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Hello Tee and TTB bvs. I read the post about the girl that made the first move and she is getting married to the guy now and I'm wondering whether I should make the first move with my crush? He is one of the clients in my office and comes almost everyday but we have never talked besides the normal courtesies. I have a huge crush on him and I don't know what to do, I know he is not married but I don't know If he is in a relationship or not. Physically he is everything I want in a man and I have watched his mannerisms very closely, he is very well behaved and decent. What do you think I should do? Help please I cannot stop thinking about this guy. 

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  1. Invite him for a church programme, that's the most innocent strategy

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  2. Invite him for lunch or dinner preferably. This should be your basis for the invitation -

    Identify one of the needs of your company that you think his company can fulfill

    Read up about his company and give him insights about improvement, expansion, re-structuring etc.

    The important thing here is to change the location of your meeting from a professional one to a social one and to do that in a responsible manner.

    Hopefully,with the social meeting, you'd have a better perception of him and be more suited to ask probing questions or steer the discussion to matters that concern you.

    Good luck. Cheers!

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    1. Lmaooooo! Uncle Chris. Please remind me to ask you for advise if I ever need to "chike" any of the numerous guys i'm crushing on. Loool!


      Meanwhile, have you ever been chiked before? (by a lady I mean... lol)

      If yes, how did u respond to her advances...?

      Would you say all these suggestions are from experience or you think if a lady asks you out with any of these subtle reasons.. you won't be appalled and it'll endear her to you or you'll be impressed?

      I need answers uncle Chris. I need to know if these suggestions are tested and trusted... err for the poster's sake.

      Dear Poster.. you're welcome dear! Anytime.

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    2. Chris ur suggestions are very suggesting!!!

      I do hope one works for the poster!

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    3. Chai Chris your answer is professional o,I miss the thrill of having a crush,its been a while.
      Poster here is my little contribution, make small talk with him,ask him how his weekend went,church etc to guage his openess level, keep the convo short nd interesting, position urself strategically so you can jam nd have convos he will start gravitating in ur direction,randomly tell him Ur hungry one day and invite him for breakfast or lunch, most guys won't say no, from dere you have your chance to find a connection and know if you guys click after all this if the guy no pick your green light, nne kill the crush :D

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    4. @ Aunty Kabuoy,

      I'd advise you to the best of my abilities if ever you need my advice.

      A few times, didn't crystallize into a relationship though but we stayed as friends. Not becoming a relationship wasn't due to the fact that she made the first move.

      I'm a very friendly person (at least, I'd like to think so), thus most of my 'relationships' tend to start out as friendship. Friendship also helps me to have a better assessment of her and vice versa.

      I haven't been asked based on the earlier reasons I gave for the poster. I'm not representative of the masculine population, hence what is applicable to me might not be to another and may not be to your desired guy. It's better you understand the principles of friendships and relationships and apply the applicable part to your own relationship. Some aspects of relationship are just sheer luck and if you do have any difficulty, thelmathinks.com would always be here to help out.

      @ Ruthielycious!

      Yeah, I feel they should be suggesting but not definite. If he's a 'sharp' guy, he'd get the message.

      @ Chioma

      Yeah, I knowingly made it professional. It's in a business environment she met him, so if he declines the lunch/dinner or a relationship doesn't materialize, they can easily go back to the default setting of just plain work relationship.

      You do have good ideas. I'd suggest poster to pick up tips from your suggestion also

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    5. Yea... U are very correct sir...nice suggestion... .. But I hope d guy doesn't read her mind in a wrong perception......prolly seeing her as a loose girl or flirt.. Cos Dat might be a drawback in such cases

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  3. @ Poster start flashing him d green light already. He'd surely get U unless he is the extremely shy type or he doesn't find u attractive.
    Little compliments here and there, and don't be shy 2 strike conversations with him Place yourself strategically, Make small talks with him but don't be too overbearing. He might probably like you already (or not). Get his phone number, and invite him 2 church like someone suggested above, it surely works like magic..

    Asking him out outtrightly or inviting him to dinner is too far fetched IMHO. U gotta B careful or you might end up being emotionally duped. Give him at least 25 shades of "green light" and let him make d first move. if a man wants you after doing that, he'll make the 1st move. However, there are very few unique exceptions. The minute you usurp a man's role to hunt, you are compromising your femininity.

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  4. Give him plenty green lights. Meet him halfway, of you notice he's trying to ask you for your number, offer it to him. It's when he wants to actually ask you to date him you'll do small shakara

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    1. Lmaooo @ you'll so small shakara. So she'll still do shakara?!

      I yaf lost! Mayowa he af "lost" me!

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    2. Shakara ke.... After all d car Don dey speed u kon show red light..... Omo na accident be Dat ooo... No try am

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  5. Give him green light,little little compliments about his dressing,the way he looks,laugh at his jokes n Chris's advice will work perfectly too

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  6. Have no idea....let me read comments.

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  7. The first comment that says to invite him to your church is the perfect option here.

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  8. The first comment that says to invite him to your church is the perfect option here.

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  9. That invitation to church would turn off for me, just saying....

    Give him green light as Eesah has written. Best option.

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  10. Just keep acting nice around him..but don't over-do it. When u get the chance to chat, strike a convo about random stuffs...weekends, church, hobbies, lil office stuffs, general stuffs sha. With time u guys will get more comfy wt each other and he'll begin to warm up to you.

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  11. Asking the guy to church isn't a bankable option at all from where im standing, I think it would be an akward request if all you have done previously is just the regular goodday / hello /hi greetings.

    I think you should keep it professional (on a lighter level).

    Find something related to what he does for your organization to strike a conversation. Just as chrisyinks suggested.

    Look for a lucky moment to get a few seconds. Of his time and get him to talk beyond the hello /hi greetings.

    You can even ask him for help to solve a. Non-existent or existing problem.

    When you ask someone for help, they are always inclined to help, especially if it's free (not cash /monetary related).

    Just get talking and don't waste a second. Above all, pls look very appealing to the eye. Men's r. Usually moved by what they see.

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