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My Valentine Story - By JoyDaNuGirl

Joy's story is part fact, part fiction. While she's not necessarily writing for the prize, as we ended that yesterday, she wants to share her story with us. 

The constant tightening of my stomach at intervals where a sure sign that I was nervous. I was going to become a woman today! I had made up my mind to give my virginity to Elijah thereby breaking my rule to, ‘wait till our wedding night’. He has been more than wonderful. I know it’s a sin….I know it’swrong but still I WANT TO! A virgin at 32…don try na.Yes, I know people will say,  it’s better to endure to the end and win the prize of virgin bride but to me it really won’t make any difference…we are engaged already and the truth isa part of me wants to remember the experience; date and all!So I chose Valentine’s Day.

He came into my life after I prayed a casual prayer that God should make my life partner restless and he should start looking for me. I was very popular in church and I sometimes wonder why all the big boys no dey chike me! Elijah has always been there but I never noticed him one bit. He was the quiet guy I would tell my woes of unfaithful brothers and he would just tell me to move on and not all so called brothers in the Lord know ‘THE LORD’. I just got a phone gift from a male friend and it came with watsapp….I was overjoyed as I had been using an un-smart phone up until then. Elijah would send messages and we would chat for a while. I never really saw it coming but I had this tiny feeling that he was going to ask me out but I didn’t really pay attention to it as he was not my ‘Mr Right’. After he asked, I was a bit upset with him and with God…haba of all the men in the church na Elijah come meet me? I immediately told him, ‘No’ as delaying a response would make him hopeful.

My ‘No’ fell on deaf determined ears…Elijah did everything to woo me. I have had several relationships but this was different. I recall a certain time when I took ill and He bought all sorts of beverages for me without me asking, my sisters where of the opinion that if a day’s illness could produce these many things how much more 3 days. I would ask him to no longer call me, ignore him etc. but in all he was patient. He didn’t need to go on his knees for me to know his heart and mind was bent on having me. God on His own part was not helping matters as all my prayers against the relationship only brought us closer. Gradually but surely, I fell in love with this wonderful man. I even thank all my past so called boyfriends who left me for one reason or the other for leaving as they paved way for me to be with this wonderful, loving and caring man. I am not from a rich home so you can imagine the various challenges here and there that often time arise in my family but Elijah had never for once complained about us having too many problems, especially financial ones. Some other guy would easily have said, ‘abeg una wahala too much for una family’ and that would be the end of the relationship but not my Elijah. He became a rock, a provider, a support, a friend and my closest confidant and companion.
When he proposed to me I knew I would say yes and I did…I remember very clearly some of the words he spoke when he went on both knees and he held my hands, ‘I want you to share my dreams my life…everything with me’. Gladly I said ‘yes’. We have kissed severally (though the church forbids it before marriage) but we have never had sex. He knows I am a virgin as I had to tell him when I was sure he was the one for me and the thought always fills him with pride and overly protectiveness. I laugh most times when he displayspossessiveness but then na love!

He would be leaving the country for about 6 months, I would have to wait for him but I have decided to give him a parting gift….’my virginity’. I want him to have me completely. I want to be his and I want to be his woman in all ramifications. As a man, the suggestion was a welcome one and the grin on his face when I told him about it was proof that he was excited and agreed with the offer. I was on my way to his place and we had fixed the time for 7pm February 14. Opening the door to his apartment, the fragrance from scented candles filled my nostrils. I noticed the lighting had been changed too; red lights were on and he had shifted the furniture in his living room and put a table set for 2 with candles and the works. My body had already started shaking as I knew this was it…today na today.

He noticed my anxiety and he did everything to ensure I relaxed. It worked briefly but the tension returned when he took my hand and started leading me to his bedroom. I followed like sheep to the slaughter knowing fully well that this was ‘a slaughter’ but in this case I wasn’t going to die. There were rose petals all over the bed and the sheets were white. He hugged my trembling body first, rubbed my back up and down before giving me the kiss that unleashed me! A piece at a time my clothing fell off my body and so did his. For the very first time he could see all of me and I was looking at ALL of him! There was quite a lot to see! I tensed initially and he noticed and he began to speak reassuring words to me. I relaxed and enjoyed his lips, his hands….gently he parted my legs, smiled lovingly at me and….then the office intercom rang, I picked it and my grouchy manager went, ‘ Joy please help me buy recharge card’.

I sighed….this office sefmtchewww

The End


  1. Chaaaaaaai, Im so laughing my ribs out. I almost fell off the bed.

    Walahi, Thelma, Im gonna sue you and your blog for causing me false labor.

    I guess the recharge card part is the fiction, Jeeeeeez. This is so darn funny.


  2. Looooooooooool

  3. I could kill you right now. Why did you have to end it this way! I want more, more, more...!!

  4. Lmaoooo!!!! Joy!!!! Hahahahahaaa! Omoh mehn! The end had me laughing out loud!

  5. Ehn???? Okay let me just go and end this story in my head sha, cos Joy's ending just ain't werking for me

  6. Hahahahahahahahaaaaa! See problem o! Beta carry ursef bak here afta buying that recharge card!!! Lmao!

  7. just had to end it there.

  8. Lol,nice one joy. U got me wanting more.

  9. I've been reading some of Thelma's old stories with the twists, suspense and abrupt endings and thia one just added to it. Chai! Joy u better come and finish this story before i hold u there

    I know this spirikoko Elijah in my church and i couldnt help imagining bro Elijah as ur Elijah, the picture in my head was hilarious.. lol

    Plus, isnt your Elijah supposed to be one of the brothers who "know The Lord"? How come he was so eager to take the cookie you were offering?

    1. Sunshine I had the same question too. Wouldn't a Christian brother encourage you to wait? But let us hope this part is fiction.

    2. Hehehe. Body no be firewood oo!! Lol. Make una leave bro.Elijah.
      no mind him jarey...he dey follow lead the girl into temptation. All these brothers sef!!!

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  11. Joy bia...take ya time oo! U don dey do like Thelma Okwa ya??..

  12. Thanks for the kind words everyone.....thanks Thelma for posting it also.....Elijah is a good brother in Lord...he is still waiting so be rest assured we neva DO AM...but truth is he is a trully wonderful man and sometimes I wish I could just do it once with him before marriage....#beinghonest....but we are waiting and its being 2 years of a great relationship...all glory to God.....#JoyDaNuGirl

  13. Chei, I feel like killing you right now. Chei, ah.....u got us all salivating (but I bin don dey mind judge u, say see church girl and boy).
    Hilarious end.

  14. The end had me in stitches... LMAO.. Wonderful piece, Joy.

  15. LMAO! so laughing out loud in the office. Colleagues are like, baib are u okay? Nice one namesake.


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