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Shhhhh. Bedroom Etiquette; DIRTY TALK. Yay or Nay?

This post may contain adult content, therefore; +18

So this is a "special request" post. Her mail below;

Thelma please do a post on things to say during sex. Should we say nasty things, should we make conversation or should we just keep quiet? I'm asking because I'm quite vocal in bed but my boo is very quiet so sometimes it gets awkward and confusing. I just want to know the right thing to do". 

This post reminds me of something that happened many years ago in an Nnamdi Azikiwe University hostel. Chocolate, Chinenye and I went to pay Yoko a visit in Awka and a very horny couple was shagging in the room next to hers. The duo were loud. Very veeeeery loud. Their sex was very louder, bed banging on the wall and screaming like banshees. Their conversation went something like this:

Guy: baby e ga e gbu m taa (you're going to kill me today). 
Girl: m ga e gbu ghi (I'm going to kill you!)
Guy: baby e ga e gbu m taa (you're going to kill me today). 
Girl: m ga e gbu ghi (I'm going to kill you!)
Guy: Am going to die inside of you today
Girl: Die!
Guy: Baby am going to die inside of you to day
Girl: Die! Die!!  Dieeeeeee!!!

Kai! My friends and I were literally rolling on the floor laughing. 

Anyways, back to the post at hand. What is good bedroom etiquette, if there's even such a thing? Is there a right or wrong way to talk during sex with your partner? Are there acceptable or unacceptable manners? Is there a code of conduct or does one just go with the flow?

The poster is female so I'll direct this question to the men; is it a turn off for a woman to be vocal during sex? Are there things that are ok for her to do or say, and others that you find very repulsive when a woman does/says them during sex? Enlighten us please. 

And ladies, what's your take on this? Are you loud, vocal or quiet as a mouse during sex? What have you noticed turn men on, and what turns them off?

How should a lady act during sex; be vocal or be voiceless?

Let's talk Sextiquettes.


  1. Lol @ the couple next door. Some people behave as if sex is better than gold. As for what to say imho a lady should always be a lady, you can talk but when u become too nasty you may sound like a prostitute or porn star, so if its with boo or dh then I suggest a woman should play shy, but if its fwb then u can be loud as a bell.

    1. " if its with boo or dh then I suggest a woman should play shy, but if its fwb then u can be loud as a bell." ??? really boo ? why should she play shy ? there's nothing wrong in being loud (and that does not mean one is slut!). if it works for both parties then do you. being quiet can be awkward. at least both parties should moan, if you want to shout, by all means shout. but being voiceless ? ahh. are your spots not being TOUCHED??

  2. This is going to be interesting.. **grabs popcorn**

    Uyi!! Memphis and Boda Wale oya o..

  3. I'll assume your being vocal, u meant U just moan while he's quiet.

    I think I'd like my woman to be vocal and expressive, It heightens the thrill. I too would ask her questions as to What and where tickles her more. Anything to get the best sex ever.

    1. Finally... I've been waiting to know if you're a guy or girl and this comment is my confirmation. Hehehe

    2. Ahn ahn. Uyi was our last male hottie of the day, you didn't see his pics?

  4. Grabs popcorn and waits for comments

  5. it is best 4 a man or woman 2 be vocal during sex coz silence can be awkward and take away 4rm d pleasure. Ur parts are being stimulated durrr. COMMUNICATE! Pple who communicate their likes and dislikes 2 dr partners during sex are more sexually satisfied!. IMO, sex should be preceded with kind words. So there's no need 2 be all bitchy or say demeaning things like pornstars. But say things like u taste and smell good, I love how u doing dz or that etc. basically communicating ur feelings with kind and sweetest words ever!

  6. Eesah has spoken. What made me LOL: The *murderous* couple, and "This post may contain adult content, THEREFORE; +18".

  7. Personally I like a woman to talk dirty during sex, I think it makes it more fun and interesting, and it makes you know whether she is enjoying it or not. I vote for vocal, not voiceless. Thelma and her play on words lol.

  8. Lollll, dieeeeeeeeee! Lmao. This also reminds me of a former flat mate who was shagging his girl way back in uni, the babe kept screaming oh shit! Shittttt! N I was wondering if she was about to poo or something lol.
    Back to the post, pls by all means be vocal if that's what's u want, I feel
    Ladies moan more n are more vocal during sex than the guys(am assuming) I believe that for a lady to moan, shout during sex the guy must be doing something right yay? Except of cos the lady in question is a prositute .

  9. I wish I can be more vocal but I'm always too shy. Sometimes bae even complains. So I just think it's different strokes for different folks.

  10. Communication during sex should never be underestimated, the moan and the grunt can take a just okay sex to the level of mindblowing. So if the woman enjoys it, she should be free to scream, moan, groan, do whatever so far as it rocks her boat however without disturbing the neighbourhood

    1. New blog reader. Yayyyy you're welcome dear.

  11. Pls react the way the thing is 'doing' you. If it's 'sweeting' you moan, grunt, smack d ass, warrefa.#lol# just be conscious of the fact you have neighbors (if you do) cos you don't want them giving you that awkward look after you have done the do.

  12. Lol at those Couples o ,I agree with @La effizy react the way the thing is doing you

  13. Lol@die die dieeee,jezzzzz,it cracked me up, I think it's good to express urself in bed just to create that communication, as for me I moan,I scream slightly and I also talk. Lol*close eyes n runs away*.

    1. Those horny couples really got me rolling with laughter. Like seriously?
      Lemme just sit back n read comments abeg

  14. Laughed at the die die dieee!!! till my phone fell off.hilarious!biko I love a man moaning/talking loud o,no silence abeg

  15. ROTFL! What a pair! I think people should be free while having sex. It might not be easy for some, but I know gradually one would learn to play as it comes, especially if the partner is ok with it or encouraging.
    There was this guy back then who'd complain about any kind of talks during sex, he'd only allow moans. He used to say 'talks, especially dirty, disrupts and interferes with the flow and union of our souls'. Hiannnn!!!!

  16. Na office I dey abeg...LWKMD...#JoyDaNuGirl


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