ideal daughter-in-law etc

      You just need to show them you are making some effort and that should keep them at bay.

  17. Thelma why do you like some ttb better than others? av noticed this from your replies and post. is it because some dont call or email you? or am i wrong?

    1. Jealousy don start o.. Mummy Thelma oya answer.

    2. Noticed this too. Even with a post she did recently

    3. Anon 10.00am, I think u asked a question and you rightly gave a correct answer to the question. She's seen and known commenters even way before she started the blog(some are even her neighbours), wat do u want her to do? Forget abt them or ignore them wen they make comments? If u want her to know you better, do as U've answered, her Fone nos. And email are available to U 24/7. Call! Mail!

    4. Uyi your reply is so wrong,FYI not everybody has to get personal with blog owners.
      The fact that you and I call or mail Thelma doesn't mean everybody should before they are given audience or recognition on the blog.
      Since you claim the people she replies are family and friends then blog readers who aren't friends or family should not visit or comment on the blog.

    5. Anon 10.00am your comment amuses me because I don't know, have never spoken to or exchanged mails with any of the people I've replied in this post. I appreciate ALL my readers because there are a million blogs on the blogosphere but somehow they still find time for TTB. I'm not aware that I like some more than others.

    6. thanks @Bloggitup i cldnt have answered Uyi any better than you did.
      Thelma, its not jealousy ooo its just what i noticed n as u can see others attest to it. some posts might have few exceptions just like this one as u pointed out. but is what it is...! i love thelmathinks n it wont stop me from commenting. you say talk and av talks my mind. shikenan.

    7. Haba, Bloggitup! Wat did I say wrong?
      But everyone is given 'audience and recognition' on the blog. Even anonymous commenters. If u Read her comment and mine again, u wud notice I was referring to her saying she Likes some commenters more(btw, I don't even count mysef as a commenter she likes or 'dislikes'). She welcomes everyone with both arms in here. I repeat, I have never ecountered anyform of 'favoritism'. But when some1 feels that she's not getting more attention, and she's got an inference on why that is. Then do wat u feel would get u dat 'attention' u crave. Everyone is her friend here, but She's not God and neither shud she be treated as one. She's trying abeg! I'm sure u must have noticed a connection btwn Sunshine and Kabouy. I don't think we shud now question why she 'likes' her more dan other fellow ttbers.
      That was/is my point, Blogitup!

    8. Uyi! Me I like you more than sunshine o! Lmao! That geh is very ehn! Don't even get it twisted! Lmao! Which connection? Hehehehehee!

  18. I am so heartbroken
    Helpless and alone
    The flesh beneath my chest
    Can find the right words
    I thought love was love
    I felt I had found the one
    I dreamt of sweet nothings
    If only I had known
    That such was non existent
    That humans ain't loyal
    Maybe I would have loved with a pinch of salt
    Once a beautiful picture
    Now a jigsaw
    A puzzle with many missing pieces
    Hello everyone

    Cindy is my name

    1. *hugs* dearie! That's the irony of life. Bittersweet love experiences. You'll break some hearts, others will break yours. It's inevitable. Just hold on and be strong. True love is on the way........

    2. Hello Cindy, You know what? Such is life. Sometimes the bad happens to good people and vice versa.

      It is okay to be gloomy, hopeless, sad, resentful, vengeful, hateful for now. Just don't let these feelings get the better of you.

      In times like this, I believe in the statement, 'time heals everything', surprisingly, it does by numbing our feelings with the passage of each day.

      To make the time go faster - indulge in a hobby of yours, go out, visit friends, volunteer your free time in some interest of yours, soak yourself up in work/school, if you are religious, get to know God better. With time, the heartbreak would become a thing of the past - just where it should be.

      And when the time comes for you to love again, be cautious, do your due diligence, let go of any previous hurt inside you and take the leap.

      (I believe there's a yearning in everyone to give love. Receiving love isn't promised though. Yet a life lived for love inspite of the obstacles is a life well lived cause life can always be summed up in those four letters - L O V E

  19. Couldn't have said it any better @ Chrisyinks.

    Love is so raw, so bad when someone we love breaks our hearts. All will be well soon.

  20. Couldn't have said it any better @ Chrisyinks.

    Love is so raw, so bad when someone we love breaks our hearts. All will be well soon.

  21. Am not trying to break someone heart oooo but am in a dilemma, this Guy am cin he is 36 n am 26. Am 100% sure he Loves me but me am fifty-fifty not because am cheating ooo. But because ever since i ad dis issue wif my ex bac in 2011 resulting into a child, have had zero tolerance to the word trusting men. In addition, i didn't grow up living with my dad, due to abroad living and when i eventually joined him, it was Hell. Till date we are just managing overself. To cut the long story short , i don't want to pity love him. He knows from the onset that my heart is as hard as a rock. It been two years now av been seeing him and he is singing marriage. I would love to get married but am not jus feeling that butterfly excitement that girls have when they have a boo. In addition, he has immigration issue too. Am really confuse ooo.

  22. At some point in our lives, we have to make the decision to either live in the past or live in the present.

    Learning to trust after being hurt can be sometimes painful but it is always necessary. Trust is a key ingredient of a good relationship and I feel it is an item each partner owes the other for a relationship to be successful. I'd advice you quit the relationship if you can't provide a trusting atmosphere on your part. Otherwise work on yourself and if need be explain to him your issue with trust and the need that he might have to go the extra mile for him to earn it.

    As to growing up, everyone has had a bit of undesirables, but we can'tgive up on our present life because of a not too perfect past. Work on yourself and provide a better atmoshpere for your proposed partner, child and future children cause that is what heroes are made up of or rather heroines. Every girl is different and the absence of 'butterflies' doesn't mean it isn't the right step.

    @ immigration issue, try to look out for what can be done. Visit the embassy, search online or probably ask from knowledgeable friends, lawyers or whoever the process or requirements needed to be met and how to meet those requirements. I feel marriage in this case can ease citizenship or residency (not already inisinuating that you must marry him)


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Is it true that EVERYBODY has a secret? 
Is there anyone here who doesn't have a secret? I'd really like to know; You're a completely open book and there's not ONE thing about you that you wouldn't mind other people knowing about? Please raise your hands up. 
And for the rest of us, what's something about you that no one knows, or very few people know? Who's got a dark secret here, or a weird one, or a funny one even? I really don't mean to be invasive but I don't want to be the only one sharing, plus I think hearing other people's secrets is quite fun, don't you think?

Let's Be Random Together! (Open Keypad).

Hey guys, a while back blog reader F said something about creating an Open Keypad post, where you can write whatever you want in the comment section. I thought it was a fun idea!
So who is interested? Comment on anything you feel like, ask me or anyone a question, talk about how your day went, your job, your interests, tell us something about you that we don't know, share a testimony with us, rant about anything you feel like, talk about your crush/boo/spouse/relationship/marriage, challenges you're facing, ANYTHING AT ALL! 
I'll only make one request; that we stay civil. 

(F it was you who made this suggestion, right? I'm not too sure and I can't even remember the post the comment was made on). 
BTW please Ejoeccome out come out, wherever you are!

Question of The Day.

TTB readers doesn't this tweet below remind you of something?
That mail that someone sent me a few weeks back. 
But why on earth should a man sleep with his son's fiancé? But what am I saying, some men even sleep with their daughters...

Oh well, I'm throwing the question to you. What has happened in your life that you never saw coming, you never hesperred it, you never imagined could happen, you never imagined could happen to you? 
It could be good, it could be bad, it could be ugly. Do tell!
And it can be more than one. Let me tell you a few. 
-owning a blog -week long dry fast at Prayer City (I never hesperred it).  -staying in an (emotionally) abusive relationship.
The others require anonymity. LOL. Now over to you.

Adventures, Fun, Friendship & Laughter at the TTB Hangout (Lekki Conservation Center).

Nicole to Clare: mummy lets go. I want to climb that ropy thing!

Isn't Clare beautiful?!

Uyi et moi. Clowning. 

Mother & child. 

Scary af! Trish on the ramp. The chica loves the outdoors so much, she was like a kid in a candy store. She and Uyi took this walk twice! More power to them, you can't pay me to do this a second time.

Uyi & Tiwa