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Self-Love or Resignation? 40 year old Woman Marries Herself Because SheCouldn't Find a Husband.

Early into adulthood Yasmin promised herself that if she hadn’t found a mate by the time she was 40, she would marry herself, and she kept her promise.
Every little girl in America grows up fantasizing about the big day.. The day she will get married to her prince in shining armor.. The day she becomes a wife with a big ring on her finger.
For a teacher in the country’s 4th largest city with a black population totaling more than 1/4 of the city’s growing 2.1 million people, that day somehow never came.
Yasmin Eleby‘s wedding was everything she’d ever dreamed of.
Complete with singers, a band, a gorgeous candlelight ceremony and a white cake to match, Yasmine promised to love and honor… herself
What better way to start the year than with an act of self love?
After a moment of pause, you may be asking, how do you marry… yourself?
Along with 10 bridesmaids Yasmin’s big day went down without a hitch.
Wearing a royal purple gown a glowing Yasim, walked down the aisle and bestowed her mother with the honor of giving her away..
What type of Minister would participate in an act of self Marriage you may be wondering..
Yasmin’s own sister who just happens to be a minister officiated the entire wedding and helped her say her vows.
However it was only a spiritual ceremony – because you can’t legally marry yourself in America or anywhere else for that matter.
Plus contrary to some black women’s belief, Jesus ain’t going so you can not be married to him..
She says the best part of her special day was having her family there to “stand up” for her.
Her other three sisters were bridesmaids and her mom gave her away; or back to herself in this case.
...TTB readers can you be this supportive for your siblings? Would you stand up with, for and by them on that special day that they choose to marry themselves?


  1. I literally loled at the train of bridesmaids, does it mean all her friends are plus size?just wondering though. I doubt if such can happen in Africa or Niger for that matter,na only for oyinbo land we dey see orishirishi,but if a sicko eventually emerges in Niger or that sicko happens to b any of my sibling,hmmmmmm make him or her carry go, their life not mine,born of same parents doesn't mean we have to share same belief or destiny.

  2. Wonders shall never end!! So if a guy finally comes now, ll she say No dat she's married?? Ive n'emeoo

  3. Na madness o,but if a close friend/family friend wants to do such I will offer support from afar, aint contributing financially. Awon orishirishi

  4. She sounds off. She could have had a party and called it a day. There are many men she could have married if the goal is simply marriage abeg.

  5. LOL... She married herself?

    Biko that's resignation...... or self love?

    What happens if a guy shows up tomorrow?

  6. Although I love my siblings, I won't be supportive of this kind of union. Of course, I'd have to accept my fate if he/she is headstrong on towing this path, but I still won't be a fan of the marriage.

    It goes against my personal principles and belief of marriage and no amount of innovation or exigencies yet seem to convince me otherwise. One can always value, love, honour, respect ....... himself/herself but the institution of marriage fundamentally acknowledges amongst other things, the weakness of one being and the beauty of two beings of opposite sex which this 'marriage' seems to fall very short of.

  7. My siblings won't try this ...people are crazy

  8. I'm lost for words but then again what do I know?

  9. Seriously, that "giving her away" part made me lol. The mum gave her away to herself. LOL.
    this stuff makes no sense biko..more like she's trying to console herself for not getting a man.
    It's not the end of the world oo..
    It's rather unfortunate that people have really carnalized the holy institution called marriage. The Bible says- "the 2 shall become 1', and not " one shall marry him/herself".


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