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"May Your Man Not Encounter a Seasoned Side Chic". - Dr Joro Olumofin.

Psychologist Joro Olumofin penned this piece for the side chicks, who seek and stay with unattainable men.

“Side Chick” (The Pursuit of Unattainable Men )

This topic is one of the most common social and maladaptive issues or problems of our Generation. Before I begin I’d like to define two concepts (I) side chick (2) unattainable men.. 

(I) SideChick : This is a Lady who is intentionally or Unintentionally in love or infatuated with a Man who committed to another Lady by Law or Love i.e. he has a girlfriend or wife 
(II) Unattainable Man: This is man is deeply committed to another Lady and most times has a lot of wealth or success. 

This being said, it’s so sad today to see a lot of young bright, beautiful, well educated ladies waste years or months of their lives In pursuit of unattainable men, to be fair and honest some ladies do not know that some of these men are married or have a girlfriend because some men are skilled in hiding their significant other.

But there are some Ladies who are fully aware that a man is taken and has a family but still fall in love with him, which ends up distracting him from his basic duties to his family. Often both women will place financial demands on him, plan separate birthday parties for him, travel with him before or after Valentine’s Day, send nude pictures to him, some even go as far as attacking or prank calling his wife from time to time; telling her “my breast is your mans pillow” or please feed your man I’m tired of cooking for him..

My Questions: why dedicate your life to a man that may never be yours? why play number 2 or believe a man when he tells you he’ll make you number 1, why breakup a happy home? Why be with a man who left his wife or girlfriend for you? If he leaves his wife or girlfriend for you? How are you sure he wouldn’t do the same to you? Why build the foundation of your relationship on someone’s sorrow?

It is valid to assert that some of the ladies who this applies to are living in a “self inflicted fantasy” where their minds and cognition are fixed on having a fairy tale ending with another Lady’s Man or husband. Efforts should be put into Building your own relationships not hijacking another persons own.

May your man not encounter a seasoned SideChick.


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  1. All this side chick,main chick,wiffy issues is becoming overrated jor......Marriage and its baggage..hmph...TNHW

    1. Funny enough, sidechicking, mainchicking and wifeying matter has being in existence since d days of old. The only difference btw then and now is.. Then, a man would wifey d side chic (as many as desired self) immediately without objection from any corner e.g king now, "u promised to love me and me alone" wont let wifey agree to another mate. So hence the sidechicking these days. Because d man would still do, only hide. If men are permitted to av as many wives as they desire now ehn, uhmmm...women go belive ce most of their husbands na animals o. Hence my conclusion that we now live in a world full of hypocrites

  2. Hmm,i really donno how to respond to this article.

    Does the Dr know how many mothers today are 2nd wives and hence have no qualms if their daughter finds love in another woman's husband?

    Does the Dr also knw that some ladies just wanna be selfishly happy?

    Does the Dr also knw that the Mr "unattainable man" is already attainable if there's already a side chick in the mix???

    Does the Dr also knw that this side-chick memo talk is getting old? #Yawns

  3. The man as usual is blameless in all of it. Hmmp.

    1. OMG!!!! U'all got me ROTFLMSAO!

      Sasha I'm with U on that attainable margin. Once Mr Man wanders, he becomes attainable to anyone...

      Like I always Say, Madam should brainlock, eyelock & dicklock her hubby!!! So outside babes go rest cos Men will always be Men, "Majority" sha... But Wife sef no go enjoy Hubby like that!

      So everyone should just be happy as they know how!

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