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Dear Thelma...

I just want to vent this morning. Please why do some girls see a guy with his wife or girlfriend and still flirt shamelessly without any remorse with him? It is so annoying honestly. Bae na tall fine guy so I'm used to girls looking at him but this one last night was a different matter. The girl kept staring and winking at him. She sat opposite up and pull her skirt up so that she will be flashing him her yellow thighs. As if it was not enough she kept on walking pass our table. Bae even became nervous but I'm sure he was flattered. The annoying thing is that the girl didn't even care that I was there and I felt very helpless because I didn't know what to do, unless I suggested we leave. I couldn't ask him to close his eyes and I couldn't go and warn her, or could I? Once she was on a call and was laughing and licking her lips and she didn't take her eyes off him for one second, she will lick her lips, pout then giggle, staring at him all the while. Please what should I do in this kind of situation, T I really felt very helpless, why would a girl be flirting like this when a guy is with his babe. And we are engaged so I was even wearing my ring. 

This reminds me so much of something that happened several years ago. My friend and I went to see a movie at Silverbird and there was this really cute guy who came with his lady. My friend is a terrible flirt who often gets carried away when she sees a fine boy. She started staring at this guy, making sultry faces at him and making sure we followed them wherever they went. It was so obvious and I became uncomfortable because I noticed that the girlfriend had noticed. Still my friend didn't pay the babe any mind, she just kept trying to make eye contact with the guy and ... (Really what was she expecting the guy to do, leave his babe and come and talk to her? Hia!). Next thing I know, this babe walks up to my friend and says, cool as a cucumber, "Hello dear, is there a problem?". My friend was stunned, she nor fit talk. LOL. The babe just smiled at her, went back to her boo and walked away with him. My friend felt so stupid, there ended her silly flirtation with Mr Cute. 


  1. At poster,right there is ur answer...

    1. Sasha na real dere is ur answer@ poster.

    2. Abeg make una forget that thing! Some girls will tell her there is one and take it further. Una never jam crazy people who go drag your thing with you.

  2. You can do what the lady in Thelma's story did but some girls can be very determined o and won't give up,talk politely and if she doesn't give up change seats or mayb just leave the place

  3. Problem solved

    A Bili

  4. Yea, either confrontation or swapping of seats. D guy either adjusts his seat to bak d flirt or d lady adjusts hers to block d flirt from seeing her man.

  5. this is hilarious LOL. I'd rather you talked to your guy, some girls can be ready for trouble.

  6. LMSAO. I won't go over pls. Before I receive insult or slap & be pushed to reciprocate.
    We'll Kindly leave that environment. If everywhere we go, there's a flirt, we go siddon for house. Cos I can't keep talking to babes everywhere.

    Poster, i'd suggest U leave next time or sit opposite the babe.

  7. I like what the babe in Tee's story did. Just go over and ask as politely and sweetly as you can if there's a problem.. If she starts making a scene, just walk back to bae give him a smoldering kiss *wink wink* and leave.

  8. Some girls lack

    @poster as long as your bf/fiance does not respond to their advances or take them up on their offer then you have nothing to worry about.

    I would have said you both should have stood up and left but for how long will you continue to stand up and leave places just because some people lack morals and have no iota of dignity in their life......just continue to ignore them and let them continue to fool themselves or Like @Adah said if you can swap sits or change sitting position then by all means go ahead.

    And as this beginning to get to you make sure you watch it before you start taking it out on your man and not realizing you do. All the best

  9. Send the flirt a drink from you and your partner. Also let the waiter deliver the message. And walk out before her bill shows up. Silly women think its a competition, it isnt.

    If its somewhere public you can slide her an i know you note, watch your back. Making silly people paranoid is worth it.

    1. miss Pynk you're "evils"... Hahahahahahahhahahahahahhahahaha

  10. I think I need tutoring in this area..ok here's my fiance and I were in the singles' meeting in church but sitting seperately and in comes this lady who has had her eyes on him and sits beside him and all I could see what her constant trying to get too close..shouting his name over a question asked etc...I was fuming and all i could do was chat my gf venting my anger via watsapp to my gf! After the service I hala my guy small but d man just smiled knowingly like...relax there's no problem...I was tempted to walk up to her o and say abeg re-park but I held myself with ALL my might. I wont be able to sit calmly if it were my guy I go ask Bae straight say sebi him dey see wetin dat girl dey do for restaurant(i.e if we were in the poster's situation) and I fit even kiss my man sef or we both wave at her...but I must do sometin shaaaaaaaa....shameless people...mtchw...husband snatchers....oleee...lolzz...#JoyDaNuGirl

  11. It's good to take the bull by the horns Thelma's example. Slacking isn't allowed as a chic o..especially as one "waka pass" dey eye ya bae/hubby.
    Shine ya eyes o! times being the gentle wife/gf doesn't always pay.


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