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Dear Blog Reader;

I've been shattered so much happened to me in one night! I just can't keep it in again, I just want to let it out and have people know it happened. Prosecution is out of the question. No one will believe me because he has always been that matured friend who is twice my age and looks out for me. Infact we had just concluded a business partnership plan that will sky rocket my career! 

I trusted him and he abused me in the most mean way possible. My body hurts and I have a bruise on my forehead that I have to explain. 

Hmmmm... Do I tell bae? Naaa... I don't want pity from him but I just don't like keeping things from him. My eyes hurt already, no more tears to, he thinks he has just tamed me. Oh my I never knew he was in this 50 shades thing. I didn't mind me crying and begging, Infact it awakened the beast in him. And then he locked me up and seized my clothes till morning.

I still can't believe it happened to me, and from HIM! even my friends wld think I'm hallucinating shd I tell them. He even wanted to used the teaser gun on me after the handcuffs. 

Blog reader BB left this comment. I'm just getting round to reading comments and I'm just seeing it. BB if I had your contacts I would have called you. Babe why is prosecution out of the question, you have a bruise on your forehead, that's evidence right there. I'm not going to say I don't know that prosecution is the long road nobody wants to take, and just moving on and licking your wounds, is the path of least resistance and the easiest thing to do. Still to let the bastard go scot-free? He locked you up and seized your clothes till morning? Well if you need someone to talk to I'm right here. You don't want pity, and it's the last thing you need right now. But I'm so sorry about what happened that night, to have someone you really trusted turn around and do that to you... I'm sorry Hun. Sh*t like that happens to the best of us. Please I think you need to talk to someone.

Blog readers is BB right to keep quiet about this?  


  1. Please accept my sympathies BB. Try and pull yourself together and if possible see a therapist. So sorry for what happened to you.

    I don't think keeping quiet in this case can be tagged #Right or #Wrong, because it seems the he-goat involved enjoys glorious popularity and prosecuting him will more likely backfire. Remember Ese Walter and the COZA pastor in the *movie* "Another level of grace"? At the end, it's your dearest loved ones and friends that may come for your jugular. Just do what seems best to you and what gives you peace, BB. GOD watches. Stay blessed.

    1. Thanks Memphis, that's my fear.

  2. Soo sorry BB,seeing a therapist or someone that has been in a similar situation will help
    But keeping quiet will only give men like that more room to keep doing things like that
    I will say try your luck and speak out you never know what can happen
    And I feel you should tell your bae you kinda need closure

  3. Whatever she decides to do is fine. Like memphis said, I really can't decide what is right or wrong. It's her decision to make. I just want her to be fine with whatever she decides to do, and I pray for strength and healing. It is well dear BB. *hugs*

  4. Its just sad. I think she should prosecute but i respect whatever decision she has made. Its easy to tell her to prosecute but not many people can deal with all the drama and stigma that comes with it.
    I do not like the fact that she thinks she doesnt have a choice cos she does. At the end of the day tho,its her life and her decision to make.

    Dear BB, you will be fine. Please find someone to talk to about what has happened even if its a priest in a church you dont attend who will never see you again just please talk to someone about it. It is well with you.

  5. Sorry about what you went through BB.Please do whatever will give u peace,he'll surely get his punishment so long as there's still a God in heaven.


  6. BB God will make all the pain go away

  7. I pray you are granted the strength to get over this hurt and betrayal. Healings my dear

  8. Some reasons prosecution is out, currently, there's a rape case ongoing between a 19 year old lady and a " respectable" 50 year old celebrity who is known for his preference for younger ladies. The young lady he suffered severe bullying that I never thought existed, videos have been made in mockery of her, and the accused proudly described the position they used, claiming it was consensual. Photos they took earlier that evening at a fashion show in the same hotel where she was raped (their first time meeting) has been used by the public and media against the. " victim" , she eventually withdrew case stating the bullying as her reason but the state insists on prosecuting. 10 ladies came out with stories of how this celebrity abuse them sexually yet people called them names and mocked them.
    I can't go through such. I'm strong but not that strong. I can't, they will find photos of us at events together and people who may testify and claim we were in a relationship, because I always corrected people whenever they refer to us as a couple. On the said night, we passed through a friend's party after working on an event together. I just can't deal, my biggest problem now is, should I tell bae or keep it to myself? And how do I go about it?
    Thank you all sooooo much. I feel so much better!

    1. Dear BB, we totally understand U. I DO.

      I just need to know, is "bae" THE ONE? Has he given U a ring? Are U planning marriage? If U tell "bae" & U'all break up due to this or some other reason in the future, how will U feel then? Worse i'd guess.

      Such revelations is for THE ONE. After a proposal, cos a man who truly Loves U, won't be bothered about U been raped in the past. He'd only be concerned with your health & look for ways to protect U more!

      So, NO, don't tell "bae" until "bae" becomes "Fiance'"
      Do Take care of U Hon. Now more than ever, Communicate with ur creator. U'd feel a sense of Peace!

    2. if u tell bae he might end up killing please dont

  9. This "ring on finger" ish sha. Is that how you can trust a man loves you? *hian. It hasn't gotten that far...

    There are fiance you would tell this tale and still won't go on with the wedding.

    Bottom line, if you trust your bae whether he puts a ring on your finger or not, then tell him. I think you should already know how he would react to it. So if you know his reaction would be towards the positive then tell or just keep it FOREVER.

    As for me, if I'm Ur bae, I would want to know. Cos if I find out later... We are done oh.

  10. There are a lot of sick people in this world!

    Dear BB, so so sorry for what happened to you and as for telling your boyfriend, if it makes you feel lighter and better, please do but be ready for the consequence. Some men hardly get past such; they find it difficult to come to terms that their ladies have been with another guy-either intentionally or otherwise. Still, he deserves to know especially from you. One advantage this has is if you guys eventually get married, at least the possibility of the rapist blackmailing you will be erased. However, if the relationship between you guys is not that solid, I would suggest you think twice before spilling.

    May you find healing and peace quickly.


    1. Exactly!!! If the relationship isn't solid. DONT... the easiest way to know a guy who wants U for keeps is when he gives U the Ring! @Uyi. That's the truth!!!

      No matter how sure we women are, some of U men are horrible. But with a proposal, the doubt is 60% erased.

      So babe, DONT until u are just 40% unsure. He's just a "bae" biko.

  11. Olori of all Oloris12:02 pm, March 24, 2015

    Sorry about all that happened but if Bae meant so much to you, why were you attending all the events with the Beast and taking pictures. Telling Bae may not be the best but what if Bae gets to hear it from him or someone he has told? He seized your clothes and there was no weapon in that house to destroy something before leaving?Prosecution will be against you because he did not tie your legs to his house. i'm saying all this because i have been there and even my own family turned their back on me. Bae at that time dumped my sorry arse because in his words " you are just a cheap slut. what took you to his house and you always told me he was your buddy" There's nothing like closest buddy or business partner when a man has a functional "PENIS". Please be strong all by yourself. just ignore the guy and if you think Bae may not forgive you if he finds out, its better you find a way to leave that relationship because most Men always find a way to use things like this against us. Fight this Fight and win. Never find a reason to be depressed. Always look in the mirror and tell yourself boldly that whatever happened that night was not your fault, you only trusted too much. Remind yourself daily that you'll be a winner in this. Pray, cry if you have to but don't go telling people that will use this against you. i wish i could talk to you because mine was worse that yours. Have a great life sweety.

    1. Thank you so much.

    2. Exactly my thoughts. It's ok to cry but be strong poster.

  12. Accept my Pele... May God see u tru

  13. Sorry you had to go through this from the so-called friend.
    I hope you find healing.
    You could go far from where you stay and work, visit a counsellor, psychologist, doctor, reverend and talk to one.
    Telling your boyfriend about it depends on you. It's really not easy carrying such a burden. I'm thinking if you believe he cares about you then you should tell him, especially if he might ind out later.
    It wouldn't be easy for him too. You should be prepared to for how he'd take it. It

    1. How would he find out since he is not a ghost, something's are better left unsaid@cccc take ya time.

  14. You will be fine, sorry dear. You need to tell someone, he should not go Scot free. I'd like to give him a smack on the head on your behalf!


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