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11 Years Together And Dude Breaks Up 24 Hours To The Wedding?

Yesterday Sasha Bone was telling me about this incident she read about on Twitter. I didn't really follow until I saw the tweets myself. I know I'm late to the party and you've already heard about it, so please help me make sense of this. How does this happen? This is so unfair. 

What that poster SK said is so true. A lot of women in psychiatric homes ended up there as a result of what one man did or undid. 

A blog reader's aunty was in a position similar to this, nine years in the relationship with this man 
and he left her at the altar. Technically, he didn't leave her, he never showed up!
     But that's not all, at that same day, this man was getting married to someone else, in another
Church, at another location. The woman literally ran mad and was kept in Yaba Psychiatric hospital.

Thankfully she eventually regained her sanity, years later. Now, she is married to the most amazing 
man and they got really beautiful children. 

My heart goes out to this lady. Please do NOT kill yourself or kill this guy. I mean, I can totally 
understand why you would want to kill him. I'd want to kill him too! But let God's vengeance and/or karma take care of the boy. 


  1. Read the stuff in twitter too and. I was like wow this guy ud heartless, these kind of people are d reason yy guys are seen as being heartless and wicked.. I pray she gets over it and she is 30 but she sef fall hand,wat in God's name will make me date a guy for eleven years?? I don't just get it,she shud have seen certain signs now,haba.

  2. Hmmm, wow! 11 good years sha, wasted!!
    But this guy is wicked, no matter how u want to justify the guy by saying whatever, he is still evil!!

    Oh God, anyone assigned to waste and kill my destiny , my life is not your candidate, die by fire!!

    The babe he just got married to might not even be aware of this oo.

    1. Lmaooooooooo!!!! Who is this Mfm bv?! Looool!

  3. Happy Sunday everyone!
    Couldn't go to church today!
    Down with serious cold and body pains. I'm healed IJN!

  4. Here is why women should give ultimatums, it doesn't take a guy 1 year to decide if he'll marry you. Once he has a job (regular income) and an apartment he doesn't have any other excuse.

    1. Kisses for u Mayor, Dats yy I said wat was d babe looking at or thinking of that made her stay for that long. Haba.

    2. True though!
      It shouldn't be women alone giving ultimatums.
      I believe the two of you on entering the relationship should have a goal, abi, with time placed on it, agreed on by both of them.
      Then they can work towards that goal within that time frame.

    3. Exactly!@ OluwaMayor!...I feel for the lady but I asked "what happened to ultimatums as a lady?"..Any right thinking lady should start asking questions after 2yrs Max Biko!..NoTime to waste.
      Personally, whenever I see peeps in 4-5yr relationships, I raise my eyebrows at d lady, not the man. A wise lady shows a man how to treat her, directly or indirectly, and a Wise Man should know what to do.
      Any lady that feels comfy in an unhealthy and unnecessarily long over-due relationship needs a knock on d head to restore d brains back to "default settings"

    4. i meant "1year ultimatum" doesn't take a man up to one year to make up his mind about a lady. If he hasn't shown any sign of commitment, then you're not the one. Ladies please be wise..

  5. Hiaaan am in church and almost in tears... No be say I Sabi em oo

  6. This gyal right here is one of d reasons Y men will continue 2 call women air-headed AKA fish brain be-lee-dat! How can u waste 11 solid years with a man in a fruitless relationship? Any wise woman shld kno where she stands with a guy after dating him for 1 year, and 2 years @ worst. I don't pity her @ all. She shld jes swerve abeg. Women shld b wiser than this by now.

    1. Like really eesah?! I feel like screaming at you right now.
      We don't know the circumstances that surrounded their relationship. How can u call her fish-brained or an air-head. Someone abandons a woman after a relationship that lasted 11 yrs and she's to blame. She's at fault. She was not wise. She's the stupid one. Everything is always the woman's fault. Mstchewww. I'm soo pissed.

      I just pray the girl is fine... may God comfort her and bless her with a wonderful man that'll erase the terrible memories.

  7. Na wa....they should please watch the girl before she commits suicide.

  8. All I can think is,May God just comfort her and give her the most amazing man ever on earth that's if she survives this

  9. I read this the night she tweeted it. I even got in my 1st Twitter fight with a Guy who said the babe was a Side chick & should stop crying fowl. I gave him a well served dish of his meal. Rubbish!

    But we heard the babe is doing okay. That's all I care about. Her friends are making sure she's alright.

    As for me. 6months & No ring? I'm out. Cos at my age & experience, I'm not saying be Dangote, but I don't want to hear I'm just starting life & still in my parents house so NO excuse. I don old...

  10. God is not mocked,whatever a man soweth he shall reap. 11years gan,the lady tried o.

  11. Err @ Kabuoy, u don't need 2 be pissed by my comment na, save if u R willing 2 go down dt lane and date a guy for 11 years. Now lemme put it clearly 2 u Kabuoy, if u were my sister and u date a guy for 11 years, and d relationship ended like dz one no matter d circumstances behind it, then u've got a fish brain. In fact I'd jes disown u straight up. Lord knows that none of my sisters are daft enuff 2 date a guy for more than 2 years. Say wetin happen?

    Wht circumstances surrounding d relationship do u want 2 kno again other than she splitting her hard earned money with him and dating him for 11 years. Even it their relationship was an on again and off again type, and it still ends dz way after 11 years, then she
    is air-headed.
    I'm am not exonerating d guy, but I choose not 2 blame him coz we show pple how 2 treat us by what we allow. She allowed him toy with her emotions and decieve her for 11 years and u want me 2 come and start blaming him? Nah!

  12. Stories like this are why I won't
    1. Date any Hustler de suffer.
    2. Ever support long term affairs
    3. Carry love 'on my head'
    Stories that touch the heart and kidney like a friend would say, are best not given the environment to thrive.

  13. She said they dated from uni. U can't give a guy 1yrs ultimatum while ur both in uni. We donno how many yrs it took to round up skl + NYSC + Masters (if he did). And from the story,he didn't hv a job for a bit.
    All this "ultimatum thing" is being over used. The guy was just heartless and insensitive. On a side-thinking. What if the chick he's getting married to is the one who got him the job? Or when he met her and started getting close to her that things started working for him?
    It's a sad story,she shld pull thru for her own sake...

    1. God bless you Sasha..You just saved me from writing a long reply to Eesah.

  14. 11 years? Thats a jss 1 child man. This story is just sad. May the lady be ok and find favor. As for the guy, whatever he deserves he will get.

  15. Honestly, I am beginning to agree with one speaker who said that ladies shouldn't start dating until they are ready for marriage (i.e. they are ripe enough for marriage) and they should equally date guys who are psychologically, financially etc ready for marriage as well. It may not lead to marriage eventually but the chances of wasting plenty years and emotions on failed relationships are reduced.

    I pray the affected lady receives the strength to pull through.


    1. Oh thank God, there's someone who agrees with this line of reasoning. All through my undergrad, guys kept on wondering why i did not have a boyfriend and even speculated I must be lesbian. Several others calling me a snob as I turned everyone then down.

      Simple reason i knew i was not ready for any relationship and the reasons for relationships then were as trivial as you can imagine. Now I'm ready, very serious (psychologically and financially stable lol) men are asking for my hand.

      No need for entering a relationship if all you aim for is constant validation (love??), attention, material stuffs etc. Just develop yourself. I hope all these 18-20yr olds' carrying boyfriend matter on their head do the right thing.

      Like my mother would say just be civil with whoever comes your way, some would be silly, some would respect your decision, and some would be lasting friends.

  16. why on earth would i go out with a guy for 11 years?????? even if its "tour de monde" on foot...we for don reach where we dey go na.. I've come to conclude that dating when u r not ready for marriage is unnecessary... the heart is too tender for all the timewasting from guys that were never ready to start with.. as for the guy in question... 11 years worth of thunder is brewing and waiting to fire u ..karma is a bitch ... watch ur back, and front, and sides....


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