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Open Letter Season, Homophobes Edition.





I was just about to share this comment I saw online when I came across Pastor Jide Macaulay's letter. 

The comment;

"this so called nigerian anti gay bill, at the end of the day, it is you women that will still suffer it.
what stops a gay guy from marrying you or ur sister and using u or her as a beard to cover he’s homosexuality. how would you know he’s gay? u think all gay guys listen to beyonce and rihanna abi? lol
if a gay guy doesn’t want you to know he is gay, u can never know.
what many of you ladies don’t know is, gay guys can still have sex with women. the only thing is, he would close he’s eyes when he’s on top of you and he would be thinking of his boyfriend or he would shut him self down internally while u two are having sex.
when u spend 25 years of ur life with a man who u thought loved u and was attracted to you but never was in the first place, that’s when ur ignorant eyes will open.
when the time comes, I just pity the girl I would marry, because i will be taking long business trips regularly to visit my boo." - Bella Naija.

Here is the letter, as seen on Jide Macaulay's Facebook page:
Open Letter to Homophobes
Far too many people play God and dehumanize Lesbians, Gays, Bisexuals, Trans, and Intersex people throughout the world, in every culture, race, background etc.
The discrimination is so bad that it leaves many LGBTI people wondering and asking questions. This letter to Homophobes is being reproduced to answer many questions people have asked me.
Both heterosexuals and homosexual people, People of all faith have claimed that homosexuality is an abomination according to Leviticus 18:22 and cannot be condoned under any circumstance.
Dear Homophobes,
Thank you for doing so much to educate people regarding God’s Law. I have learned a great deal from your bigoted rhetoric, and try to share that knowledge with as many people as I can. When someone tries to defend the homosexual lifestyle, they are clobbered with Leviticus 18:22 which clearly state it to be an abomination…End of debate.
I do need some advice from you, however, regarding some other elements of God’s Laws and how to follow them.
1. Leviticus 25:44 states that I may possess slaves, both male and female, provided they are purchased from neighbouring nations. A friend of mine claims that this applies to Mexicans, but not Canadians. Can you clarify? Why can’t I own Canadians?
2. I would like to sell my daughter into slavery, as sanctioned in Exodus 21:7. In this day and age, what do you think would be a fair price for her?
3. I know that I am allowed no contact with a woman while she is in her period of menstrual uncleanliness – Lev.15: 19-24. The problem is how do I tell? I have tried asking, but most women take offense.
4. When I burn a bull on the altar as a sacrifice, I know it creates a pleasing odour for the Lord – Lev.1:9. The problems are my neighbours. They claim the odour is not pleasing to them. Should I smite them?
5. I have a neighbour who insists on working on the Sabbath. Exodus 35:2. Clearly states he should be put to death. Am I morally obligated to kill him myself, or should I ask the police to do it?
6. A friend of mine feels that even though eating shellfish is an abomination – Lev. 11:10, it is a lesser abomination than homosexuality. I don’t agree. Can you settle this? Are there ‘degrees’ of abomination?
7. Lev. 21:20 states that I may not approach the altar of God if I have a defect in my sight. I have to admit that I wear reading glasses. Does my vision have to be 20/20, or is there some wiggle-room here?
8. Most of my male friends get their hair trimmed, including the hair around their temples, even though this is expressly forbidden by Lev. 19:27. How should they die?
9. I know from Lev. 11:6-8 that touching the skin of a dead pig makes me unclean, but may I still play football if I wear gloves?
10. My uncle has a farm. He violates Lev.19:19 by planting two different crops in the same field, as does his wife by wearing garments made of two different kinds of thread (cotton/polyester blend). He also tends to curse and blaspheme a lot. Is it really necessary that we go to all the trouble of getting the whole town together to stone them? Lev.24:10-16. Couldn’t we just burn them to death at a private family affair, like we do with people who sleep with their in-laws? (Lev. 20:14)
I know you have studied these things extensively and thus enjoy considerable expertise in such matters, so I am confident you can help.
Thank you again for reminding us that God’s word is eternal and unchanging.
The Other Child of the living God.
*****
Anyone care to provide answers to Jide Macaulay's questions?

Comments

  1. Honestly, my sincere thoughts about this post may incur the wrath of some people so I'll just keep them to myself and wait for comments.

    -F

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  2. I was waiting for you to post it.... Lol.

    So all them homophobes in the house, what say you?

    Cos I see a valid post here

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  3. No matter how they try to paint it, i say our stance wont change!!! Gays are disgusting!!

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  4. Funny pastor (or whatever he claims he is). As much as I'm against homophobia I can't seem to wrap my head around people who go to great lengths trying to justify evil. It doesn't make any sense. Okay...he lashed back at homophobes, and I was like,"Good enough, let me see if he has a new line of defense for homosexuality". Instead he goes on a merry-go-round without a single defense, demanding explanations for Moses' laws from those who demanded from him. Typical "pot calling kettle black/mind your biz" approach. Maybe it's alright for us to be proud of our shortcomings? Someone scream "Gigolo and proud".

    The problem with some gays is that they believe alot of people will attack them if they admit their sexual preference. I'm happy some of them actually recognize it as a real problem and desire more than ever to change. Humans ALWAYS endear themselves to these kind of gay people. It's a difficult journey but it's not impossible. It takes from a few months to even decades to achieve, but the first step is to recognize it's wrong, and watch the homophobia depart from your environment. Stay blessed.

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    1. Evil? Evil?? Memphis... Are u serious?

      How many gay people have attacked you personally?

      How does being gay invariably means "evil"? Or am I the one who is got it all twisted in my head?

      How has the life style of a man which hasn't affected yours violently(whether physical or psychological) become an evil act?

      Let's say I chose to always wear a pink panties such an evil act to you?... I'm sorry that's just how I could liken your 'evil' comment.

      God is love and he's has created us in his own image, that means we should portray love, not 'hate'.

      A baby is born and he has a higher trait of the female hormone than a normal man. Its his fault he's born that way? Its more like saying albinos are 'evil' cos they are not like you.

      Please let us just reevaluate our thought process so we can leave harmoniously. Life(love) isn't that complicated.

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    2. Aww Uyi...

      The point is whomever an "Adult" chooses to have sex with shldnt be a problem to the third party.
      Some women are attracted to older men
      Some women are attracted to married men
      Some men are attracted to women with huge boobs
      Some men are attracted to fuller women
      Some men are attracted to women with huge booty
      Some women are attracted to nerdy-looking guys
      Some women are attracted to rich men
      Some men are attracted to men
      Some women are attracted to women

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    3. Uyi I said it's not beyond gays to seek help. Seek help rather than justify your sexual orientation with weak excuses. Being gay isn't violent, just like being a gigolo or prostitute isn't also. But the question is: why is it difficult to acknowledge this as evil? What should we then call it? A godly act? Why do you feel that to embrace Sin is better than correction and helping those who are caged by this sinful act? You're a Christian, please tell me how you can stand by and watch a man/woman drown in Sin just because it doesn't *violently* affect you? If your brother was gay, or your sister/wife was a lesbian, or any of your kids were gay, would you let them be because you don't feel threatened, or would rather help them? I really don't understand. Or maybe you can tell me why we've got a Censors board and "Parental Control" options on our decoders if what we see on TV doesn't *violently* affect our kids.
      Recall that when JESUS saved the adulterous woman from being stoned HE didn't just send her on her way, HE said, "Go and sin no more". HE didn't judge her, but HE corrected her. That's the mistake you're making; thinking maybe some people who speak against gays are judging them. Not all are, and I was most definitely not. Yeah, GOD is Love, but be aware that GOD condemns Sin of any kind, and homosexuality isn't pleasing to HIS EYES. This "Live and Let Live" attitude you just displayed is the greater danger. JESUS didn't come to wine and dine with Sinners, HE came to call them to repentance. The message of the Apostles was "Repentance". Be friends with gays but please....pleeeaaaasssseeee, stop justifying their act by letting them be, 'cos you wouldn't do the same if it was a family member. Help them through correction just as JESUS did. Stay blessed always

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    4. God bless you Memphis.
      Will come back to give my two cents...

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    5. I'm sure you know what hormones are. Hormones that differenciate a man from a woman, Oestrogens for women and testosterone for men. Now medically, some babies are born with more of the opposite sex hormones than usual. So they usually incline towards that sexual behaviour. That's just one side to it (too)

      Please explain how to help them. Cos there should be a way we can say that they are sinners and how they behave is 'evil'. Let's assume that we are not christians or not religiously principled(like I know some people have chosen be), that should mean they are evil or they are agents of darkness. I am a christian but I don't let my Christianity choose who should or shouldn't be my friends. In fact, my Christianity didn't tell me to see gays are evil people.

      For the record, people have been using different psychiatric and psychological ways to 'help' people who are gays for decades and yet they are still who they are, why?
      You can say, being gay is evil according to Christianity(last time i checked, a lot of people are atheist and we don't 'hate' nor call them 'evil'. We live with other people who are not xtians with love.) But are gay people evil? I don't know abt that.

      Note:
      I'm not Gay and I have never encountered a gay guy or girl before but after looking through our existence as humans, I just can't afford to hate anyone just cos they are not following my Christian doctrines or choose to tag non Christians as 'evil'.

      Anothe question, How is racism any different?

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    6. No one is saying you should 'hate' them uyi. You're totally missing the point here.

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    7. Indulge me babe, what is the point? Cos I look around and anytime anyone says he's gay, people choose to rain curses and death threats on them. The other day some gay guy said his best friend(sister) abandoned him (more like ostracised) just cos he's a Gay guy. Like seriously? Kabouy would you do such a thing? Please tell me.

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    8. Uyi, just like Kabuoy said, you're totally missing the point. I understand your zeal to protect people suffering from xenophobia or the likes, but...na WA o Uyi, try de read person comments na. Did I ever say gays are evil? Please quote me. Your zeal perhaps made you assume the point I tried to make. And if you think being a Christian affords you the right to walk past while your brother walks in darkness, na *one-chance* mentality be that. Simply put: Being a Christian means you should, given the opportunity, stand by what pleases GOD at all times and helping others to do so to the best of your ability. Remember I said JESUS didn't just come to wine and dine with sinners, HE came so that we may be saved from sin.

      Hate the Sin and help the Sinner, no matter how long it takes. If you weren't a Christian or a believer I wouldn't go through this line of argument with you because it would seem, as you implied, trying to force my beliefs down the throat of the unbelievers. But you are one.

      Your last paragraph you talked about a guy being abandoned by his family because he was gay. So wrong of them. But I ask you Uyi, again: if that guy was you bro, would you try helping him, as a Christian, or let him bask in the euphoria of his sexual preference, since it's obvious and commendable you would not abandon him?

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    9. I wouldn't love my brother any less. If after I try to but he still insist, who am I to hate him?

      Most gays are not acting out of ignorance, they know the Christian doctrine or other doctrine they were brought up in but they still choose to not bulge. If you can beat them, you love them. Last resort

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    10. I would not.
      A friend of mine sat beside a gay guy in a cab. he told me he made sure the guy felt uncomfortable and scared throughout the ride and he kept giving him this "i'll find you and kill you look" I laughed and told him that was totally unnecessary.
      Another day I was in the staff bus and denrele drove by in a car and my boss had this look of disgust on his face. I was like that's really not nice. Whether denrele is gay or not, no one should look at another human being like that. He gave me this strange and confused look.
      That's not to say i'm a LGBT activist. I totally condemn the act and I think it's totally and entirely wrong. I also people involved should pray and seek help. Does it mean if I see someone that is Gay, I should look down on him, say nasty and cutting things to him, threaten him, be violent? NO.
      But to encourage and accept it... I can't and would NOT.

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  5. BTW, Pastor Jide is not the originator of that open letter. It has been an internet meme for decades now. And no, it has no effect on entrenched homophobic Christians. God help us all.

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  6. Let me play devils advocate here, most of the rules about hair,cloths etc ended in the old testament before Jesus came, homosexuality,sodomy,lesbianism etc is still mentioned in the new testament even after Jesus left the earth to show that there is nothing new under the sun, if it was spoken against then...

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  7. Homosexuals so to speak have the right to exist like everyone else. That basic tenet closes the argument for me. Jailing them only creates more closeted and harmful effects all round. A man that likes butt will only go further in the closet when it becomes criminal, so will a woman who likes boobs only.

    www.pynk360.com

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  8. Honestly, I strongly feel that the society through its legislative arm should not decide what sexual orientation is acceptable or mandatory. It is a breach of a citizen's personal life and also negates the essence of fundamental human rights. This issue still remains one that I hold against President Jonathan. While Boko Haram was growing in strength, conquering territories of Nigeria and killing Nigerians, the Senate and Presidency in their reasoning thought it better to start deliberating and eventually passing the anti-gay bill. Whatever sexual escapades two consenting adults decide to explore in their privacy isn't a third party's business and certainly isn't the society's concern. Any human has a basic and fundamental right to life and that is a right not a privilege irrespective of such person's sexual orientation. We'd achieve more and move forward as a society if we put in functioning mechanisms that apprehend and punish those that commit rape, under-age/child marriage, bigamy etc. Perhaps, if Nigeria were better developed, the legislators and Presidency should be thinking of putting in place punitive measures against men that have been neglecting their family duties and husbandly duties engaging in unabashed extra-marital affairs as neglect of the family has a direct effect on the well-being of any society.

    There isn't any thing fundamentally wrong with being gay. It doesn't connote being a criminal or having a detrimental effect on the society. The underlying problem which most people overlook is that religion is primarily a personal endeavour. In most defences by homophobes they cross the line from defence hinged on societal effects and consequences to religious effects and consequences. Nigeria is a non-religious country last time I checked the constitution so why do we selectively pick the bible's standpoint on issues. I'm not gay and as much as I have tried, I can't understand why anyone will be attracted to the same sex. I understand this one thing though: The Bible admonishes me to walk in love with all, thus I'd respect whatever choice or lifestyle my fellow human being chooses even when I'm convinced such choice isn't optimal but I'd never stop praying for such persons and probably through my Godly living such person might be convincted of his/her sins and choose a more salutary path.

    A better approach would be to massively educate and enlighten the society of the downsides associated with such act or lifestyle (homosexualism).

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    1. Please hug me.... HUG ME BRO!!!!!

      *no homo* Lol.

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    2. "...The Bible admonishes me to walk in love with all, thus I'd RESPECT WHATEVER CHOICE or lifestyle my fellow human being chooses even when I'm convinced such choice isn't optimal but I'd NEVER STOP PRAYING FOR such persons and probably through my Godly living such person might be convincted of his/her sins and choose a more salutary path..."

      See the block letters in your comment Chrisyinks, shows how you contradict yourself and why I'm convinced Uyi totally missed your point (and mine) before he became love struck. Lmao.

      You're RESPECTING people's choices to live? Commendable. So why are you bothered all of a sudden about their way of life and now want to PRAY for them and convince them through your GODLY living? Something wrong? :\

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    3. As J said below, in more ways than one, we (Memphis, Uyi and I) are saying the
      same thing, just differing on nuances. Remember the part of The Bible that admonishes us to love our enemies inspite of their acts (Romans 12:19-21). Let me state clearly that I do not
      consider gays to be the enemies, it's just the essence of that Bible text that is my reference. It shows us the convicting power of love and that Love is still a potent force for correction and reproof.
      As J also remarked, if there is any opportunity for me to offer my biblical stance and distate for homosexualism with the probability of it convicting people of their errant ways, why not?

      I may not have made it clear earlier but I do not support homosexualism in any form and appearance but I can't ostracize or be in support of any laws that calls for jail sentence for this set of
      people. When it comes to an understanding of sins, I live my life on this Biblical principle: 'God is not against the sinner for sin, He is always for the sinner against the sin.'

      Does God abhor homosexualism?
      Yes
      Should Nigeria enact laws against homosexualism?
      No

      Like I tried to explain with my earlier comment, Nigeria which derives its existence from the constitution is also a secular nation as enshrined in the constitution. Religion is a personal
      endeavour thus laws and tenets of a religion shouldn't be used to enact laws that are detrimental to the society especially when the target of those laws aren't indulging in criminal related activities.

      We can't afford to burn bridges linking us to gays just because we want them to desist from that act.

      @Memphis

      It appears we only differ in our method of approach. I believe one has to tolerate a lot of undesirables just to achieve one's greater goal. Yes I believe
      homosexualism is wrong from a personal standpoint, just as I believe that stealing, lying, being promiscous, corrupt, etc are also wrong but I am quite aware that there is no wisdom in
      attacking these set of people head-on as it would lead to hostility and divert me from my actual goal - for them to see the error in their ways. I just believe that prayer (which has been proved time and
      time again to be a potent tool for change) and Godly living by me are better effective tool in stemming homosexualism

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  9. As for the introductory comment, it swings both ways. The wife could be a lesbian or be in the marriage for less than mutual concerns. The commenter in question doesn't even understand he'd be doing himself a disservice living a life to keep up appearances. Years down the line, he'd be surprised how much his life is based on falsehood and how much of the falsehood he diligently created. There are many countries in the world that are better receptive to homosexuals and if being a homosexual is of core importance to his life, please avail yourself of a permIt to stay/asylum is such countries.

    To Pastor Jide Macaulay's comment, please stop employing diversionary tactics. Hold your own and defend your choice rather than shooting empty shells at the same Bible and religion that empowers you to be called a Pastor. The Bible tells us that the letter killeth but the spirit gives life. The israelites were God's called and chosen set of people, and to show that to the rest of the world, there had to be a distinguishing lifestyle that showed them as a people set apart. If one thinks that one can attain to Godliness, Holiness, Righteousness and other Christian teachings through dogmatic adherence to the letters of the Bible, be ready to die - literally (as inferred from the Bible). We are in a dispensation of grace, grace that acknowledges our weakness but does not condone sins. A dispensation that God's code for His children need not be written on scrolls or in books but placed in our hearts and radiated through our daily living and choices.

    PS: I couldn't make my response one comment as I had exceeded the word limit. Didn't even know there was such limit

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  10. Memphis... one thing I like about your comments is that you pick a side and you stand by it. Thank you for being a voice and standing out in this upside down world where everyone is confused about what is right or wrong. Making excuses for doing the wrong things even going as far as using the bible. *sign of the cross*
    You have really changed the way I view catholics and I must say you impress me every time. God bless you.

    Uyi... sometimes I try to understand your line of thought and I can't really understand what exactly it is you stand for. what u see as wrong or right. But I guess everyone is entitled to their opinion so i'll just leave it at that.

    Uncle Chris... no comment

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    1. My dear, I'm spiritual not religious...

      There's a quote going round the internetosphere that 'we were humans until religion, race, wealth, politics etc. Divided us'. So Kabouy, is this statement true?

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  11. chrisyinks, your comment makes perfect sense. something I would say if I could deliver speech as articulately as you did. God bless you. Iyanu

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    1. Thank you. God bless you also.

      I believe I write better than I speak so don't be deceived. There is this group called 'Toastmasters' who I believe their sole aim is to make people better public speakers. You can google them and join if you are interested.

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  12. chrisyinks, your comment makes perfect sense. something I would say if I could deliver speech as articulately as you did. God bless you. Iyanu

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  13. The truth of the matter is the Nig law actually acknowledges that homosexuals exist among us. All the law is saying is just stay in the closet and do ur shit very discretely as long as ur not caught or/and casted...

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  14. If you guys analyse your comments (Memphis,Uyi and Chrisyinks) you will see that you agree on many points.
    @ Memphis, as a christian being gay is a sin. A sin not different from fornication,adultery, stealing, lying etc. No matter how much I may indulge in any of the above, I will never tell my self the lie that such acts are ok because a lot of people indulge in it. However, I will be a hypocrite if I single out a particular sinner and treat him in a different way from other sinners because his sin disgusts me more. That is my problem with most Christians as per gay people. I don't see people calling out adulterers and fornicators the way they do gay people. I will relate to a gay person the way I relate to any other person cos we are all sinners. I will only offer help if I have a close relationship with the person. Until the day, you stop and offer help to any prostitute you pass on the way, then you are free to offer help to any gay person that comes your way. J

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    1. "Until the day, you stop and offer help to any prostitute you pass on the way, then you are free to offer help to any gay person that comes your way"

      I'm so with you on this, as a Christian that I proudly am.

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  15. @ Uyi, We acknowledge the fact that some people are not Christians and may not believe in the bible but as a Christian I do believe in the bible. Blame the hormones for the abnormality, but one must not give in to sin even though some factors make them more vulnerable to those sins. If one is a clepto, does it make stealing ok just for that person? Treat all with love I agree, but treating one with love does not connote accepting an act of sin to become sin no more. Hating or jailing someone because of their sexual orientation is dumb. J

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    1. Never has the expression "gbam!' ever had more significance than now. Thanks Miss J for your comments. I have empathy towards the gay folks cos they didnt make themselves that way but I'm a christian and if the bible says its wrong then...thats just one of those things. But as far as that Nigeria's legislation against them goes, its unarguably a f*cked up law and it seems like everyone who has commented so far agrees with that so...I'm ayt with that.
      But another thing is, can a gay dude's sexual orientation change through prayers. Yea I know there are hundreds of testimonies where people claim they had been 'healed', but arent they just repressing it. There was once a talk show (Tyra Banks maybe) where the dude claimed he had been healed, and there was tangible evidence that the 'demon' had left him but after the talk show host probed him further, he admitted that honestly, he still gets those urges. So mehn, shit aint easy for those folks, they deserve our love and concern, not condemnation.

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  16. @ Chrisyinks, loving someone does not mean that I "respect" all they stand for. I love my uncle, but will never align with the fact that he is unfaithful. Whenever I have the chance, I always put it out there that his behaviour disgusts me. I have a gay friend, one of the most wonderful people I know, do I love him? Yes. Will I ever say well it's ok to be gay it's you choice, No. But in correcting each other, we do it in love. He says, you have to pray this your stubbornness away, I reply pray for your d..k to love p..sy. He keeps away from relationship from both guys and girls. It's a struggle, sometimes he falls, sometimes he just gives in, the other times he resists. The same way I try to keep away from sin, sometimes I fall,the other times I give in. In all we must show love and not hate. J

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    1. Perhaps I gave the wrong impression with the word 'respect' in my earlier usage. I share the same sentiments about gays as you have described in your scenarios.

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    2. This was so on point. This is my own two cents though.
      If we go down history line we would see that the law as we know it today is a product of religion and culture. Laws became changed with civillization and with each ruling empire such that when it was a greek world the law was such and when it was a france world the pope dictated the law. That been said Nigeria signed the anti gay law as relating to its customs, tradition and religion of which none supports same sex courtship or marriage.
      I try not to despise the gays and lesbians, even though naturally I want to. If people with diseases caused by hormonal dysfunction and genetic mutations are helped. Then why not those who are not in our thought pattern due to hormones lyk Uyi said helped. Christ died for all whether we like it or not. If He then died for all why despise those he died for. Showing love physically and by praying is not too much to ask.
      The guidelines for any believer should be to walk in the Spirit and thou shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh Gal 5:16. If thou knoweth to do good and doeth it not, to Him it is a sin. James 4:17. The only law in the new testament which Jesus said we should follow is; Love God and Love your neighbour as thyself. If you love God you will not do things God would frown at. You can all read Gal 5. I hope this helps clear the air on all disaggrements. Ibukun

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A side chick is commonly known as a mistress or a woman that’s romantically involved with a man who is in a committed relationship.  However after doing some reflecting, I realize that’s not the only type of side chick.  I want to discuss “the new side chick”–a woman who decides to stay by a man’s side after he has expressed his lack of relationship intentions with her through his words or actions.  So many women have made this mistake at least once in their lifetime, and unfortunately I’ve done the same thing. I like to think of the new side chick as an appetizer.  You’re there just to satisfy the immediate appetite of the man, but as soon as that mouth-watering entrée comes out to the table, you will get pushed to the side, literally.  Why?  Because that entrée is what he really wanted; he went to the restaurant to order steak, not hot wings.  You were just a placeholder, fling, temporary commitment, or  maybe even just a “good ol time” until what he really wanted was presented to hi…

Shhhhhhh....

I'm in an amebo mood tonight. Don't ask me, I honestly don't know why. Also I'd like to share too but I'd do that anonymously in the comment section. Tonight I want to talk about secrets. It's ok, we can all be anonymous. 
Is it true that EVERYBODY has a secret? 
Is there anyone here who doesn't have a secret? I'd really like to know; You're a completely open book and there's not ONE thing about you that you wouldn't mind other people knowing about? Please raise your hands up. 
And for the rest of us, what's something about you that no one knows, or very few people know? Who's got a dark secret here, or a weird one, or a funny one even? I really don't mean to be invasive but I don't want to be the only one sharing, plus I think hearing other people's secrets is quite fun, don't you think?

Let's Be Random Together! (Open Keypad).

Hey guys, a while back blog reader F said something about creating an Open Keypad post, where you can write whatever you want in the comment section. I thought it was a fun idea!
So who is interested? Comment on anything you feel like, ask me or anyone a question, talk about how your day went, your job, your interests, tell us something about you that we don't know, share a testimony with us, rant about anything you feel like, talk about your crush/boo/spouse/relationship/marriage, challenges you're facing, ANYTHING AT ALL! 
I'll only make one request; that we stay civil. 

(F it was you who made this suggestion, right? I'm not too sure and I can't even remember the post the comment was made on). 
BTW please Ejoeccome out come out, wherever you are!

Adventures, Fun, Friendship & Laughter at the TTB Hangout (Lekki Conservation Center).

Nicole to Clare: mummy lets go. I want to climb that ropy thing!

Isn't Clare beautiful?!

Uyi et moi. Clowning. 

Mother & child. 


Scary af! Trish on the ramp. The chica loves the outdoors so much, she was like a kid in a candy store. She and Uyi took this walk twice! More power to them, you can't pay me to do this a second time.


Uyi & Tiwa

Question of The Day.

TTB readers doesn't this tweet below remind you of something?
That mail that someone sent me a few weeks back. 
But why on earth should a man sleep with his son's fiancé? But what am I saying, some men even sleep with their daughters...

Oh well, I'm throwing the question to you. What has happened in your life that you never saw coming, you never hesperred it, you never imagined could happen, you never imagined could happen to you? 
It could be good, it could be bad, it could be ugly. Do tell!
And it can be more than one. Let me tell you a few. 
-owning a blog -week long dry fast at Prayer City (I never hesperred it).  -staying in an (emotionally) abusive relationship.
The others require anonymity. LOL. Now over to you.