I'm sure we've all noticed something about Igbo men and this morning I've finally decided to ask why it's this way with them.
With men from northen and western Nigeria it's quite the norm to wed in their mid or late twenties. A number of my male Yoruba friends got married in their mid twenties, some in their late twenties. One of our blog readers, a Yoruba man, got married at 24 and today, in his mid thirties he's still happily married with three beautiful kids. It's similar with men from the north as well, but with Igbo men it's an entirely different story.
At 34/35 Chukwuka is still happily single and isn't even searching. You see a lot of Igbo men in their early thirties who tell you they're not anywhere near ready to get married, and it's not for the want of financial independence either. I ended a relationship with a 36 year old Igbo man because of a singular statement he made "I know one day someone will still break my heart". This statement opened my eyes to 2 things; 1. I wasn't the one he was going to settle down with. 2. At 36 this guy was still looking to have a number of relationships, (and from the way he said it) it may not be one of the relationships in the next year or two, but in a number of years to come, hence the "one day".
The man in question is very successful and the first son of his family, yet marriage is the farthest thing on his mind.
I've got several friends in their mid-thirties, none ready to marry, all very financially stable. I ask them why and they'll just say they're not ready. Why?
Why are Igbo men the last among their counterparts to settle down? Is there something they're not telling us?
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