You know, I'm somewhat liberal. Yet even I saw this post yesterday and did a double take.
It's possible I'm not seeing the full picture. Also, some argue that Dele Momodu was cunningly trying to let the world know that Davido is the father of the child, just in case he tries to deny this at a letter date, thus writing their names in capital letters...
Still, have times and things really changed to the point where a child is born out of wedlock, fathered by someone barely out of his teens, and the elders publicly applaud them?
I've been staring at this post and trying to make sense of it. Another nagging question is; if the father was some unknown nobody, would Dele Momodu proudly celebrate this baby? Or does Davido "Omo baba olowo" Adeleke being the father, change everything?
Anyways, I wonder about baby-mamaism. What's happening people? I have and will always have respect for single mothers, I admire their strength and courage, anyone can walk to the abortion clinic and quietly get rid of a baby. Only a few are willing to damn it all and have that child.
Still, have values become so inconsequential that the younger women take pride in being pregnant by almost anyone, with or without commitment? Some days ago my friends got to talking about Anna Banner and one became so impassioned; why would such a promising beautiful young girl do this to herself, just... Why?
I have no answers. Maybe because the baby-daddy is Flavour?
Yes. This brings me to this new culture of Nigerian celebrities scattering their seeds all over the place, spewing them recklessly into the open legs of young girls who don't have enough sense to insist on protection... While I'm certain some of these ladies do want to get pregnant by these men, don't they think? If this guy is such a big celebrity and he's sleeping with you, who isn't his wife, without protection, do you know how many others he's doing the same with? Even if you have no respect for yourself or your body, have you no regard for your health? Eiiish!
I never intended to go on a rant this morning but I started writing and I got emotional. I burn at the thought of the next generation of fatherless children, children with absent fathers, children deprived of the benefits, joys and pleasures of being born within a family unit with both parents present and united, children born with the knowledge that mama was a mere baby mama and if mama was, then why can't I be? Children turning into adults and building romantic or sexual relationships with their blood relatives, only they didn't know this because they didn't know for sure "how many of us daddy had".
And there's something I learnt recently. I never knew I would say this, in fact I have always resented and disregarded people who make such assertions. But guys, observations and experiences I've had in the past weeks have taught me that some stereotypes are not completely unfounded. A lot of products from broken homes/polygamous homes/with absentee parents, aren't as rounded as products of traditional homes. I'm not saying this conclusively. I in no way mean to suggest that everyone from non-traditional homes have behavioral problems, and everyone from traditional homes turn out to be model citizens, we all know they don't. Still, the presence of both parents, working together as one unit, in a child's life does have several advantages, some of which build, shape and strengthen the character of the child. It really does make me wonder about Baby Mamaism and the resultant effects.
Times are indeed changing and thoughts of tomorrow leave a sour taste in my mouth. The picture above, which in no way affects or concerns me, got me all in my feelings. No, I don't expect him to publicly berate them, but to publicly pat them on the back... Now that's a whole new level of unconditional love and acceptance.
And while I often love to share my thoughts, I'm fully aware that no one has a monopoly on knowledge, that there are angles I may not have seen or considered, and that even though your opinions dissent from mine, I may still have something to learn from them. Thus I ask; thoughts? Please share.