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The Front Seat Issue. Big Deal or Not?

It's a great large huge big massive deal to me! Binch you best get your bahind to the back!

Seriously though... When my brother comes to get me and he comes with his chic and she's sitting in the front and I find myself relegated to the back, I get upset and irritated and put up an attitude till they drop me off. 

So how much more my own man? Nor try am o!

Once an Ex came to pick me up with a supposed female friend. When I got to the car she was nicely seated at the back, the way it should be. Yes please. If she wasn't I wouldn't have got into the car. 

Personally I don't think it's where anyone sits that matters, it's just the principle of the thing. Show some respect and go to the back!


But seriously though, does it really mean anything if she seats in the front seat or at the back? What do you think? Ladies what would you do?


  1. I'll ask bae 2 kindly tell her 2 move to the back nii....

  2. If it's my Bro, since I'm older than all of them, all their babes will sit behind & na me go tell them to sef. But their wives can sit in front while I'm behind, Respect is reciprocal bah?
    If it's a male friend, i'll sit behind so his babe sits in front.
    But if na my Boo, Every woman except his mom & elder sisters will sit behind. Including his boss. But when I'm his WIFE, everybody including those from outside space go sit behind.
    If the above conditions aren't met, I no go enter that car! LOL

    1. This got me laughing o. Anyway if it's a lady I expect her to sit behind cos people will assume she is the wife, now we don't want such erroneous assumptions right. I don't mind when the guys sit in front(the ones I like). If it's his sisters or cousins (the ones I like) I really don't mind if they sit in front. J

  3. If its my brother I dnt mind sitting behind but my boo am definitely sitting in front,the female friend ought to know better

  4. That front seat issue really means a lot, infact it actually defines where a man places me, whether we r dating or married, i would not even be going out in same car with you and your mum if we r not planning to get married. If your mum sees me and still sits in front, i ll take it she doesnt think i deserve it and its a red flag for me, i ll go out in the car but i ll quietly end that relationship. If my brother visits with a girl, whether they r serious or not, i respect myself and take the back seat, its just the right thing to do.

  5. As in, nor just try am! Nyashing down for front as a female friend? Hian! Guys sef ought to know better. Female friend ko, dat one na title?

  6. Lool.
    Before i got married, if me and DH pick up his mum from work, if i want to get down from the front and go to the back she always said no that its my space I shouldnt give it up...
    So no I cant sit at the back while another girl sits in front...the only person that sits in front with DH if we go out together is my brother as he has long legs so back seats are not for him!

  7. Its not an issue for me, Ill gladly sit at the back and stretch my legs but when we drop that person off. I aint moving to the front oh!

    1. Hahaha...Same here anon,same here...I was comfortable at the back since the beginning of the ride and I'll be comfortable all the way home...
      You sound like someone who likes small

    2. I like drama oh! Lol

  8. If there is already someone in the car, I will chill till the person drops off, especially if he is a guy/his male friend. If we are going out with his friends, il just chill and wait for d person to sit wherever he wants before I sit. See ehn, I have my own car, I won't want any rubbish cos of a car's front seat. Last week his car broke down and I went to pick him up, and my friend was in the front seat, we went into his house and on our way out she decided to go behind so he will sit in front but he asked her to go back to the front seat since we will be gisting. It felt weird sha. Maybe na because na my mama car. I have always wanted to bring this issue up sef #scratches head. I thinks it's only right to wait till I'm the wife or fiancee before I start taking the front sit thing seriously abeg.

  9. Am indifferent actually if it happens the person was there before me I will just wait till the person drops before moving.

    Front or back I don't mind at all.

  10. I actually had such experience recently. Last year December, we were having our closing party at work and I didn't know how to get to the hotel. I asked a colleague at work if I could join him in his car. He said it was fine but we'll have to go pick his wife up first which was fine by me. #grateful
    With that in mind, I wanted to seat at the back so that when we get to where she was, I won't have to come down but my colleague was like I should come seat in front. I obeyed #goodgirl
    We got to where we would pick his wife and I gladly opened the door to move to the back but she stopped me. Jeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeezzzz. Who does that?
    Anyway, It was a dinner party so we stopped at a supermarket(Tesco) so she could change into a proper party dress since she was just returning from work and couldn't go home to change. She had her clothes in a bag.
    As she came down, I quickly went to the back seat before she returned.(Was too weird o). While we were waiting for her, I asked her husband why she did that and his response was "She was just being polite". I learnt something from her that day sha. For me, It won't be a huge deal if someone was seated in the front seat of my husband's car before i enter the car.

  11. I respect the owner's sit but not a big deal really.i see myself in Ibiye's story as the wife & expect everyone to know their parts too

  12. not an issue to me.

    A Bili

  13. I once had such drama with an ex's very elder sister, she kept going on and on about how I don't have respect, I'll see my bf's sister I'll still balance in front haha. I did it again to her she was speechless!

  14. If the female friend is stupid enough not to go to the back or even attempt to go to d back, I ll jejely take the back seat and when am alone with bae, he will tell me what is going on between the 2 of them. Cos trust me that's the only reason the so called female friend won't take the back seat.

  15. Honestly, I don't like front seat cos there's no room to stretch ya legs n b free like the backseat. I'll have to get used to it per married woman.
    In ds case, I'll expect bae to let d girl know n give me dat respect..then it's left for me to decline. Cos even if d girl drops on the way to wherever, I'm not moving an inch to d front which will make him look like my driver, afterall na him first start trouble. Lol


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