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"Last Post as a Single Girl." Lola Komolafe's Story of Heartbreak andUnexpectedly Finding Love.






“At this point in my life I’m looking for a partner and husband not a boyfriend. I’m at that stage where I feel a certain way about love and partnerships; I’m not in any way afraid of it. I’m looking forward to it and get it done with.” 18/11/2013 I wrote this down in my diary at the said date after an encounter with God after work. 
I was seeing this man that I thought I had everything going on with, you know the usual back and forth we go through during dating. Being an indoor person, he spent most of his weekends at mine, we would go out for breakfast, brunch and just chill. He was the perfect companion at the said time, smart, witty and full of life. 
He once questioned what I thought about people checking the compatibility of their partners in some prayerful way. I told him, I didn’t believe in such crap and he said, he didn’t too. He said even though he’s a christian, he is also from a Muslim background and his aunties take these things so seriously.  I kept that an the palm of my hand for future reference.
I was in church one Sunday evening for the communion service and the reverend went:
‘Sister Lola, you haven’t introduced your partner to me, when are you two getting married.?’
‘Rev. I don’t know to be honest but we are still taking our time.’
‘You are old enough to ask him questions about where your relationship is headed and that doesn’t mean you are desperate.’
‘Okay, Rev. I’ll talk to him about it and let you know. Thank you, sir.’
After the communion service, the Rev invited me to the pulpit and ask that everyone should pray for me. I thought that was weird but I continued saying- AMEN!
The next morning, on Monday- it was a new month and I sent a long text to my bf, praying for him, for us and for our future together. I didn’t get a response, and i called him out of curiosity. No response either. I ignored and continued with my assignment at work. He called back hours later sounding so lost and forlorn. 
‘Hey, I don’t think I can continue with this relationship. My family member went to check your name and they said you are not the right person for me.’
‘Huh? Check my name? For what? Why? I thought you said you didn’t believe in such. You’re a medical doctor in the 21st century and you still believe in such?’
‘That’s what they want and I’m sticking to their decision. I’ve known for months now, I just didn’t know how to tell you but I can’t keep deceiving you.’
Bombshell! 1st of November! “Oh Sweet Lord, what have I done wrong? Why is this happening to me? Why have you abandoned me, Lord? Why me? I prayed to you last night, heck, the whole church even prayed for me! Where do I start from? I’m going to be 31 in few months with nobody to call my own? What will I tell my friends? What will I tell my family? God please please….” My whole body was shaking the entire time. I ran into my colleagues office and called my cousin.
‘Marcy! *I busted out in tears. I was wailing, uncontrollably. I couldn’t say a word, I was just crying. Marcy, help me. please’
‘Lola, can you tell me what the f**k happened?! Why are you crying?! Did someone die?!’ She hung up, called my aunt to find out if someone had died. Called me back and asked if it was my boyfriend. I said, yes. 
“He dumped me. I didn’t do anything wrong, but he dumped me. He said he checked my name from his ‘Alfa’ and they said i wasn’t the one for him”. I couldn’t stop crying. 
‘OKAY. Calm down. I guess you should be lucky that someone like that dumped you then. If you’re not married to him and he’s visiting some random person to check your compatibility.
My boss’ wife sent me an email to do something for her and asked casually if all was well. I started crying, typed my predicament in tears. No, Mrs. J….I narrated again.
She sent me to church saying- ‘Just go to church and pray the Lord should forgive him.’ I didn’t question why I should pray for someone who just told me to get out of his life. I closed from work early and went straight to church, in my tears, I prayed that the Lord should forgive him and turn my tears to joy.
‘Lord, I’m tired of trying to figure my life. I’m tired of thinking I’m the best thing that can happen to any man. I’m tired of loving and getting hurt in return. I’m tired of so many things Lord, please wash me clean and use me for your glory. Lord, I don’t know how you are going to do it but please, turn my sadness into joy and make me happy again. ‘m really sad but I look to your throne of mercy, have mercy on your daughter.’ I prayed and cried. I cried and prayed. 
After the service, I felt relieved of all the happenings around me and continued with my daily routine. God answers prayers and I am a living testimony of His goodness.
My testimony wasn’t delayed or postponed, because I met my husband through a friend 2 weeks after I got dumped and we got engaged 5 months later. The month I got engaged, I heard that my ex got married a month after he dumped me and few months later he passed away. He died. I could have been a widow, I could have been so many things but God…The Lord brought me out of that relationship and gave me a man who wouldn’t live a day without me. We got married 27th of December, 2014 in a lovely outdoor ceremony at home in the presence of our loved ones and family members. God never forgets His own.

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Source; Lola's blog www.aprillaugh.com

Comments

  1. Awww!!! Forgiveness is key here.... thank God for the joy and new beginnings.

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  2. Wow, very powerful testimony here. It sent me on my knees to pray again, cos I have been low.

    Honestly when testimonies are shared it goes a long way to bring peace to the broken hearted. God still answers despite our short comings.

    I had a trial one time and the only thing I wanted to do at that time was run to church get on my knees and wail.

    I cried and prayed and just was numb but relieved.
    God answered me that night. In a most profound way. Pls let's always remember that God wants to help us, we just keep running away till its so bad.

    Thanks for this post T. Good morning all.

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  3. Hmmm..... calls for deep reflection. Thanks, Thelma. What prayers can do....

    Like my pastor will say, "if there's a man to pray, there's a God to answer."

    Off topic now, remember when you said you're hoping you'll find someone coming your way at night and I said I pray so. When I read your day 1 post, I couldn't help but laugh. Surely, God works in mysterious ways. I couldn't comment or reply then, thanks to my network issues.

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  4. There is a GOD in a heaven who is so powerful, he knows the reasons for everything we go through and has a way of getting us back on track. Thanks T for posting this,reflection time for me.

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  5. wow..God truly takes care of his own

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  6. Forgiveness, letting go..

    God is ever faithful, ever sure.

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  7. I could totally relate with her situation!!! Indeed, God answers prayers in 3 ways, YES, NO, Maybe-be a lil patient.

    When God's answer to her prayer about her Ex was a NO, she didn't see it coming but she Trusted God seeing as she didn't insist on them working things out.

    Ruth, biko listen to God's NO! *Note to Self*

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  8. God answers prayer but i am not sure the part of her ex dying is a testimony. Its kind of disregarding the widows feelings.

    www.pynk360.com

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  9. In a way, the Alfa was right! The lady was not the one for the guy with a very short life. The lady was not the one to be made a widow at a very young age. Thank God for that and thank God the guy listened to his family and took that step.

    God works in a mysterious way and HE is beginning to show HIS might and dynamism in my own case-a marriage I thought was broken beyond fixing.

    We just need to trust God completely.

    -F

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    1. God will complete the good work he has started in restoring your marriage. Amen!

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    2. Wow... awesome! I can't wait to hear your testimony F! Do share please. *hugs*

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    3. Thanks ladies.

      -F

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  10. @april laugh,i am giving you one large huge ehug

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  11. @april laugh,i am giving you one large huge ehug

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  12. I guess I should start listening....oya chichi nwanyi oma open your ears lol

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  13. Yes, God never ever forgets his own.

    When we go through heartbreak, we feel the world has ended, not knowing that God in his infinite Grace is preparing that Special person for us.

    I so love that sentence that God never forgets his own.

    Congrats poster.

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    1. "we feel the world has ended, not knowing that God in his infinite Grace is preparing that Special..." I know about feeling like it's the end of the world or that nothing can be done again or that all hope is lost... those times I just go flat at his feet... cry till I can't anymore and pour my heart out. there's never been a time he didn't show up for me. Never ever! Every experience has made me stronger and has strengthened my faith in him.
      God is truly faithful and he takes care of his own.

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  14. My name is Mira balle,and I’m happily married with a lovely husband and one kid.I had a very big problem with my husband few months ago,to the extent that he even packed his things away from our house. He left for almost 7 months,and i tried all my possible best and effort to bring him back.I discussed it with a very good friend of mine,and he gave me an advice concerning a spell caster, that he is the only one that can handle my situations, that he’s always ready to do anything related to spell casting and helping of the needy, i never believed in any spell caster, but My friend convinced me and i had no choice than to follow my friend advice,because i never dreamed of loosing my lovely Husband. And i contacted him with his email address doctorbangola@gmail.com,and i discussed with him all my problems and worries and so surprisingly,he told me that I’ll get my husband back a day after. I didn’t believed Him, until when i got home,the next day,my husband called me to inform me that he is coming back home…..So Amazing!! That was how i got back my husband through spell casting and our relationship was stronger than ever before One of the price i was asked to pay was to tell the people out there that problems like this,can always be solved by Dr. Bangola So! my advice to you out there is that you should not look things to be imposable always remember that there must always be a way out. just in case you need is assistance, you can contact him via this email “doctorbangola@gmail.com” is ever ready to solved your problem.

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  15. It is Dr.EBHOSE you can email him if you need assistance in your relationship ebhodaghespell@gmail.com
    I promise you your problems are solved immediately. After being in
    relationship with him for seven years, he left me, I did everything
    can I bring him back behind, but all in vain. He wanted to
    for the love I feel for him, begged, but he refused until
    explained my problem to someone online and she suggested I should
    rather mail a spellcaster that could help me a spell to bring him
    back, but I'm the guy who never believed in spells, I had no choice but to
    Try it, sent the caster, I said no problem
    everything will be fine within three days, my ex come back to me
    within three days, the spell was cast and, surprisingly, on the second day,
    it was around 4:00 pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, he answered the
    call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened,
    he wanted to get back to me, which I love so much. I was so happy and
    surprised. Since then, I have made a promise that everyone I know will
    never have a relationship problem, which I will refer to the spell
    launcher to help. Anyone may need the help of the caster, his
    email ebhodaghespell@gmail.com
    He also made many spell-like,

    (1) want your ex back.
    (2) You always have nightmares.
    (3) To be promoted in his office
    (4) Would you like a child.
    (5) Want to be rich.
    (6) want to keep your husband / wife to be only yours forever.
    (7) the need for financial assistance.
    8) Do you want to be in control of that marriage
    9) Do you want to be attracted to people
    10) Childlessness
    11) DO YOU NEED A HUSBAND / WIFE
    13) How To Win Your LOTTERY
    14) SPELL OF PROMOTION
    15) PROTECTION SPELL
    16) SPELL OF BUSINESS
    17) SPELL WORK WELL
    18) cure for any disease / H.I.V.
    Contact him today at: ebhodaghespell@gmail.com

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  16. God is great. Touching story!
    All these spell casters biko carry ya spell elsewhere. Why would you need a spell to find Love?.you better give ur life to Christ, because God is Love. Stop dwelling in darkness. Take ya spell story off ds blog.

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