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This Is a Joke Right? Fat-Shaming Women Who Gave Birth Through C-Section.




I'm not sure where Linda Ikeji found this picture but it's simply got to be a joke, one of those things some loony posts on the Internet to stir up arguments and instigate fights.

But I'll just ask, do you mothers who gave birth the natural way feel that mothers who had their baby/babies through C-section took the easy way out? Do you resent them for this? Do you feel you had it tough and they didn't?

I'm itching to know. 

But did the ignoramus who wrote this know that most people don't have C-sections by choice? Especially in this age where everyone is #teamfitfam and everybody wants to post smoking hot post-baby bods one month after leaving the labour room? I attended a get together some days ago and everyone one beside just two of us are mothers, but guess what, they were all wayyyy hotter than me! You wouldn't even know the ladies were married, let alone that they had babies under the age of 1. On the other hand a dear friend of mine had her baby through CS a month ago due to some complications, and she couldn't take a bath for 3 weeks because of the scar. Not only that, she hates her body right now, because she cannot exercise for now, waist-train or be aggressive about weight loss as she would have loved. Why the heck would a right thinking person make that meme above?!!!

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  1. "...Why the heck would a right thinking person make that meme above?!!!"

    Well, they're not thinking right hence don't fit that class of "Right Thinking People".

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  2. Gbam! Memphis, if no be say you be man,eh........!!!

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    1. Ehn...wetin for happen???

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    2. Lmaooo! Ehen Eazee! Wetin for happen o! I want to know too! Lmaoo!

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    3. na story una two dey find,abi?! Lol!!

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  3. This is crazy,when do we stop this? A lot of women refuse to get a c section cos of the shame and end up losing their life and or the baby. I had my first via c section and the second naturally without drugs,cos it went so fast( ps I was screaming for epidural) so am no stranger to the shaming funny enough it came from a mother who had also had a c section her reasoning my first was a c section !!
    Can we move past this. And stop shaming our fellow women!

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  4. Most women who go through a C-section is always on doctor's instruction as normal birthing might not be in the best interest of the woman's health. No way a breech positioned baby will come out naturally.

    On the other hand, there a women (and i know a few) who went through this surgery so as to "retain the tightness of their vejayjay"......To those, I am sure, this article was targeted at.

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    1. Does that actually cause the Virgina to get lose? So some ladies actually choose cs because of this reason ?
      Interesting

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    2. Lol! Memebaby, I dont have one of those so I cant answer that!

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    3. Eazee E I once heard a man say that his wife's births have all been through CS at HIS insistence; he cannot afford to have that place go loose. I know a few women used to opt for CS for that reason too.

      That said, I've asked a few men I'm close to who have "been with" mothers, if the veejayjay of a mother is different from one who hasn't had a baby, most say it isn't. So what gives?

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  5. I never knew this happens!

    I had my kids naturally and I feel very lucky, no, blessed that I went through labour and each time, came out of it alive with each baby sound and well.

    I have never felt superior to those who gave birth through CS...never will do. There is absolutely no reason to be; doesn't make any sense.

    -F

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  6. This is common in our culture. I've heard it said that children born by CS, are not born of a woman. I guess that means they fell out of the sky. This is why some women will rather push a breech or 4kg baby than opt for CS. Up North, you're described as lazy for opting for CS. This belief system is another reason for our high maternal mortality rate. The size of the vagina is determined by DNA not childbirth. Kegels exercise helps too. Think about this, those hip wriggling dancers have really tight vaginas. It's cruel to say this to a mother. She endured the pain and anxiety of pregnancy, only for some nincompoop to label her lazy for her choice of birth. If we had a choice, some android will get pregnant, birth the baby and raise the child until s/he turns 18 years old. So we don't have to do anything for the child.

    Mallama

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    1. Oh! So some actual people actually think like this? Who even goes around asking how a child was born? They scorn you for being single. They scorn you for being childless. They still scorn you for not pushing the child out from your vagina. We humans have got to be the most cruel of God's creations.

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    2. It's weird but I've had the same thoughts too. Being borne of a woman and being cut out of a woman are technically very different. But luckly,they give the same result.
      Now that epidural's are here to stay,i guess it's the best of both birthing techniques!

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  7. Its a very insensitive and foolish meme. I had a c-section after being unresponsive to continuous inducement. So i should feel bad for opting for surgery that would save both my life and that of my baby's? Very foolish thought.

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  8. I went tru cs after 2 days of excruciating pain and today I have my lovely 8month old bambino n I don't care wat anybody has to say, my friend tries to make me feel bad about it sometimes but I just smh. My other friend used to say she'll go through cs so her girlfriend will be tight and I tell her a man will cheat on a virgin if he's a cheat. That said if I had a choice ill go tru natural delivery cos it's cheaper and you can start working out immediately. It's been 8 months and my incision still hurts sometimes.
    Michie girl

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    1. Pls don't let anyone make you feel bad. In fact you should be too lost in happiness that you have a little one to care about what anyone thinks.

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  9. O my gosh. This us ridiculous. Some people just sit down somewhere and create very silly things, anyone who goes through child birth and makes it out alive should thank God.

    CS or Normal.

    I even think CS is worse. I have experienced both. CS is more painful as far as I am concerned (based on my personal experience. I didn't eat for 3 days, couldn't carry my baby for about 5 days. Was in pain for over 2 weeks, didn't take a proper full bath for 2 weeks, couldn't pee without pains for weeks, couldn't walk up right for weeks, I could go on and on.

    Not to talk of the scar. I can't wait to begin using my tummy gadgets to get back in shape annd some "mad goat" is there judging women.

    This is just silly.

    Clare.

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  10. Some people are just incredibly stupid...

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  11. Same reason some pastors will ask people to pray to deliver like the Hebrew women as if CS is an abnormality or a curse! Mschewww! Why not just pray for safe delivery?

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  12. I had my babies naturally and I have no superiority complex over those who didn't. For my first I was been advised to opt for CS and was even telling my hubby the same thing , when the doctor decided to try 'sweeping' first. He did that twice and it worked.

    Most times, CS is done to save lives. So why the harsh judgements?...

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  13. I had my babies naturally and I have no superiority complex over those who didn't. For my first I was been advised to opt for CS and was even telling my hubby the same thing , when the doctor decided to try 'sweeping' first. He did that twice and it worked.

    Most times, CS is done to save lives. So why the harsh judgements?...

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  14. Very ignorant and insensitive write-up. That person needs psychiatric help

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  15. I had my baby by c-section because she was breech and couldn't be turned. I had no choice. My baby and I bonded immediately and I don't think twice about the pain that followed. The procedure exists to save the lives of mothers where a natural birth would endanger the mother and infant. Ignorant post by someone who has a superiority complex.

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