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#AboutLastNight. (Remembering The "Bullier" & The "Bullee").




Recently I ran into a friend of mine and we decided to sit down for drinks. Somewhere in the middle of the chat she said to me "Jeez I really hated you, but when I got to know you that changed". In a split second I was transported back to JSS3 when Uche wrote at the back of her notebook, "before I used to hate you, but now I _ _ _ _ you". Back then I felt all warm and fuzzy all over and immediate wanted grab Uche and hug her, but now, wiser and a little jaded with age, I rolled my eyes, like here we go again. Darling, you want a medal? Not my fault you couldn't wait to know me before deciding that you hate me. 

Hypocritical much Thelma?

Yes. Yesterday was an intense day. It was a day I met and/or chatted to people that I can write books on, individually. I'd have to tell you about all these amazing characters some other time, but the one who made me look within and call me a hypocrite was Laura Ikeji. I don't think I follow Laura on Instagram but somehow I see her pictures and watch her overly hyper videos and I scrunch up my nose and feel dislike for this person I simply do not know. Well Laura was on set yesterday and she was absolutely nothing like I'd expected her to be. From her pictures and videos it's easy to tell that she's always the life of the party but I thought that would be accompanied by a nasty attitude and a stuck up air of self-importance that may come with being the sister of the biggest and wealthiest blogger in the country. Oh well, I couldn't be more wrong!

She was nothing like I'd expected, bubbly and vivacious, yes. Nasty and stuck up, hell no! She was actually quite sweet. 

So, about yesterday? Yesterday was live! If you don't already watch Spice TV's On The Couch then you really should. It's on DSTV 192. We discussed child bullying and societal bullying in general. My episode had the extremely amazing Tewa Onasanya, Editor in Chief of Exquisite Magazine, and the vivacious psychologist Dr Tuke, and of course Ariyike. Speaking of snap judgements, the first time I saw Tewa Onasanya on The Spot she wasn't what I would have imagined either. Guys, this is one of the sweetest and most brilliant ladies I've met in a while. 

I would let you guys know when it's airing but I must warn you, those cameras add at least 30 pounds to a person's body, so please if you watch, I'm not that massive, I promise! LOL. 

I took a few pictures yesterday, I guess it's ok to share them...



Staring at the famous Otedola and Dagote yachts and fantasizing...



Yes I blurred my feet out. Why didn't someone tell me that slippers on TV aren't a good idea. I'm glad I took these pictures during the diary session. I ditched the slippers and the neckpiece before getting on set. 







Ok people, work calls.



Guys, while we're it, where you ever bullied as a child? Does it still affect you today? I'm appealing to you to share. 

I wasn't bullied much, just once really, at age 13. She was rather mean, it was just one word but it really engraved itself on my 13year old mind. Engraved so deeply that when a few years ago I heard she lost a sister, I tried so hard to feel bad for her, or sympathize, but I just couldn't. Her sister died yet all I could see was an image of her mocking me and then cackling evilly in my face...

Do you know the beautiful child star, singer and dancer, Amarachi, is being terribly bullied at school by her peers, for being famous? She's the inspiration behind yesterday's episode. 

How do you think child bullying can be stopped, curbed or eliminated totally. Any ideas?

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  1. I'm happy ur happy T.

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  2. beautiful pics and sasha is right, you look so happy and at home.

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  4. Lovely photos.. Amazing smiles.. Go girl!

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  5. I was bullied as a child in primary skool. My bully and her gang would attack me during break. The only way I could stop dem from attacking me was to give dem my snacks, as in everything. So one day my teacher noticed I wasn't eating while d other kids were eating and offerd me biscuits cuz she assumed I didn't cum wiv snacks.Then She saw me giving d whole pack of biscuits to my bully and called us and asked Me why I gave the biscuit to my bully. I was too frightend to answer. Wiv enof coaxing and threats I finally opend up and told my teacher why I gave her my snacks and how I have been doing that for some time. She was punished and that was how that nightmare ended Oo°˚˚˚°!! Years latter I saw her in the market. She was like " aunty come and buy Oo°˚˚˚°!" I recognized her instantly. Smh. Bullies do what they do, to make themselves feel good.I don't think bullies r happy people.

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  6. When I was in boarding school, one of my seniors, how can I forget her Nwaneka. She tried to make me miserable.

    Good for me my school mother was an outlaw back then. She beat the crap out of her.

    Boy was I happy.
    Years later, this same Nwaneka met my sister in UNEK (Enugu) and told my sister she was my worse night mare in school bla bla and she didn't like me.

    Well my sister reminded her about the beating she received on my case and that ended the discussion.

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  7. Tee that last picture is buriful. Let me confess I used to be a terrible bully but thank God i learnt the error of my way.

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  8. Awwwww see how happy you sound on this post!
    I think I like Laura ikeji, though I don't know her.

    I was bullied in Pry 1 by two silly brothers, especially the older. I gave them my snacks for days, funny their bullying wasn't the reason I succumbed, but I hated them even talking to me. They were always too dirty and ratchet - words& behaviour.
    I got tired and reported! They were punished but the older one came for me! He was my class mate.
    I used to have a sharp tongue, and I said something obvious about my personal hygiene teacher- something like, 'she's teaching how to care for your hair when her hair is always old'.
    This boy raised his hand and told the teacher! I received beating ehn!
    Oh how I hated that boy for months till he changed school!

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  9. Awwwww see how happy you sound on this post!
    I think I like Laura ikeji, though I don't know her.

    I was bullied in Pry 1 by two silly brothers, especially the older. I gave them my snacks for days, funny their bullying wasn't the reason I succumbed, but I hated them even talking to me. They were always too dirty and ratchet - words& behaviour.
    I got tired and reported! They were punished but the older one came for me! He was my class mate.
    I used to have a sharp tongue, and I said something obvious about my personal hygiene teacher- something like, 'she's teaching how to care for your hair when her hair is always old'.
    This boy raised his hand and told the teacher! I received beating ehn!
    Oh how I hated that boy for months till he changed school!

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  10. Luvly pictures T. U look so radiant and happy.

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  11. Luvly pictures T. U look so radiant and happy.

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  12. Thelma... You are on some real stuff oh. I'm proud of you dear. You look stunning on screen.

    I just couldn't help myself seeing the parameters on display on that camera screen, i wont be able to sleep with myself if i dont comment on it.

    Shutter speed is 100(1/100 actually). Fstop is 22. And then ISO is 1000. This is just a ridiculous combination. In a lay man's word, its like having a Mercedes Benz full tank(Fstop22) and you are going somewhere urgently(visual clarity) and then you opt to use Ur barefoot under hot sun to trek there(iso1000). And to think he used shutter speed 1/100secs to control the saturation(light intensity). Quite ridiculous.
    Correction. He should use Fstop 11 or less and den a shutter speed of 1/50(50)(no negotiations) and reduce that ISO to the barest minimum as low as 100 if possible.

    I know this might come out as being 'oversabi'. Call it whatever you want but I just couldn't help myself. Most professional peeps out there should stop making these technical mistakes as we want to compete with the best outside this country.

    Thelma Plz tell him or her oh. Trust me, you would look way better than that eventually.

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  13. I was bullied seriously throughout secondary school. Added to this, grew up with a step parent with all the drama. I am in my 30s and I still have self esteem issues. Please say no to bullying!

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  14. What's the title of the Post again? All I see is Thelma. Mmmmm hmmmm....

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  15. Thelma nice pics..sure you had a good time

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  16. Fine girl tinz!!!

    I wasn't bullied, I was not a bully either...
    *I think*

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