Hey guys. I was with someone recently and we got to talking about a matter. I'll paint the scenario and you'd tell me what you think. The person I spoke to is one of the parties in this scenario.
Laura and Goke have been married for almost three years. When they were dating Laura had a good job and was earning a decent pay. Goke had a job as well but didn't make as much as Laura but he seemed to have a promising future at his workplace. Besides with their joint income, they could start a family.
Unfortunately, almost immediately after the marriage baby came and then another pregancy when Baby was just about 9 months. This meant that Laura had to quit her job and the family had to rely on Goke's salary alone. Unfortunately Goke's career is yet to pan out as Laura had thought it would. He is a good husband and provides as best as he can but with two toddlers, things are getting very challenging. Goke naturally has a male ego, but also has a proud nature and would never let his friends know how difficult things are for them. He would never ask anybody for money regardless of how bad things get at home. He urges Laura to manage things as best as they can on his salary until his finances improve. Laura tried to start a few small business but it's proven impossible so far, her family is not in a position to help out either.
Recently Goke's close friend visited them at home and when he was leaving he discreetly slipped an envelope to Laura. Goke saw his friend off leaving Laura alone in the living room to open the envelope, it was N60,000 (sixty thousand naira).
Laura's immediate reaction was to return the money to this friend the next day, knowing that Goke would go apeshit if he knew what his friend had done, no matter how noble the intention. But on second thoughts, they needed supplies at home, the children had needs, they had run out of toiletries, food had become a luxury and basically they needed the money. Laura kept it.
Now the question that arose is this; was Laura wrong for accepting the cash from her husband's friend?
I know it's somewhat taboo to give your friend's wife money without his knowledge, although I can't say I know exactly why. A few months back, someone told me that his friend's wife called him and was complaining bitterly about her husband's philandering while he made an average salary and brought very little home. She called to complain about the cheating but she severally made mention to the lack of finances at home and how she and they kids were barely "managing". My friend who's rather bouyant and actually very generous said he immediately wanted to pay money into her account but he didn't because he knew if his friend ever found it would be very unpleasant. So instead he comforted her and told her he would talk to his friend, something they both knew would yield no result.
Well back to the matter above, how blameworthy is Laura?