T pls post this for me. I live with my sister and her family, she has three children but the first one is not her biological child. The two younger ones are twins almost 2 yrs. The older one is 7 and is a product of a previous relationship my brother in law had before he met my sister but the mother is late. My sister accepted the child as hers and I treat all three of them equally like they're my own children and I love them very much. My sister is a busy career woman so it's me who does most of the work at home, taking care of them and feeding them, helping the boy with his homework and correcting him when he's wrong. My parents brought us up by sometimes caning us when we were wrong and maybe that's why I believe in using the rod. Yesterday I heard my nephew playing outside and using some swear words. I became so mad that I called him inside and gave him 3 strokes of cane and sent him to his room. The problem is that his dad was home. Let me explain better, my brother in law dsnt live in Nigeria and only comes abt 2ce a year and stays for a week or so. So yesterday when his son misbehaved I took a cane and informed him that I was going to whip the boy, he gave me the go ahead but now I think he thought I was joking because after I caned my nephew and sent him to his room my brother in law went to his room to pet him and apologize to him. That made me feel like I really messed up very bad. Like I was wrong to have floggd him. To make matters worse when my sister came back and heard she was so mad and has refused to talk to me ever since and this was last week. My sis does not mind me caning the boy when he is wrong but she is angry because she feels his father would begin to think that this is how we maltreat the boy in his absence.
Thelma the truth is that I did what I did out of love and I purposely did it in front of his dad, because I'm the one in whose care they place the children, when I scold or spank the boy it's not out of wickedness or something I feel I shld hide from his parents. But it is as if I am now the devil. My brother in law has been very cold to me and my sister has refused to talk to me. I even apologise to my brother in law later that evening that I am sorry if I offended him but I got angry when I heard those words from my nephew and I felt that was an appropriate punishment, he said it is ok. But I have become number 1 enemy in the house.
Please was I wrong and how can I make it right? Thank u BVs.