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Ain't Nothing Cute About Having Dark Babies. (And YOU Think So Too.)








Did you feel like punching this girl in the face with every word you read? Did you roll your eyes and curse her under your breath? Did you almost scream WTF when you read that last sentence; "ain't nothing cute about being dark and having dark tar babies"?

Well me too. 

But guess what, this chica has only expressed so many people's sentiments and I'm not saying this because a while ago I bought skin lightening products (before I realized that I'm too lazy for that ish), but because so many of us feel this way, especially about the baby part. 

Deny it all you want but you know it's true. 

How many of you think biracial babies are the most adorable, and light skinned babies are the cutest?

How many of you pray to have dark skinned babies?

Some days ago some blogs carried the news of this Igbo TV host getting engaged to her Caucasian boyfriend and I read comments written by Nigerian women like myself and you. Comments like; "I wish I could marry a white man", "OMG their babies are going to be so cute!" "Wow I just love biracial babies!" "I wish I could marry a white man so that I can have cute mixed race babies" Jeez!!!!

You know, just like when people asked my to give my biracial almost-boyfriend a chance for the sake of the cute mixed-race babies he would give me............. Right. 

A few years ago on one of these Nigerian blogs primarily for married women, either wives connection, or wives round table or something like that, someone sent in a mail saying that her little baby was dark skinned and asking if there were any products or tips she could use to make her baby's skin fairer so that she can be cuter. I was appalled by this post but certainly not as appalled by the comments that followed. I'd expected people to admonish her for being ashamed of her baby's colour, but instead, mothers like yourself and I, certainly empathized with her and began to give tips; "don't use Shea butter on her skin, it will only darken her more", "let her stay indoor all the times and it helps if the temperature is very cool", "don't worry dear, some babies get a bit lighter with time" etc. I was like seeeeeeeeeen!


So when I read that post above and I shook my head, a second later I asked myself why, the chica has only voiced out popular sentiment, albeit one people have secretly. 




***but can you see that this lady was very pretty when she was dark skinned? I don't think her issue is that she hates being dark skinned. I think she feels the black race is very inferior and she suffers from severe inferiority complex as a result of this***. 

Comments

  1. If you bleach your skin, will you bleach your DNA too. A friend once told me the same thing about having a mixed cute baby. I read somewhere online parents in Ghana buy Caucasian sperm inorder to have cute babies

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    1. I am very sorry to disappoint you, but that online article is never true..

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    2. Disappointed? As a matter of fact I'm relieved

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  2. I really don't see much difference in her before and after picture except the fact that she is now brighter and hence maybe termed more attractive. Whether fair or dark if your fine your fine; if your not, nothing can change it. Whatever skin you are born with maintain it well and you will glow. For the girl above,I find it hard to believe that someone with her brain functioning well made such a statement. Is she trying to convince us or herself that her "fairness" has lifted her self-esteem?

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  3. The struggle is real.i dont think i have ever wanted to marry a white person. that said everybody has their demons, this babes demon is her skin complexion

    www.pynk360.com

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  4. This child is just funny. She needs flogging sef.

    Kabuoy was a dark baby, not as dark as that thing up there but not anywhere near fair either and she was cute! I can't count how many times popsie has told us the story of how he got back from work that day and found this "black" baby looking up at him from the bassinet at the hospital (we always have a good laugh everytime he tells that story)

    How do i know she was a cute baby? We have photo evidence! There's this pic of a very happy baby with a toothless grin plastered on her sweet face hanging our parents' living room *wink wink*

    So madam black to white, its your loss.

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    1. you dinnoh even let me speak for myself! objection!!!! *sustained*

      now sunshine sit down and let me talk. loool!

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  5. lmaooo! and to think i was a black baby. sooo black(dark skinned)... my parents always compare me to our very black coffee table whenever they are telling the 'overtold' story! lmaoo! and for a loong time, i cringe any time they tell the story. loool. but i'm fairer now tho...loool now i feel like i think black is inferior. lmaooo. *get it together kabuoy*

    okay so i know my parents always gosh about sunshine as a baby.. how cute she was... and how everyone thought she was oyinbo.(she's still very cute tho... beautiful i must say)
    but my dad always makes fun of how black i was especially my forehead and compares it to our table or charcoal. lool. so yeah I think everyone wants a light skinned baby.. but because I was a black baby... I stand for the rights of the black baby!!!! lool. We love black babies!!!! black babies rock!!!! *okay i still didn't get it together..loool*


    The girl is just silly.... but i understand sha... i understand her inferiority 'battles'... its just sad that she took it to another level... i wish her the very best...

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  7. I want a dark skinned child and I have always had a preference for dark skinned men (but not too dark o except d guy fine) we are all light skinned in my family I don tire and by the grace of God I might get my dark baby looking like dem Dada who is dark and handsome...the girl sef wey dey say she dark no dark na...make she stand beside 'Song' dem weda she no go become lantern...#JoyDaNuGirl

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  8. Black babies can be cute,I remember during my secondary school days,the owner of my school gave birth to this really cute black baby,the baby came out black and she was cute from day one and anytime I saw the baby I just stared cos she was the 1st black baby I had seen that was born that way not like fair and changed later n mehn that baby was cute,so I dnt knw what the fuss is about,if you are fine u r fine black or white ..she just has serious inferiority issues and I hope she bleached her DNA too
    Have you seen Nigerian babies recently aint nothing ugly about what I have seen I tell you

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  9. To each their own. As they say,change what u can and accept what u can't change.
    Whites (even the duchess) spray tans and no one says a thing. The minuite a dark lady tones,everyone goes ;''::@*;!!*
    Black is beautiful but no one wants to go darker or buy skin darkening products???

    This skin lightening thing is gonna the way "weaves and human hair" went. It wld be frowned upon but finally it wld be here to stay and accepted...

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    1. ''Black is beautiful but no one wants to go darker or buy skin darkening products'' That argument has holes in it considering the science behind skin bleaching. Skin bleaching products work by reducing the secretion of melanin. Conversely, that means that skin darkening should work by increasing the normal secretion of your melanin - which is not easy-if not impossible. So the best that skin darkening products can only do is give you a tan - which has little tangible effect on africans. But white folks patronize those products

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  10. I have ALWAYS dated black men. I pray to Marry a DARK man. My Dad is & my only dark brother is the cutest...
    Take a look at Lance Gross & Morris Chestnut & tell me u'll prefer a Caucasian? Blehhhh!!!

    I want dark babies biko!

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    1. Lance Gross! *dreamy look* That guy is foooooine! Now imagine if he started bleaching at age 18 or 20 *shudders*
      Thank God for small mercies..lol

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  11. The girl obviously has inferiority complex issues. Black is Beautiful, because our skin stays strong and shines even at old age. if you've stayed close to an old white person, u'll understand. Their skin is..."yuck", it starts falling off without an apology,no matter the remedy used. (no offense, just saying).
    Anyway, whoeva wants to bleach is their business, to every man his own.

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    1. The argument isn't bout being Black or White. It's comparing Dark skinned Africans with Light skinned Africans. There's a difference btwn Boris Kodjoe and Djimon Housen.

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    2. Rotflmhao!!
      "There's a difference btwn Boris Kodjoe and Djimon Housen."

      Huge difference! One is a masterpiece *insert drool* and the other is *insert bbm confused smiley)....... was Kimora's husband. Lmao! Sasha and her words tho.

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    3. Chinny T, you may take pride in your colour, and thar's great. But you should be respectful to others' colours too.
      Calling the skin colour of whites "yuck" is taking it a bit overboard.
      I'm all for black pride but totally against reverse racism. you can push yourself up without pulling others down.
      Let's be careful. If we wouldn't appreciate a white person calling black skin yuck, let's not call their skin yuck.

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  12. When I was reading the girl's post I was expecting to be blown away with new color......mtcheww

    If you want to bleach,biko bleach and stop explaining and giving us lectures we didn't ask for in the first place. Just as she likes being 'white' same way some people feel about being dark.

    Am tired of hearing about this bleaching issue.....na wa.

    **how I hate using ucweb!. Opera mini just do me strong thing**

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    1. Try using chrome.
      The girl is yet to realise she has issues. See how fine she was b4 she bleached

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  13. I never had a problem with my skin color fact I didn't understand y fair people are regarded as fine,my sisters are fair but them fine. Only had a problem with my hair,am a sucker for long hair

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  14. All i know is that if she ever finds it difficult to conceive in future she will pray for a dark skinned child.

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  15. Hoping to see her surpass the feats achieved by the likes of Oluchi Orlandis, Agbani Darego, Lupita Nyog'o, Oprah Winfrey etc who did the black race proud with their dark skin.

    -F

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  16. I am DEFINITELY praying for a beautiful, melanated baby boy with smooth dark skin that resembles the vast night sky! Oh please please please!! ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ

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