For some reason, even before I knew what relationships were about or what marriage really is, one portion of the bible that was deeply ingrained in my mind was that it was utterly sinful for an unmarried couple to live together as husband and wife. With this in mind I always frowned upon cohabitation between couples, whether or not they had children. Growing up however, I've come to realize that life is not so white and black. Still it had always been my firm belief that cohabiting will only hurt a relationship. My reasons were these;
-it would kill the mystery ie see finish syndrome.
-it would reduce the value a woman has in the man's eyes
-"why buy the cow when you're already getting the milk for free?"
Years ago, it wasn’t acceptable for a couple to start shacking up before marriage. Now, many people believe that if you don’t live together before marriage, it’s destined to fail.
After reading the scenario on @conniegirlswag #Tuesdaychitchat yesterday, and the comments also, I'm beginning to think that there's wisdom in living together before actually getting married. To sum up the opinion of most commenters; "moving in together before marriage is wise and advisable. After you are married and living together is when you begin to see the REAL person you married. If you can see this beforehand and know if you can or cannot deal with certain characteristics of this other person, isn't it better to know and proceed accordingly? Is there any real benefit in finding out after?"
Read the scenario below and tell us what you think:
Does moving in together help or hurt a marriage? TTB readers, what are your thoughts?
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