Last week, before we got into the thick of things at the meeting where I ran into our former maid, my host whom I was meeting in person for the first time, and I, chatted about the goings-on in society, just to get a better feel of each other, I suppose. I told her how our former maid, now her present maid, absconded, and that was how we started talking about the Orekoya boys. The lady, a woman in her early thirties and a mother of three little boys herself, sympathized with Mrs Orekoya but reproved her all the same. Her thoughts; How do you employ a nanny and then the next day you leave her alone with your children and go to work. That is so irresponsible and careless! (I strongly agree). Who does that in these terrible times? The problem with mothers today is GREED! This is simply a case of greed! (Err, I'm not so sure I follow). Yes, why can't she take time off work, or stop working for now and look after her kids? Greed is the problem of women of our generation! They cannot be content with little, everybody wants to live the high life and carry designer bags, to the detriment of their homes! (I quite disagree. People need to make money to care for these children). You disagree? Let me tell you something. My mother was a very career oriented woman, she made a 1st class and was even planning to further her education. She was in the medical field and probably would have become a Minister by now, she worked for the government. But guess what, she quit her job and stayed at home to take care of us. She didn't want any nanny or maid to bring up her children. She opened a small shop beside the house to make a little change and today each one of us is very successful in our fields because of the sacrifices she made! There nothing our mother wants now that we cannot afford to buy for her.
Thelma let me tell you, there's a popular OAP that was once making almost a million naira monthly. But one day she realized that she was missing everything in her daughter's life. Her first step, her first word, her first solid food, her first haircut, her first day at school, it was the maid that told her all about it. She realized that if something wasn't done she would become a stranger to her child. She quit the job and stayed at home. Later she found a job as a radio presenter and now although she is earning peanuts compared to her former job, she is happy. She is happy and she has time for her family.
Hmmmm. These line of thoughts have marinaded within me long before I had this conversation. It seems a woman MUST make certain sacrifices. Now back to the Orekoya family, we ALL rejoice that those boys have come home. But, some people have words for the mother. While some people accuse her of carelessness and stark irresponsibility for leaving the kids with a nanny just one day after employment, some suggest that the whole thing might be a scam, and some others call her out for getting a nanny from OLX. I saw some of these comments under a post on Myne Whitman's Facebook page. Read and share your thoughts.
"I didn't see a tear when the woman was 'pleading' for her children. I hope it wasn't a big scam where the parents were involved. It would be shameful.... even before the children where found, I had my doubts. How does a maid take 3 children out of the house? Including an 11 month oh. Don't they go to creche? Where was the mother?
I am not working at the moment and my son is on holiday before playgroup resumes. I make sure his safety is my priority. everyone knows that my son cannot go past our gate. Including the gate man. I know I cannot be with him 24/7 apart from the fact that I know his nanny up to her village I just make sure I keep my eyes opened. Where I am not sure, I take them both out with me so madam orekoya should start talking...."
"Well, as I said earlier, things are not always what they seem in naija! Getting a nanny online in this Nigeria of today? Even in the US where everything is possible online, they don't just employ a nanny online, the first thing they do is run a background check on her to be sure she has no criminal records and even at that crime rates still stay on top talkless of Nigeria where no way to check people's background. The whole story looks like a parent who don't care much about their kids if at all, the story actually "happened"."
"She's looking too fresh, for someone who lost 3kids for about a whole week. Kids were just recovered. Where's d pain, worries, emaciated body, from lack of proper feeding. She's looking even more robust & all kinky. As a mother, I honestly don't feel it. Those r not my kids but I shed tears for them these few days. I felt so pained cos it was unimaginable for a parent to lose 3kids in one day.
Do u know what that means. Even while watching d video I felt nothing seeing d mother trying to force out tears while crying for her own kids. An 11month old child could die out there in d hands of kidnappers.. these thots made me weep profusely.. No no noo some things just don't add up.
Whatever is hidden must surely be exposed. I just don't wan2 believe she played us. Buh God You alone knows best.
How can u employ a maid thru OLX today, d very next day u leave her to care for Ur kids d whole day or was it days away from home. Well, d truth will be revealed someday.
My thoughts pls.. do not judge me. I'm a mother & I know exactly what I saw on dat video, & circumstances surrounding dis whole thing, simply is a scam. What happened to all d donations. I just watched d news where d father of d kids didn't even show up to speak on d matter. But will speak later.
And why is the mother the only one under fire, isn't parenting a function of both parents? Do you agree with these comments? Do share your thoughts.