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To Those Who Say Women Shouldn't Make The First Move...

We discussed this on this blog in 2013 and popular consensus was that ladies should never ever make the first move. Oh well... the post below gladdens my heart, who doesn't love Happily Ever Afters...

just read a post on this lady liking this guy and asking if she should ask him to be his friend or not, many called her 'desperate' which i found immature and unreasonable...but so are some comments aren't there?

To the lady, you can show a man how you feel without words...let me tell you a story

I love to hangout at the Cinema alot, on this day, i went to Silverbed Abuja, sighted this hawt guy who was waiting for the same movie, i thought he was hot, i still do, i kept throwing glances at him, he noticed of course.

When we went in for the movie, as a smart guy, he took the seat directly behind me, i looked back at him and said ''hi'' he said ''hello'' and i struck a conversation, into it, he asked if he could join me and i said yes, so he moved to sit next to me, babe, i was holding this guy down-eye contact on point, smiling, laughing at his jokes, initiating conversations and seeming to have a little knowledge of all he was saying, the guy confessed that he was impressed because most girls in his words, are ''dull and always wait for the guy to do the talking and the gist dosen't even flow''

He asked for my number of course, we kept in touch and during the ''friendship'' i kept up being interesting and a ''good girl''.....(wasn't being promiscuous)
I have always been the bold girl, not afraid to go for what i want, my motto is, ''i would rather try than live my life wondering on''what if''.

After praying for a life partner(if you are ready for it), you do your own work, you don't just sit around and wait. So don't be afraid to be bold,  also be honest and exciting, initiate chats/conversations, check on him to know how he is doing, listen to him and support his dreams, laugh with him, be willing to try new and healthy things, go out of your comfort zone and try new things, adjust, send funny pixs and videos, learn about the things he is interested in so that you will have contributions to make, above all, be his friend, his hommie, don't be forming anyhow, be humble....all these are things he says got him stuck on me and it is actually who i am, oh, and i sabi give compliments well.(always makes him blush). 

(But be wise, don't go carrying his burdens upon you, support but don't carry, that would crush you and if you see red flags, don't ignore....if he turns out to not be the man you taught he would be, walk and believe me, you would meet someone amazing again).

On his part, i keep thanking God for the broken roads because this man is so good to me, so loving, so giving, so accommodating, he tolerates things i wouldn't, its not just in the way he treats me, its in the way he is with everyone else, so kind but firm, handles the bills, he makes me laugh and wet my pants, he honestly is the best i have ever had, he calls me ''his world'' (smiling)   i could go on but in plain words, he is more than i prayed for. 

Our marriage is next week Saturday (14th of March)

So my dear, show a man how you feel ,if he throws it back at your face, accept it and move on but that shouldn't stop you from showing again, trust me on this.

Oh dear, I loved reading this. This was culled from Stella Dimoko's blog, she also included a picture from their pre-wedding photo shoot. 


  1. Thelma, At this my age & experience, If I see a guy a like, I'm gonna walk up to him & ask him to be MY friend. Get his number or pin...

    That's how I'll throw the ball to him, it's left to him to drop it or catch it.
    Life is too short. I hate "What ifs".

  2. I trust you @ruthy hahahaha wish I could be like you.

    @post If you have the courage to do it then by all means go ahead. But you should also be prepared for rejection.

  3. Nice one but unfortunately I don't have the nerves for such and some guys take such move for granted,biko I better pray for my own man and relax,I wouldn't play hard to get,Dats all.

    1. Exactly @Quirky, A guy who rejects me based on "he doesn't like my looks" is pretty fair & i'll say Thank U. No hard feelings. After all, I dey reject men daily!!!

      @Mabel, A man who takes such move granted or reject me based on my Boldness, is a man I DONT want in my life. One less spineless man ni.

      REAL men can NEVER be intimidated by Any woman, words or action.

    2. Hmmmmmmmm u right though.

  4. M sure the men reading this are like... o yea, life just got more interesting!

    1. As in ehn! Loool. I can just see memphis nodding and saying "way to go ladies!' lool.

      Things are changing fast mehn...

      But as for me o... I never chop that kain liver. I can like a guy and look at him then "carry eye". But to be bold enough to stare until I catch his attention and then become "very" nice when he approaches me to start a conversation... ha! my sister! I kent! Not to talk of walking up to him to say hi and then ask for his number and all what not... *faints* then the guy should now say NO *dies*... I just can't! lool.

    2. Babes seriously things are changing so fast that we don't even realise they are actually changing... Borrowing ur words, I neva chop dah kain liver, make una no vex.
      Very soon the prayers points will change from "Lord let him locate me" to "Lord fill me with that kind of liver to ask him out when I locate him"!
      Anyways whatever rocks one's boat!

  5. Who remembers the story of Ruth and Boaz? This lady did just what Ruth did.. , I think we ladies need to start 'chopping small liver' o some guys can be slooow in asking a lady out!arghhhh!

  6. The way she handled everything I like,Classy

  7. *chuckles* I don't know why i'm chuckling tho, but it's kinda funny. You all know this thing about "being friends with a guy cos you likle him, getting his number so he knows you're interested" is easier said than done right. I'm not sure I can do that. Yeah, I can start up a convo, no biggie but number? Nah, I don't think I can.
    In my opinion, if after all the convo and laughter he still doesn't ask for my number, i'll assume he's just not into me, or he has a girlfriend already.
    Anyone with a contrasting view or opinion can refute this, and make me see things differently. Till then...

    1. The husband collected the number cos he was fascinated by the wife's confidence. There was no where she she she collected his number. So I think if as a guy I don't have the boldness to collect your number I don't deserve u. If I just don't collect Ur number at all, I'm not interested. Peace.

  8. Btw, it took me up to 30mins to comment here. What is wrong?

  9. Lols,she didn't say if the guy had a GF which she wriggled her way inbtwn.
    Yea,striking up a convo with a guy isn't hard but the Q here is can/shld a lady chase a guy the way a guy chases a lady? From her story,after all her moves,twas the dude who respected her by asking for her number instead...

    1. Exactly my thought. As I started reading, I was hoping to see a point where she actually asked the guy out; where she popped the question etc. I need to read about a lady who does the actual 'toasting', chasing and eventual popping of the 'will you marry me' question and not just put herself in a position to be wooed by the man which the poster did. That would be interesting for me.


  10. Nice one there!..she's lucky it worked for her; it doesn't always work for others.
    I easily start Convos wt guys but never ask for their numbers. It's left for d guy to do so..and if he doesn' goes on..No time to waste biko.


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