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Nigerian Marriage. There's Still Hope.






''I've been married for 7 years and I can confidently say my marriage is made in heaven. How do you describe a man who single handedly sponsored our wedding giving my mum and dad money to handle the part that was supposed to be handled by in laws?

How do you describe a man who puts down his pay slip and pay every month and together we plan on how to spend and save the money? How do you describe a man who gave me his only car to be taking to work while he hitches rides to work?

How do you describe a man who after he was promoted was given a brand new official car gave it to me to be cruising while he took over the rickety old car? How do you describe a man who after I pointed to a very tech and expensive Elba gas cooker as my dream gas cooker, the next time he got a bonus at the office I saw the cooker right there in my kitchen?

How do you explain a man who after several other promotions decided to buy me the second most expensive saloon car in the Hyundai fleet as my birthday gift? How do you describe a man who all he ever talks about is how he will buy this for you and buy that for you, how do you describe a man who makes statements like,"I need to work harder to be able to build a house for you " .

How do you describe a man who leaves behind all his debit cards for you when he travels? How do you describe a man who sends you to London for holidays and then pays for you to stay in the most expensive hotel in central London?

How do you describe a man who will without hesitation drop his car keys for me when i say it's his own car I feel like driving that day? How do you describe a man who after ranting and shouting for a little mistake he made will just calmly calm me down and initiate a discussion that will end the misunderstanding with a hot passionate sex to seal it..

How do you describe a man who ensures that my mum is paid allowance every month without failure, a man who sponsored my little sister in school till she finished... Infact the love this man has for me is so much that when his people are around they treat me like an egg because they know their bro and son no dey use me play...

We are blessed with 3 beautiful children and the older the marriage the sweeter it gets.. When we want to gist we gist and laff like best friends, when we want to gossip we gossip like 2 house wives, when we want to plan the life of our family and children we do it like 2 CEOs...when we want to make love you will think we just met. We disagree to agree, fight to make up and for the past 7 years no 3rd party has come to settle our disputes..

Marriage is amazing and refreshing, if you see me I'm so fresh and young looking you would think I wasn't married not to talk of having 3 children. no one should loose hope in the marriage institution its the best creation of God!


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Someone shared this on Facebook and I understand it was gotten from Stella Dimoko's blog. We all need every encouragement we can get when it comes to marriage, after all the horrid stories we hear. Thus I thought to share this. 

And if you have any similar stories too, stories that could give hope and encouragement, please send them to me and I'll share them with the house. We all need those. 


Good morning!

Comments

  1. See me smiling sheepishly and wishing hopelessly that I get that kind of marriage and even more..hehe.amen

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  2. Ooh wow its stories like this that make me want to marry real soon..there really is hope thou

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  3. Thanks T for sharing.. Lots of single people rily need this.

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  4. A very nice read, thank God such marriages exist. And I wish it et more on me, my sister, my friends, and every TTBers.#stillsmiling

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  5. Nice read, thank God for such a beautiful institution. We the singles ones all wish for this.. AMEN!

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  6. This all seems soo materialistic, doesnt mean he cant be cheating....from experience, the men i know that cheat are the ones who actually take care of their famlies very well. Its not always about money or material possession.

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    1. Anon were u in my head? All what she mentioned is money this, cash that!
      No substance by MY standard... *Long Hiss*

      I Need a Man Who will 1st Draw me closer to God daily. A man who'll provide spiritually for I & the kids before thinking anything else. A man who'll Be faithful, Honest, Respect Me & Ensure I'm a better woman mentally & Psychologically.

      After the above, He can provide materially as much as he can.
      This is MHO.

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    2. Lol @ anon. Yh,the story sounds surreal but there are still a few good men who have both the fear of God and good family goals. A BV has gushed about her hubby (although not in details) but I can bet her man fits a similar description. Thelma has even talked bout some men who don't joke with their wives cos they believe she brought them favor. And we know what "don't joke" here cld mean...

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    3. Spot on Ruthie!!! oya chop plenty kisses!!!! *side eye* if you tell me say no homo!!!!! lol!!!

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  7. Its like the Anonymous above was in my head. Is it only the money and the cars?

    By the time i got to the central london part, i thought to myself "maybe this is one of those "you have smoked very quality weed" stories pple share on bbm"

    I'm not trying to be cynical (I'll confess there's small jealousy sha.. emphasis on small) but its people like this that make girls go into marriage all starry eyed and expecting heaven on earth when in actual fact, marrige, no matter how rosy, is no walk in the park.

    Anywaiz, congratulations to madam, wish u and ur family the very best.

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    1. Sunshine you read my mind. No need to retype. Thanks hun

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  8. We are blessed with 3 beautiful children and the older the marriage the sweeter it gets.. When we want to gist we gist and laff like best friends, when we want to gossip we gossip like 2 house wives, when we want to plan the life of our family and children we do it like 2 CEOs...when we want to make love you will think we just met. We disagree to agree, fight to make up and for the past 7 years no 3rd party has come to settle our disputes..

    Did u guys miss this part. Y'all just a tad bit jealous and hating. Their marriage transcends money. They genuinely love and enjoy each other. Pray to God for yours.

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    1. Seconded...abi "thirded". Lol
      There are still very good men out there ..Make una no put ya awilo inside someone's blues biko.

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  9. I hope he continues. Marriage can be full of surprises, even with the most amazing man.

    I'm talking from experience. I do know a couple that have not raised their voices to quarrel after 6/7 yrs of marriage and the woman earns far more than her hubby.

    Very few men will drop their pay slip on d table for wives o, Nigerian men and their ego$
    Let's all pray for a good man/home.

    Marriage ain't easy but it can be sweet. sometimes. It is a bitter-sweet experience and more often than not its the woman who gives more of herself to make it work.

    This is one reason I sure won't be in a hurry to be married if life were to be as it were in another lifetime...

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  10. I hope he continues. Marriage can be full of surprises, even with the most amazing man.

    I'm talking from experience. I do know a couple that have not raised their voices to quarrel after 6/7 yrs of marriage and the woman earns far more than her hubby.

    Very few men will drop their pay slip on d table for wives o, Nigerian men and their ego$
    Let's all pray for a good man/home.

    Marriage ain't easy but it can be sweet. sometimes. It is a bitter-sweet experience and more often than not its the woman who gives more of herself to make it work.

    This is one reason I sure won't be in a hurry to be married if life were to be as it were in another lifetime...

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  11. The underlying factor about everything the hubby does is the love and respect or am I the only one who noticed that?
    She also wrote they've had misunderstandings not that she has a perfect life and in marriages i believe the husband's LOVE AND RESPECT is very paramount.

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