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The Farmer's Daughter.

A young man was in love with the farmer’s daughter. When he went to her father to “ask for her hand” in marriage, the farmer looked him up and down, then replied. “Sure, son, on one condition.”
“Go stand out in the middle of that field. I’m going to relese three bulls, one at a time. If you can grab the tail of one of the three, you can marry my daughter.”
He was madly in love.  “No problem” he thought.  When the chute opened, the biggest, badest bull he could ever imagine came charging out. Quicky he ran to the fence thinking the next bull had to be a better choice.
When the farmer opened the chute again, the second bull was worse than the first. It was fierce. Mean looking. It pawed the ground. Grunting. Slobbering. And then charged! Once again the young man ran to the fence and let the  second bull pass by.  The last bull couldn’t  be any worse!
The third time the chute opend, out came the scrawniest little bull you’ve ever seen. Weak-looking. Mild mannered. It just sauntered out into the field.  The young man smiled.  This was his bull! His opportunity! The farmer’s daughter would be his wife. As the bull came by, he positioned himself perfectly and lunged at just the exact moment. He grabbed for the tail… but this little bull had no tail!
Isn’t life like that? Full of opportunities. Some are easy. Others are difficult. But if we wait for the perfect opportunity, too often we miss out! 


This little story resonated within me that ever since I read it it's been on my mind. Have you ever missed out on an opportunity just because you thought a better one would come along? I know I have.     
     Some times it's because it came too easy so you thought many more like that would come, so you let it go. Sometimes it looked too difficult so you passed up on it, choosing instead to wait till one less challenging comes along. It reminds me of what Pastor Paul Adefarasin said many months ago; Most (lazy) people miss their opportunities because it's always dressed up as difficulty and looks like hardwork. That golden opportunity you've prayed for for so long may come dressed in difficulty and you miss it just because you're too lazy to do the work. Problem is, another one might not come along. 

Let's stop missing out on opportunities, they seldom come the way we expect them to but opportunities are so rare, one ought to grab them whenever and in whichever way they come. 

PS; to my concerned readers, a few people asked me questions after reading the post Freaks Of Nature , no nothing that happened made me to make any compromises on myself. I merely played the role of observer before an extremely "liberal" set of people, something I'm certain wouldn't happen again. 

PPS; (RE) TTB readers, one of us sent me an email and this is part of it; "My bag got snatched from me that night after we spoke, both my phones, my school fees receipts, money and a lot of other valuables were in that bag. So, right now i'm virtually absent until I get a new phone-God knows when."

She's one of us but she didn't ask me to do this so I don't want to mention her name. But when we spoke that night I remember saying to her that it was late at night and it was really quiet around her, and I asked her how safe it was to be out that late and talking on the phone. 

I really want to help her out with this (she's still a student), so I thought to ask you guys; anyone want to help out with a phone and/or some cash? She's based in PH and is the first blog reader I met through the blog, and the ONLY reason I'm posting this is because I've met her, we talk occasionally and I know for certain that she was robbed (so please don't mail me and tell me a sob story and expect me to post it, because I won't.)

If you want to help this blog reader out please mail me. Thank you. 


  1. Like your ex, who married a rich man's daughter. Only for that 'meek' bull to kick him so hard in the balls. We have a lot of them, such men, up North.


  2. Thank you.

    I do have my own missed opportunities and its safe to say I'v learnt my lessons. Thanks for the reminder!

  3. I have had missed opportunities and I have learnt my lessons

  4. Opportunities sometimes come as hard hard work! Just grab it.

    Thanks Thelma.


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