We are often in a hurry to get to where we want to be in life, that we forget what we have endured to get to where we are now. I look back at my journey over the past 3 years and although I am nowhere where I want to be, I am grateful for all I have achieved. I remember when I just moved to Nigeria and was staying with family in ebutu metta, there was a certain man who I had several meetings with to develop a business idea of mine at the time. All was progressing well till he eventually turned the pages and approached me with his desire for me. He changed his rapport and even offered to buy me a flat in banana island so I could be more comfortable and settled.
As tempting as such offers could be, nothing in life is free. Everything has a price and I'm proud to say that price was never my pride. Anyway, what I'm trying to say is no man/woman should determine your destiny. You may be offered all the worldly possessions but all these things expire, the bags go out of season and the cars depreciate in price. I would rather not have the latest designer bag than have a man gossip about my pride 2 years down the line. #justsaying #womenofvirtue #determination #pride #stephrockss
Vivacious TV personality and actress; Stephanie Coker shared the above on Instagram. I applaud her for not trading her honor for material gains. For some people it might be worth yet, yet for a few virtuous ones, nothing is ever worth compromising your pride and honor for. Good one Steph!
But you know, I have so much faith in humanity (regardless of how often I see it fail), and yes, most (men) would never lift a finger for you without demanding/expecting sex in return. But God created a special few, and I'm blessed to say that I've crossed paths with a few among this few. I have had (men) do great things for me, some of this included "material gains" and I'm not referring to designer perfumes or plane tickets, while others were great acts of kindness that must have been very costly. And these few asked for, expected and got nothing in return.
Have you ever been a recipient of this kind of favour/gesture, given by either a man or a woman? Please share with me your story.
Now, this isn't to detract from Stephanie's message. I quite agree that some men can be vultures, and this brings me to my second question. A blog reader has asked me this question before, many people have asked it, I have and I'm asking again; why do men insist on having sex with a woman before they help her, even when they can offer such assistance very freely? Answers anyone?
May God bless those who give freely from their hearts, asking for nothing, expecting nothing in return. May they never run out of grace, favour and abundance. Amen.