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Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a nice restaurant for dinner. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it. Conversation wasn’t flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed, but he didn’t say much. I asked him what was wrong; He said, ‘Nothing.’ I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn’t upset, that it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry about it.

On the way home, I told him that I loved him. He smiled slightly, and kept driving. I can’t explain his behavior I don’t know why he didn’t say, ‘I love you, too.’ When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there quietly, and watched TV. He continued to seem distant and absent. Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later, he came to bed. But I still felt that he was distracted, and his thoughts were somewhere else. He fell asleep – I cried. I don’t know what to do. I’m almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.

Husbands Journal

Another Arsenal player injured and Wenger's talking shit again. 


So I found this story that I'm certain we can ALL relate to. Trust us ladies to overthink, over-analyze and overflog things in our heads while the guy is having some very random flimsy thought. Aaaaargh!

So let me throw it out there people, ladies and gentlemen;

In what ways do you wish members of the opposite sex were different?

Oh wow, I started making a list of ways I wish men could be different and it started getting too long and too personal so I told myself "Thelma this isn't about you" and stopped. LOL. So people, talk to me!

Just let me just these-

*I wish (most) men didn't think faithfulness/monogamy is such an outlandish concept and an unrealistic expectation. 

*I wish men had smaller egos and bigger conscience. 

*I wish men age just as fast as women do (LOL. I ran into an Ex from 8 years ago at Ember Creek last weekend and he looked exactly the same. Wish I could say the same for me! I'm tired of seeing men looking younger than their wives because they seem to have some anti-aging serum in their veins. (Most) Women get older, their bodies get rounder, their breasts droop and their flesh gets loose, men get older and they just acquire charm and character and look "dignified". Aaaaarghhh!)

So, back to you; In what ways do you wish members of the opposite sex were different? And have you had any experiences that remind of you the story above? Share!


  1. Replies
    1. LOL. Memphis I already went first so you may proceed

    2. Hehe. Thelma it's just you so far. Let's hear from Sasha, Kabuoy, Ruthy, miss pynk, Sunshine...

      Oya ooo. LADIES

    3. So Sasha, Kabuoy, Ruthy, miss pynk, Sunshine are the only girls here. Nobody even notices me on this blog

    4. Eyah, sorry Anon.

      Ehen, *plus including* Lady Anonymous, wade in before I do. :-)

    5. Thank you,I hate when people say women age faster,I wish men would carry the stress we do!! From work ,home kids etc. Ah remember when I had my second baby I was so stressed hubby just didn't understand till he had the two kids for a few hours. In the mist of all these am still supposed to look sexy?

    6. Looool @ Anon and Memphis! U even said thank you. Loool.

  2. I wish women could be straight forward with what they wanr , a lot of women are actually very confused, battling with one at the moment and its not funny

  3. This happens to me every time.

    I have this male friend, we both work on the island and try to go home together whenever we can. One friday evening i called to ask if we could go home together and he said yes. I wouldnt usually call on a friday night cos thats "turn up" day but i asked and he said ok. We fixed a time to meet but when i called at the agreed time, he didnt pick up, and the phone was switched off when i tried again. I was so pissed! I'm very proud and i dont like feeling like I'm forcing friendship on someone so i took it really personal.

    I didnt call him for 2days and didnt reply his pings etc. By Tuesday he figured it out. He then called and had the gall to ask if i was fighting with him. When i explained and asked what happened, he apologised and said he assumed i KNEW that his phone died that night. How would i have known that?
    Chai! I thought all kinds of things between that Friday and Tuesday, not once did i think that his phone died. Imagine all the complicated things i thought and the answer was something so simple. He laughed and promised not to leave me hanging again without an explanation.

    Women tend to over think things a lot and i try to explain to my male friends not to wave off their women's feelings like that. They do annoying stuff or just shut down for whatever reason and expect the babe to understand just like that. Sometimes she will if its obvious but the Arsenal or ManU reasons will not make any sense to her and you have to explain before she starts thinking its that Cynthia girl that called you once 3months ago that you're thinking about

  4. Life is way EASIER with CLEAR communication!!!

    I Wish Men will Communicate Clearly! It's easier to say, "Babe, Arsenal lost their match today because so so n so n so, so I'm gonna sulk for a while".
    I will totally understand that & give u a breather!

    Tell me work/business isn't going great so I'll need to cut down on some money issues instead of looking at me like I'm being extravagant all of a sudden or my new friends are spoiling me!!!

    CLEAR *which includes Honest* Communication Dear Men! U'll enjoy ur women more that way *well, mature women ie*

    1. Lmao! Ruthy?
      How do you expect a soccer fan whose team has lost to have enough lightheartedness to explain why he's in such a mood. My dear you go wait till judgement day...

      I'm pissed off, I'm pissed off. You should be glad I'm not taking it out on you but just keeping quiet. In fact, that's the best you would get.

      Man utd loses to a rival team and you expect me to explain? Smh!

    2. On that judgement day we'll see who'll be sentenced to a Fools prison!!!

      If it were a guy of a rival team won't the man have enough strength to explain & argue?

      I Live with 4 men! I know this 1st hand!

    3. We are saying the same thing. " If it were a guy" that is the point, u will never understand as a lady. Read the title of the post. Lol

  5. After pushing with all your muscles, your body expanding and shrinking all in the name of pregnancy and childbirth... Why wouldn't women look older than their men?

    Again, the women baby their men making sure they are 100% spiritually, emotionally and physically... Are you still wondering?

  6. I wish men show more emotions,it will be nice sometimes

  7. We are two clearly different species. We women are very emotional while men are mostly 'business-like'.

    I share the wish of men aging faster than women. There are a lot of women I know who look like their husbands' elder sisters.


  8. Men are the stronger sex abi, why aren't they the ones pushing out the babies.

  9. I wish men would communicate more n better instead of shutting down. we wont know until you tell us. women don't compartmentalize but men do a great deal. i can relate with the above very well! small silence and i begin to beat myself up, what have i done or said again? could it be work? is he having a rethink? blah blah. but am gradually learning to ignore all those things now that way i stay happier (even if its for 2hours before i start asking d numerous questions. Lols) guess thats how you know you truely love a guy when his silence bothers you.


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