When it comes to dating,mating and relating no one seems to know what to do anymore. The relationship game has become a free-for-all, with everyone playing it by ear. The results are generally miserable,but no one knows what else to do so they continue playing the same game and blaming any failure on the other person. I believe the entire problem boils down to one simple observation: Women, in their desperation to have someone in their lives, have forfeited their power and have become frustrated victims in affairs of the heart.
You've heard all "the rules" before, girls don't call boys,don't buy them presents, play hard to get and so on ....Your mother crammed them into your head as you headed out the door to high school. You thought they were old fashioned then, and you most certainly think they are antiquated now. After all this is the twenty first century,isn't it? Well, you won't get an "amen" out of me. Mama is right!
When God made woman He also designed how He wanted her to be treated. Very carefully. Like a precious glass sculpture. It was never His intention for women's hearts to be jostled around the way they have been. He created women to be protected,loved and cared for. Why would Clark ask for Thelma's number and not call? If he really cares he would call, he would call the minute he enters his car or lays on his bed to get some rest. My darling Nwando don't call. If you do, then get ready to be making the first move as long as it lasts. "Above all else, guard your heart, for it affects everything you do" proverbs 4:23NKJV
-My friend and blog reader mailed this to me, inspired by a McKinney Hammond book she read. I love the message it contains, I find it beautiful and virtuos. But, I have a few questions to ask, which I wanted to ask months ago when I read the book (I'm certain) inspired Ocheze's submission. It's along the lines of He who finds a wife. Meaning that making the first move as a woman is an absolute NO-NO, that's not God's plan for his daughters; women do not find, they are found.
But I wonder, what about those who made the first move? We all know that happy couple who says that she made the first move. What about those?
And does it really follow that because a lady was the one to initiate the relationship she'll always be somewhat taken for granted, and the man would be laid-back and leave her to do all the (emotional) work in the relationship?