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The Day I Met Q (First Impressions)

I saw Q before I met him. I heard Q before I saw him. I hated Q before I met him. And I'd have never thought that that loud pretentious twat would be the greatest love I've had till date. 

Something about the first meeting fascinates me. Reading Joy's story yesterday, how she never thought Elijah would be the man she'd end up with, how she how searching and busy waiting to be found by other people, when The One was just right there... 

I'm often tickled when I hear people say "When I first saw him/her I never imagined that they would one day become an important part of my life". I've felt that way too, with Q for instance. I heard the loud music blaring from his car speakers and my first thought was; Why are some people so lousy?. I looked to the side and saw a silver colored Chrysler with small screens behind the headrests and beneath the dashboard displaying music videos. The glasses were all rolled up yet the noise permeated my own car. I saw the driver, still remember his crisp white shirt and his fair complexion and I snorted in derision; bush Igbo man with palm oil colour, money miss road!

You can imagine my exasperation when we simultaneously pulled up at the car park and entered the venue at almost the same time. I wondered why I was so irritated that he and his friends had the same destination as my friends and I. So you can imagine my obvious distaste and impatience when that same guy wouldn't let me be. I outright refused to give him my number and as I left I was certain I'd never have the bad fortune of running into that man again. 

But you know how it is, when a man wants something he does everything to get it. Q found me. I've had a number of relationships in the past and I always tell anyone who cares to listen that Q was by far the best. When I first saw him I'd never imagined that that bush Igbo man with palm oil colour, money miss road would one day rock my world and show me what it really felt like to love and be loved. 

It's for reasons like these that I find it all very interesting and I ask; what was your first impression when you first met your partner? (Partner for the sake of this post; Spouse, boo/bae/SO, or a very important Ex). 

Did you know from Day 1 that they were The One (like all those men that say "The minute I saw her I knew she was the mother of my children", or like Damilola Adegbite said she knew, the minute she saw Chris Attoh, some ten years ago, that he would be a very important part of her life). 
     Or like Q and I, was it a thought that never ever crossed your mind? 
     Or are you like this commenter below; "To be honest. I thought she was going to be an easy catch and it will be easy to get into her pants too. Yes she was. But Today, I love her more than any girl in the world, and will always do." (LOL. This makes me SMH but melts my heart at the same time). 

What's your story? What was your first impression of your partner the first time you saw/met them? 


  1. first impression of boo (first day of uni).. he just had this funny look..just some random guy in my hall..then he became annoying as I got to see him most days (he was my room mate's family friend). He always used to mimic my stammering and I cursed him out when I had enough of it. so yea..he was really annoying but he always helped me with calculus and advanced function..nerd! hey boo lol

  2. First impression..TALKATIVE...And he told me on our first date that he was gon wife me....Maybel if u are reading this,my lipstick is a mixture of purple and pink....TNHW

    1. Ohhhh I see. Thought it was red. Beautiful though.*I no use my glasses*.lol

  3. Funny like the nude u have on but I got dark lips so I can't rock it wella...#girls and wahala#

  4. Ooh the 1st day I saw my boyfriend I just smiled,I knew we were going to date

  5. The day I met my husband I thought he was one of those guys that would just use and dump someone. We had been talking on the phone already (someone introduced us), and when we saw each other face to face he tried to turn the cheek kiss into a mouth kiss! I was shaking my head inside saying this one is a troublemaker. A few hours later, my mind started to change and by the end of the evening I started to see him as someone I could date.

  6. When I met the man I later married, I thought he was looking for a hit and run. And I told myself I'd get rid of him in two weeks. Then I decided to have him around for entertainment. I wasn't in a relationship. And he usually invited me for a drink or just hang out. But I pay attention to the little things. He was no pushover but he was kind. We shared the same values. Two years later, he said something that made me realise my man was sitting opposite me. Two years after that, we married. Five years later, we have two toddlers. He gets on my nerves sometimes. But his pros always outweighs his cons. He's a great guy. To believe I used to laugh when he said we'd marry.


    1. Tell me what he said...pls!!!!

    2. Pray tell...!!! *shines teeth*

    3. LolLol Sasha wants to know wat he said.

    4. Had a quarrel with my sister. He said I won't be with her forever. What she wanted wasn't much and requires minimal effort. But he said in such a mature way. I looked at him and in my head, bricks were falling into place. That voice just said this is your guy right here. Not many people give good advice. I love his empathy. I love that he's someone I can depend on. He knows what is expected of him.


    5. hmmmn... you people can just like to be making someone dreamy eyed on this blog. issokay! Ko buru!

      Baba!!! I'm waiting patiently. :)

    6. Did you think that it'd be something extraordinary or out of this world? We sometimes forget or overlook that life's beautiful moment are hidden in the plain moments. We often look for that Kodak moment or hollywood perfect scene moment but guess what, it most likely won't occur.

      The truth is that when we fully discover who we are, we are then able to appreciate and resonate when we find that special person, thus even a simple word like Hello or a twitch of the eye can signify the wait is over.

      Basically, look out for who is perfect for YOU and not who fits the dictionary/movie/society's defintion of perfect.

  7. First moment I ever saw my husband is knew I was going to marry him. Something just told me that's ur husband, it was very scary. Then I texted my friend and said I have met my husband she laughed at me. 10 months later we were sometimes when u know u know

    1. Wow... eyi to ga! lol... me sef I want to just know! Lol. I won't mind some drama tho! Heheheee.. it'll make the story interesting later. Meanwhile Tolu.. you didn't tell us how u met him o... :-D

  8. Lmao....babe you no get chill at all

  9. Are there no guys in a relationship here? Please share your stories abeg

    1. Abi ooo... Uyi you nko? share your story!

    2. hehehehehee! monk kor?!.... lol! SMH!!!!

  10. My impression of my husband? Mixed race high yellow, ajebutter, uptight, pompous piece of work. Boy was i sooo far off the mark. Our first date - i went for the free food- i wasnt passing up free sushi at izinagi for anything. Till i realised we had been sitting at the table for 5 hours. I realised there was a lot in common. And as time went on i also realised he was extremely knowledgeable and hardworking, i was like "i gats to marry this guy". By the 4th week i calmly told him i had reached my last bus stop so he needed to get with the program.

    I do think he underestimated me as someone who was just a joker too. Till i started exposing him to my work and my brain. So now i make him read and draft all my agreement , he makes me work all his spreadsheets. 10 months later we were married at the registry. Lol.

  11. More comments pls. Guys pls waiting for u. Kabuoy u nko?

    1. dear anon... I'm as single as the word single o! lmaooo!

  12. Where are the male blog readers?

  13. Met hubby in church, honestly I was like.."who's this one?" he looked good bt I wasn't attracted to him in any way. U know that "tdh" kinda guy we ladies usually fantasize about..mine was "tfh"(I'm not really into fair guys) oh well!! I accepted his friendship proposal. His calm,gentle, and Godfearing spirit just won me over.he inspired my spiritual growth n made my walk wt God stronger. His social side is fun too. Even whenever i purposely annoy him, he patiently corrects me. At times I ask myself what I did to merit such love..till date I hv no answers.(he doesn't sleep if I don't; at times wen I'm too tired to cook he takes over; d list is endless). All I pray for is to keep being a good wife to him. So help me God.


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