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Getting Ahead.





If you've worked within a structured organization or an office, at one time or the other you might have had to do something to get ahead. Some times this from ranges from the harmless sucking up to the boss to curry favour or probably even mere acceptance. Other times it could be not so harmless and rather calculating, like poaching a co-worker's ideas to advance your position at work, sabotaging a colleague, undermining a colleague in front of the boss to make them look less competent, or snitching on a co-worker to get ahead. 

In the very competitive corporate world there comes a time that you might find yourself making some cold, calculated moves to the detriment of others, morally it's wrong and you know it. YET, it is survival of the fittest and if you don't make these moves then you might either find yourself in the same position while your co-workers advance, or even out of a job. 

Last night I hung out with a few friends and one of them told us about her friend *Bisola. Bisola's colleague playfully tapped her on the bum and she screamed and made a big production out of it, she said he grabbed her ass and squeezed it and she felt assaulted and debased. Bisola took the issue up with management and HR. The guy was summoned. He had to admit that he did "playfully" tap her on the bum but it was only friendly and innocent. That admission was all that was needed and the guy was given a query and asked to issue a written apology to Bisola. Here's the thing, Bisola didn't feel assaulted or even mind that he tapped her bum but the guy is some kind of rival and his harmless play turned out to be a window of opportunity for Bisola to taint his character at work and thereby (possibly) further her own chances. 

We argued back and forth. Popular consensus; of course it's unfair but it's dog eat dog and Bisola was merely being smart and looking out for herself. A few others also said things they'd had to do to get ahead; sexual favours for promotion, bringing food for the boss to the office on a DAILY basis, sucking up to the boss, and yes, snitching on a co-worker. 


So where does one draw the line? How far would you go to get ahead? How far have you gone to get ahead; have to done anything you're not proud of to get ahead at work? Lastly, would you do it if your boss asked you to snitch on a colleague in order to get a raise and/or a promotion? 

Let's talk. 

Comments

  1. In this jet age I don't think many people would draw a line when the competition gets messy in the company. These days nearly everyone is looking to make more than they have and more than they deserve (by any means necessary).

    Snitching on a colleague to get ahead? Well, if the reasons are based on the survival of the company and not on (suspected) personal issues/vendetta between the boss and the colleague, I would snitch.

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    1. Memphis what if it is neither survival of the company nor personal vendetta. For instance they need a scapegoat to take the fall for something, it was mere random selection; asking you to snitch on him. You know that it could have been the otherway round and you could be the scapegoat; totally random. Would you snitch?

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    2. That's personal company issues. I won't snitch on him/her.

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    3. In such a case if I feel the boss is desperate for a scapegoat I'll agree to snitch but obviously won't give favorable results. :-)

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  2. Reasons I hated working for an organization... Its just crazy when you see how much people would go to climb up the ladder in a company that's not theirs, except you plan on being a member of the board of directors in the future.
    If not, do your piece and leave with your prestige held high.

    In short i hate working under an organization where you are not judged by your professional abilities but 'personal relationships'with one boss(nepotism). I quit that shit and if I find myself in such a place in the near future, I'll quit that shit AGAIN

    And I'm not interested in snitching for any company/individual, not for anything. Its a mental state of lack or incapacity and it broods jealousy among staffs in general. Who wins in the long run by the way? I would like to know...

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    1. What if it was your Company, or the Company of a family member/friend?

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    2. Well, someone has got to be a boss and someone has got to be the employee.

      Who am I? Only I have got an answer to that. Im pretty much speaking for myself Sha.

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  3. The most I've done is to suck up to my boss and sucking up includes going to her house and helping her with domestic work, cleaning and cooking. Not proud of it but my colleagues still don't know why our boss likes me and prioritizes me. I may look stupid but I know the benefits I have gotten so far and more is coming.

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  4. Havnt started work so I won't know what I will do,but knowing the tables can turn around and I will be snitched on,I dnt think I will snitch,my conscience is the most annonying thing ever,won't let me rest

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  5. But why will someone "tap my bum" in the office environment for whatever playful reason,not acceptable.

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  6. Any kind of office politics for personal gain would often work at the short run. On the long run, it's so not worth it.

    Is Bisola above mistakes/errors too? What if the male colleague decides to pay her back in her own coin?

    I hate involving in anything that takes my peace away.

    -F

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  7. Personally, I can't do anythn bad to get ahead at work. I don't snitch, I cover up for people as much as I can and I expect same in return. If I notice a particular colleague snitches on me, I don't cover up for the person but will not report the person either.

    When I started working in my office, I noticed a lot of people kiss ass, I just can't. Like I was born anti ass kissing. Funny enough, what endeared my boss to me is that I say the truth as it is. He asks my opinion most times cos he knows he will get the truth. In meetings when I don't talk, he will call me later to ask my opinion. Some people have come to ask me stylishly why the boss listens to me and my answer remains "most people detest when people patronise them, try the truth"

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