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Dear Igbo Men... (Someone Please Help Me Unravel This)

I'm sure we've all noticed something about Igbo men and this morning I've finally decided to ask why it's this way with them.

With men from northen and western Nigeria it's quite the norm to wed in their mid or late twenties. A number of my male Yoruba friends got married in their mid twenties, some in their late twenties. One of our blog readers, a Yoruba man, got married at 24 and today, in his mid thirties he's still happily married with three beautiful kids. It's similar with men from the north as well, but with Igbo men it's an entirely different story. 

At 34/35 Chukwuka is still happily single and isn't even searching. You see a lot of Igbo men in their early thirties who tell you they're not anywhere near ready to get married, and it's not for the want of financial independence either. I ended a relationship with a 36 year old Igbo man because of a singular statement he made "I know one day someone will still break my heart". This statement opened my eyes to 2 things; 1. I wasn't the one he was going to settle down with. 2. At 36 this guy was still looking to have a number of relationships, (and from the way he said it) it may not be one of the relationships in the next year or two, but in a number of years to come, hence the "one day". 

The man in question is very successful and the first son of his family, yet marriage is the farthest thing on his mind. 

I've got several friends in their mid-thirties, none ready to marry, all very financially stable. I ask them why and they'll just say they're not ready. Why?

Why are Igbo men the last among their counterparts to settle down? Is there something they're not telling us?

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  1. Lols,the million dollar question! Ndi igbo kwenu...

  2. Because they can marry at anytime and almost anyone provided they can pay the bride price maybe? So why hurry when at 50 someone will give you their 20 year old, provided you meet the exhaustive amount that has been set?

    Just a thought.
    Many other cultures dont consider a male to have reached manhood unless he has a wife, i suspect for Igbos it is different.

  3. Igbo guys to d rescue. Its actually d norm n I also wonder why

  4. I have never thought about it. By the way I lurve that picture!!! I love seeing happy people. Its just so sad the world is the way it is.

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  5. I love that photo too... For d igbo guys, na una sabi!

  6. It's the norm for Yoruba guys to marry in their mid or late twenties? Maybe but for all the guys around me, brothers and cousins and colleagues, it's mostly early to mid thirties. The few twenty-somethings wedded because a pregnancy crept in.

    Sorry to digress


  7. Na their way,can't seem to figure out yy though. Make dem.carry go.

  8. I met someone who is 40..and he told me he isn't in any way in a hurry 2 settle down. ...some Igbo guys r not so serious...guess dey need serious prayers. ...

  9. Yeah.. v also noticed ooo... they are so comfortable single.. some of them are great cooks as well so... v also had to leave a guy when he said "M still a young man and there's still plenty time na" he was complaining about his mom bugging him... plenty of time @ 37.. Na wa ooo. Zi

  10. This has never even crossed my mind, but I think They feel really comfortable cos they're very enterprising and want their wives to be very comfortable, that's the reason why igbo men tend to take care of their wives very well.


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