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The Perfect Valentine's Day- By Adaobi

It's 6am and my alarm goes off.... Ouch  it's a Saturday and I forgot to put off this alarm last night before I slept.  It's also Valentine's Day #biggrin.  I roll over and kiss the love of my life... The absolute best thing that happened to me. I remember how we met exactly 4 years ago. It was also a Valentine's Day and I had been in a 3 year relationship/ situationship. Wonderful relationship for the first year and then everything started to fall apart. 

That day, my supposed boyfriend was out of town so as usual I was alone. At the close of work, I decided to get  suya from yahuza with some yummy fro yo and eat away my misery. I had just ordered for the suya when this hunk of a guy walked to my table and asked if he could sit with me.
We had the most exciting conversation and he made me laugh so hard, we talked and laughed like like long lost friends till almost midnight. He walked me to my car and took my number. 

Then the paranoia started... A voice in my head kept saying... "This guy won't call you o, did you see his car? Did u see his phone? Did u see HIM????  He's fine! There's no way a hunk like that can be single in this Abuja. The ugly ones that have been taking your number never call or they call once or twice and never call again so this won't be different " 

The next morning I woke up to a simple sms... Good morning beautiful and that was the beginning of a wonderful relationship. 3 months later he introduced me to his mom. She hugged me like my mom would hug me when she hasn't seen me in months and she said to Chudi (my boo) " does she know? And Chudi shook his head. I couldn't wait to ask what the question meant. When I Finally asked he said he will tell me when the time is right.

6 months into the relationship he took me on a vacation to Dubai. While we were there he told me he was hiv positive,his last girlfriend infected him. I was broken to say the least, I questioned our entire relationship. I questioned our love or better still his love for me, Is it truly love or was he being nice because he had to?  

We got married 3 months after our trip. And 1 year after I gave birth to a set of twins. Our fertility doctor in the US where I had my babies say I am a strong woman, his family say I am incredible ( I didn't tell my family about his hiv status) but I think Chudi is the one who is both strong and incredibly. Fate dealt him a strong blow but he picked him self up and moved on. He was honest about his status and he kept me safe in all this, spending so much money on a special kind of fertility treatment just to keep me safe from this virus.

Chudi is my husband in every way and these 4 years have been total bliss. If I could turn back the hands of time will I marry him again? Yes, yes and yes!!! Happy Valentine's Day baby. I love you forever and a day.


  1. If this is a REAL story, then thi Woman is the the King of Queens!!! OMG!!! Such Love, Strength & Devotion.
    If all marriages were built on such Love, we won't have infidelities let alone separations or divorces!!!

    God bless this home some more!

  2. I doff my hat. The world needs more people like you, who has wisdom and looks beyond the now.
    For you not to have told your family, is one bold step in your shoes i would have told my grandma only. JD

  3. Nice story but wait,how does an infected partner NOT infect his spouse and still get her pregnant? Even if she conceived artificially,its still his sperm right? Are u saying his blood is positive but his sperm is negative? Biko,i need clarification.(im here to learn!)

  4. So he made you fall in love first before telling you his status? Am I the only one seeing something wrong with the perfect story. *runsaway

    1. Michie okay now

  5. are a strong woman,I didn't like the fact that he didn't tell u about he's status earlier thou but whatever rocks your boat

  6. Bravo woman! That's if the story is


  7. Hmm...ure really strong. God bless ur family


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