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Baby-Mama Cohabitation. Yes or No?




Hello beautiful people! When I saw this on @derrickjaxn page I just had to ask y'all. One of our blog readers is facing/faced a similar situation, she didn't ask me to post it or anything, we just talked about it. In her own case she had no choice but to say yes. The blog reader isn't married to the guy yet though, and that's partly why she had limited say in the matter; they aren't married, although they live together it's his house, and I guess it came to the point of "if you don't like it you're free to leave, I love you but I can't turn my child away". And of course the mother wouldn't leave her child and stay elsewhere, it's a package deal, unfortunately. 

So back to the question...


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  1. Hell no ,married or not married
    He should get her another place or am leaving

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  2. Hmmmn, no o. I can't shout. We would rent a place for her even if it's a mini flat but to come into my matrimonial home, capital NO. As some yorubas would say "once debe,forever debe". You can trust everyone but not the devil in them.

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  3. Hmmmn, no o. I can't shout. We would rent a place for her even if it's a mini flat but to come into my matrimonial home, capital NO. As some yorubas would say "once debe,forever debe". You can trust everyone but not the devil in them.

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  4. No oh!!! Get her an apartment

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  5. Hi Tee..I just got the credit .Thanks a lot and God bless the giver

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  6. God help me*in madea's voice*....I can't and wouldn't allow it happen..Is the guy alright at all?I would rather leave than sleep next room to a baby mama returnee.......Can't help but lol at the picture,makes me remember Byronnnnnnnnnn,ronnnnnnnnnn....TNHW..

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  7. Thanks Thelma, I have gotten the credit. God bless both you and the giver

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  8. Bad idea, very bad idea.

    Aa different scenario happened to someone I know. Let's call her Debs.

    So Debs had a friend that was stranded due to heavy downpour. She was still very far from home and needed a place to stay the night.
    She recalled that Debs had a boyfriend that lives in Lekki, so she hollas. Debs to ask for permission to stay at her boos place (they both know boo anyway bbut boo asked Deb out).

    Deb was reluctant but felt she could help and called Boo. Her boo ddidnt like the ideaa but also wanted to help.

    Short of the matter, the friend seduced boo and they had sex that night.

    The boo was remorseful and told his babe, they parted ways, but later hooked up again mmonths later.

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  9. This is happening live to a friend of my mum, slightly different scenario because they live in different states, so the husband's son was preparing for his introduction and "Anne" my mum's friend says to him, it will only be right for your mum to be present for the marriage( someone that abandoned him years ago), so he did and now the woman claims she is stranded and homeless, the husband allowed her to stay also claiming since Anne doesn't live in the same state with him, the lady can be cooking and cleaning for him, he also doesn't have money to rent even a room for her because he isn't that buoyant, orishirishi, one chance marriage.

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  10. Thanks to the giver and the messenger lols. I've gotten the credit God bless you both Indeed.

    Co habit with boo's baby mama? Hell naaaa. Doesn't make a bit of sense

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  11. It's a natural no.....The tendency for them to restart from where they stopped is quite high. One shouldn't leave a fire on the roof and go to sleep. Regardless that my husband is trustworthy, I wouldn't allow it because I may trust my husband but do I know the intention of the baby-mama? More so, only very few men can overcome a sexual temptation when cornered. It's just too risky.

    -F

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    1. Ok,u wldnt allow it so what's plan B?
      If he rents a place for a yr,he might have to continue paying the rent as long as she's unmarried!

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    2. I just saw this.
      Plan B would be that he seeks custody of the child. One parent's disability to cater to the needs of a child is enough grounds for the other parent, so long s/he's capable, to take custody of that child. I wouldn't mind having the child live with us and the parents (my hubby and the child's mum) make arrangement for her to meet with her child on a pre-agreed regular basis and venue.

      -F

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  12. She should go an stay with his parents. Some things a5rent worth the stress. Either that or rent a place for her. End of discussion.

    www.pynk360.com

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  13. Ur child remains ur child whether ur married to the mum or not. If she has accomodation problems,its a sign she has other problems and I wld advice the man to start filing custody for his child.
    Some women can be heartless and use the child to spoil someone's happiness and marriage.
    If ur man has a child outside wed-lock (either before or after marrying u),u shld prepare urself for anything

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  14. Boo Boo Kitty *In Cookie's Voice*

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  15. Bad idea. He should get a place for baby mama to avoid unnecessary drama.

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  16. At this point I guess we should all give it up for Annie Idibia and all others ready for "anything" *#icantshout

    To d mata, a man who not just loves his wife but who also respects her wouldn't even think it twice but because his child is involved, he calls a family member or friend to pls accomodate dem for a short period of time, he could visit if he so wishes and drop somethings for them and even help wth the hunt for an apartment for her so they can leave faster.
    The woman sef no go like stay again because her plans just flopped! Its good to marry smart men people.

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    1. Lol. Ok,so when he calls up a family member or friend to accommodate them,for how long is this gonna be? Till she can get a place of her own to stay??? (and who pays for this place)?
      Let's keep sentiments aside. A man has a duty to his child not his baby mama. If she's having accommodation issues,you take ur kid from her,have ur kid with u or with a family member but let her go sort herself out.
      If ur paying child support and she trying to use it as an avenue to milk u,just get full custody of ur child.

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    2. We re saying the same thing honey. The bottom line remains that the lady doesn't come home! He could take his child if he so wishes.

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    3. Let's not forget that the child might also refuse to stay with his dad and nobody but his mum (let's say he z abit grown), in this case, he also caters for both at the same time but not in his home! U gat my point?

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    4. What age are we looking at in ur 2nd response? Na,the tantrums of a child shld not be tolerated. The mum can visit whenever but the child stays with family whether the child like likes it or not.
      So,women who are against ladies having kids for married men but think with a single guy is better,this post is actually for u. Cos it's his future wife who wld have to deal with this drama (knowing that his child is older than all of hers)

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  17. Hell to the NO! For what now! God forbid bad thing o.

    His only options will be to either take the child from her and bring him/her to our house or find somewhere for them to live but I won't agree to let him bring her under my roof.

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  18. All the sentiments going round Sha...
    Please its just a 'baby mama'. Baby mamas are wat they are cos hubby has chosen u over her, so why the insecurities? Or no one trusts their hubby enough?

    You are living in the same house and you are scared you might lose him? Is that the reason for the 'hello nah' 'cant deal' 'never gonna happen'?.

    Please be considerate for the baby atleast. Haba. He gotta shelter his baby anytime anyday. What If the man doesnt have enought budget to house him somewhere else as at that point, she should go and live underbridge with the innocent baby abi?

    Abeg its just for a moment, be calm and let it pass by. At least u can take the responsibility of being the matured one. As ladies. Thanks

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  19. And it's a No for me! She best sort her self out. Her child moving in or not is left to the hubby and her to decide. Either way, I won't be accommodating to her.

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