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How Long is Too Long When Waiting For a Marriage Proposal?





So you think you’ve found “the one“. Everything seems as though it’s too good to be true. You have so much in common, his family loves you, you love them, and whenever you’re apart, it seems like an eternity. Fast forward a few years later, the relationship really hasn’t progressed much, except you’re probably shacking up by now. There’s an old saying… “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” Do you believe this to be true? If yes, how long are you willing to wait for a marriage proposal. Should there even be a timeframe, or do you consider his timing to be God’s timing?

Truth is…If a man is not ready to get married, he will find every excuse in the world why the timing is not right. His finances, His family, His past relationships etc.


Regardless of all his excuses, you still feel like he’s “the one” and the conversation of marriage has even come up a few times, but for whatever reason he still hasn’t popped the question. Do you give him all the perks of a husband or are there limitations for a boyfriend?


I’ve been in a few relationships where I completely went against everything I stood for. I was so caught up in being everything my boyfriend wanted me to be  that I totally forgot about what God wanted me to be. (Virtuous, a Proverbs 31 woman, a WIFE!) I didn’t understand why God would keep bringing all the wrong people into my life. But, I later realized that He gave me freedom of choice to be with whom ever I chose to be with and it was time that I started making better decisions. It was time that I started to respect myself,  and it was time that I realized that I was worth more than what I was getting.


Don’t settle for being someone’s part time or in the meantime. God can’t bring the right one into your life until you’re willing to part ways with the wrong one.If your prince charming is not stepping up to the plate, Maybe it’s time to let go and let God bring someone into your life who will.



-The Praying Woman. 

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  1. I think how long one can wait depends on both couples age,if we both aren't getting any younger, maybe range of 26-28,then I wouldn't with beyond two years because i don't belong to the school of thoughts that thinks people shud date for years in other to know themselves better,by the grace of GOD I don't give my BF all the perks of a husband,certain restrictions and boundaries are set because men are funny,when u give them the " see me finish" syndrome, then it's only by the grace of GOD would they not misbehave.

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  2. Like you said 'HE gave one the freedom of choice'. That's why I laugh when I hear some people blame God when their relationship don't go as planned,some even ask why he would allow them suffer this much.

    Well I don't know how long I would be willing to wait but when everything is in place and we feel the same way about each other yet he keeps giving one silly excuse or the other, i would take that as my cue that he is not serious and ready. Then it is left for me to either continue or leave.

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  3. I think a year or two is best. There's no need to linger unnecessarily when time is passing. The next thing you'll be staring 39 in the face. Erm no thanks!

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  4. No definite time applies to all. For some it might be months, others a few years.

    What's more preeminent is critical issues ranging from finances, stable working and living conditions, future plans, family and family values etc. It does take quality time to know one's partner and carry out the necessary 'due diligence'. With all these accomplished, a few months is enough to call a 'non-crystallizing' relationship quits.

    Lemme say this, prior to calling such relationship quits, one should be direct with the question of where the relationship is heading to? Or if there's a marriage proposal lurking somewhere. His response would determine the future of the relationship. Remember to evaluate not only his verbal response, his non-verbal response is more critical here.

    There's a reason why there is a distinction between boyfriend and husband. The privileges of one shouldn't be given to the other.

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    1. "There's a reason why there is a distinction between boyfriend and husband. The privileges of one shouldn't be given to the other" no truer words have been said this hour! Lol

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    2. Sasha Bone once said(can't remember the exact post or her particular words), she said if you are ready to get married,then date a man who is ready. Dating a guy who isn't is setting yourself up for loads of frustration and unhappiness.

      When a man is ready,it might even be the babe asking for more time

      Personally, I will give it 6months-1year after which I would wanna know what next. The answer would determine my next course of action

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  5. Depends on age. When i was in my 20's 2years was my threshold. I am a wanderer by nature and if not tied down i will fly. I live to fly and soar, even if the crash is visible.

    I dated someone for 5 years whom i had no intention of marrying. It was comfortable and familiar - we both knew. Within a month i told my husband i had reached my bus stop and of he didn't feel that way to let me know. Anything longer than 6 months to declare concrete intentions at an age past 28 is not for me. I tend to prefer to know why i am investing my time and effort in something.

    My urge to flee reduced drastically when we did introduction after 5 months of dating. My urge to wander shows up from time to time, but its becoming less of an urge.

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  6. Really intellectual comments up there!
    It doesn't take a real man long to know if a lady is d one; and when he does ..it doesn't take him long to wife her. My dear sisters, d ball is in ur court!..ur legs aren't tied in a relationship. Really, it baffles me when I hear ladies in their mid to late 20s ranting about being in a very very extensively long term relationship wt a man who left them at d end!
    May God continue to bless ladies wt d wisdom to know when to stay or walk away.

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  7. 6 months - 1 year is enough to know if you want to get married to me or I need to take a long walk to freedom.

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  8. In a matter of months you will definitely know if its headed to d altar or to the gutter...the signs are always there and if the guy doesnt ask...pls ask him whats up so you dont waste your time and even if you are not yet ready to settle down as a lady know your boundries and NEVER give d guy every every....its not a function of age, men can play both young and older ladies......#JoyDaNuGirl

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  9. The problem atimes is dt, some Ladies see d handwriting boldly on d wall, and they will still refuse to read it or agree they hav over-stayed.

    6-9mths is enof to take a decision on even go to d altar to say 'I do'

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  10. The magic in number in this matter is 5. If, after 5 years, he hasn't at least proposed to you, chances are he never will. He's thinking, "why should I buy the cow when I can just get the milk for free?" Well, it's time to start thinking, "well, why should I buy the entire pig when all I'd get is a little piece of sausage?" Sever ties.

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