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Dear Thelma, (First Date Wahala).

Please i need a quick advise from you before i make a mistake again. Is it advisable for a girl to go to a guys house for their first date. I actually like the guy and i'm willing to start a relationship with him but i'm skeptical about going to his place the first time we are actually meeting. It might create a bad impression or something. What do you think about it please.
    You can also throw it open for the house but i want your own honest answer first. The date is taking place tomorrow.      


  1. It might create a bad impression for who?? Wow! Anyhooo... If it's a date, then y'all need to go somewhere not his house or your house....and when you say you don't wanna make the same 'mistake again'.... I take it that you are finding it hard to learn a lesson from your previous encounters....

  2. he's gonna have to be a 'lil more creative than that!

    1. hang on... did you say "first time you're meeting"??? as in you have never laid your two koro koro eyes on him before? If that's the case, you gon' have to meet him in a very public place o.

    2. I was heheing @ur first comment

  3. He should take you someplace else not his house.

  4. Don't go to his house o. And if you must, let everyone know where you are. Call family and give them his address. While he's standing in front of you. This is where pessimism comes in handy. Do you know if he's a violent criminal?


  5. Is it advisable, No! Should you go, I still vote No! Not because of impressions (even though there may be validity in that), but solely because of safety and security. Keep it public, serial killers have been found to be really trustworthy and 'nice' people.

    1. Are there serial killers in Nigeria though? #reallywanttoknow

    2. There are, my dear. Just that people are not enlightened through media like in the western world. Thank God for social media, now we are getting to know a lot about all these.

  6. When did dates start taking place in peoples homes? Sweetie don't do it.

  7. Please go to an open place. His house is a no no in this instance.


  8. Question answered by all!

  9. Oh Thelma Thinks readers answering questions since 1990........ only readers that answers questions better than Google

    Dear Poster if u don't take some or all of these advices then I dunno because they are all right.... Have fun on your date

  10. It beats me how a lady is now d one visiting a man in his house on a first date. Have things actually deteriorated to this extent or am I just unrefined or oldschool? Or is it that we have too many young girls nowadays with low self esteem and selfworth? Should this even b a question on a blog like Thelmathinks? Hian!

  11. Hian! No now.. Its a first date fa! Do a public place please.

    Why would anyone want take a girl to his house on a first date anyway?

  12. Shei una don stop to fear gbomogbomo abi. Please choose a neutral place according to my

  13. Babe, "a wise is enough for the word"

    If you get the messages above, I'm sure you will have no problem understanding my quote.

  14. Babe, "a wise is enough for the word"

    If you get the messages above, I'm sure you will have no problem understanding my quote.

    1. GBAM!!!

      Do not even go to his house the first month. Yeah, I'm extreme like that!

    2. Ruthy dear! How's ur new biz going? I live in far north, would have ordered some cookies.

      God bless ur hustle dear!

  15. Question answered by everyone! Dear it's a no no

  16. Naaa! Don't try it. When did first dates start taking place in a guy's place? Hian!!!

  17. It's a trap. Don't go. If he gets upset DTMFA.

  18. You are meeting him for the first time and the meeting place is his house? Receive sense and act accordingly.
    MY 2 years hair growth report. Awesome!

  19. so I like this guy.. we've gone on several dates and we both went to his home..lord God.. I live in the GTA and I have never been to that part of town in my life! so ghetto.. heck, he may be the only sane person living there.. this guy is nigerian, 26 and just finished his masters..why did he choose such area to live in..even if it's cheap..there are safer places to live in. I don't know if I sound materialistic but i really hate where he stays and from the look of things, i don't think he's very much financially stable as he just got a job after grad ..which i'm sure he's not earning a lot...for now..he asked me to be his girlfriend but I haven't given him an answer yet. I am dragging my feet and i think its because of his present financial situation. i like this guy so much and I feel so terrible that i'm doing this but is it bad to have a boyfriend who at lives in a comfortable environment? must not have a car just yet as he lives and works in the city and not too broke... I'm not a gold digger..but lets just say I cannot let friends or family know where this guy stays as it is ghetto as hell..with crack heads around..

    1. My dear...He's got a job, obviously isn't a loafer and this may just be the 'humble beginning' part of his success story. He could be worth the temporal 'shame', but you can only come to that conclusion after weighing his pros and cons. Remember that 'immediate past President' Jonathan (Lord! it feels good to type that) was once a shoeless, hungry fellow... I'm sure the same friends and family would sing a different tune if things work out great for him, with you by his side.
      As the cynic that I can be, I'll add that there's a possibility that once the money starts rolling in, you may no longer fit the program, in which case a more befitting queen will be chosen.
      As a child of faith *shines teeth*, I'm also saying it wouldn't hurt to give it a try if his home (thank God he has one) and financial status is the only set back for you. There are statistics to prove that not every 'surulere' kind of guy turns out a cad...e.g Lola et Peter, Annie et Tuface *eyes rolling* and some less famous others.
      Summary...if after all said and done, you chose to walk away, it neither makes you a materialistic nor bad person. You just know what you want, and have the choice of what to accept or reject. Don't let nobody guilt or shame you into any decision. Life is too unique to live it by other people's standards and approval.

  20. Buby, love your response. Pls receive e-hugs and kisses.

  21. Please this is not a first date, its a first lay. The guy doesnt even think highly enough of you to take you to a small joint even if its to order a bottle of coke....

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