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The Pains Of a Side Chick.

What people don’t understand is that Side Chicks experience a lot of pain. Except you have an extremely low self esteem or the man in question is a stupid useless mugu, the side chick suffers except the man in question is just a side nigga too.

Imagine calling your man and him saying ‘I can’t talk now, I’m with my wife’. Imagine never going out publicly with the man you love. Imagine a man giving you stipends.

Except you just want the money and at this point, the man isn’t even distracted that much.

I once dated a married man, he was my type of guy but the day I called him and he said ‘I’m at home, I can’t talk now’. I wanted to die. Me that likes attention. God Dey.


Last week I saw the above comment on a blog. While she got a lot of replies from people wanting to devour her, I've wandered all week if she doesn't indeed have a valid grievance. I mean, side chicks are people too, with feelings, emotions and needs. Yes, on the one hand we can argue that they already knew what they were getting into. But on the other, the heart is a stubborn little thing with a mind of its own. So... Do side chicks have a right to feel pain? Have you ever felt the way the commenter does, or are you of the opinion that every side chic should just jump into the lagoon and die? LOL. 

She who has ears......!

Guys, tomorrow is toothe extraction day. I've removed a number of teeth but none since I started blogging, so I'm not quite sure if I'll be able to make an appearance, but I think I would. I actually enjoy having my molars and premolars pulled out. Hehehe, let's hope tomorrow's is as enjoyable as the others. If I'm absent then you'll know that it wasn't so pleasurable and I needed time to nurse the pain


  1. You enjoy removing your teeth? Unless the *whatever they call it* drug injected into your gums are really effective, you're really powerful. The day I pulled out my wisdom tooth was the day I knew the true meaning of hell. There was nothing I didn't promise GOD during the process. Oh well, happy tooth-extraction day in advance. :-)

    1. Memphis it's either you drink a lot of alcohol or the dosage they administered to you wasn't enough. Once they inject me I don't feel any pain but when they start to extract I feel the "plier" tug at my tooth and I feel it being pulled and dislocated from the socket and all of that. I think I just derive some pleasure in knowing that ordinarily this is probably the most painful thing in the world but thanks to science I don't feel a thing. And even when the drug wears off I still don't feel any pain. It's the reason I wonder at people who make a big deal out of dentists and extractions. But why do I feel like after all this blabbing tomorrow's would hurt like hell? Memphis please don't jinx my extraction-experience!!

    2. Ha Thelma, you are one in a thousand o. I had a similar experience with Memphis. I went to hell and back! The injection did not work at all and it wasn't a case of alcohol; it was a terrible experience for me.


    3. Tee, did you say big deal? hayyyyy!!!! I think that's the most painful thing ever. While the nurse was consoling me, she promised that if I could handle the pain, childbirth would be a walk over....I kept sobbing like a toddler....Extract my tooth again? not in a hurry mehnnn.

  2. Hahahaha that side chick is high on cheap crack o. "Imagine calling your man...." do we need to break the news to her that the guy in question is not her man. I respect side chicks that at least know their place and act likewise. It's mostly strictly business. Sex for Money. Abeg leave the feeling bad and all those mushy feeling for the wife/main chick. J

  3. Take really good care of your teeth. Since you're planning on artificial insemination, pregnancy affects your gums. What affects your gums, affects your teeth. You can only have paracetamol while pregnant. Forget antibiotics and the rest. Just giving you a heads up.


    1. Thanks Mallama. I'm not exactly "planning" on artificial insemination, I only mentioned the concept to a friend and that spiraled into a huge debate on single mothers. And thanks also for the heads up, I know I can't take serious medication while I'm pregnant. Which is why I might just as well get rid of the teeth and the pain in its entirety right now. Oh Mallama why the preggers talk nau? Now you've got me thinking, again.
      Actually I think I should steer clear of this topic because I feel like there are women in marriages desperately seeking the fruit of the womb and I, with talks of insemination and single-motherhood, inadvertently make light of a very serious situation.

    2. Pls note that it's not just medication u need to stay off! Some anti prespirants are also bad! Was on dry sol before pregnancy but for some reason I went off it during pregnancy only to discover that it could have harmed my baby!!!

  4. Happy tooth extraction day.

    Yeah everyone is entitled to their respective feelings. She isn't just entitled to taking such feelings up with her 'man'. She waved her entitlment to those rights when she decided to become the side chick, heart or no heart.

  5. Happy tooth extraction day,hope it goes well

    If you decide to be a side chick you should be ready for whatever treatment you get

  6. I see no reason a side chick should feel bad. Until she becomes a wife (if she ever gets there), her rights, same for her obligations, are very limited.


    well, i once had a fling with a married man (not proud of it) but i had more quality time than d wife while it lasted. always with me till late in d night plus weekends n even when he gets home we chat for hours. FYI we had sex just twice, so, its not always about sex n money sometimes its about friendship and nice company. had to end it cos i noticed d wife was becoming miserable n i was filled with guilt (had passwords to his mails n phone) and i was beginning to catch way too much feelings. became his shrink and helped him fix his marriage (that am proud of) though it wasnt easy. his wifey is happy n i have my own DH now *phew* 1st time confession.

    1. This really got me ROTFLMSAO!!!

      U'all are clowns on this blog oh....

  8. Anonymous Rider!11:12 am, April 14, 2015

    Singing ~ Jesus did not die on the cross for you to be a Side Chic.

    1. Hahaha. Abi oo!..I've got no sympathy for side chics. Na who send dem message?

    2. either knowingly or unknowingly 90% of ladies were once a side chic! dont forget side chic dey become main chic or wifey sef.


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