A while back I talked to a friend about everything and nothing. One of the nothings was past lovers and some of their baser needs, turn-ons and demands. We discussed this issue (one I would really like us to discuss here, since we're talking about this) of men sticking their tongues in a girls ears and thrashing it around inside the ear. Dear men, please who ever told you this thing is a turn on? It is the most disgusting thing ever and every female I know thinks so too! Who ever told you it's a brilliant idea to stick your tongue inside somebody's ears? When you do this we try to move as far away from you as possible. Most of us don't outright shove you off because we're to trying to protect your eternally fragile legendary egos. It feels like someone flushing a toilet and we cannot relax even if we want to because we know how bitter and disgusting ear wax is, and we don't need you licking it off our ears, we have cotton buds for that!
Now back to the matter. We talked about those lovers that want to lick that outlet designed by God solely for excrement or want you to do theirs, she told me about an ex who would French kiss her and then proceed to stick the tip of his tongue inside her nostrils and lick lick lick (eew eeeww eeeewww!!!), then we talked about some other things I wouldn't want to write on a Monday. LOL. Suffice it to say that some people have some really disgusting turn-ons... Do you? Come on, you know you can tell me anything. Hehe.
But I'm more curious about those in relationships or married to people with these "extraordinary" likes/demands. How do you cope? Do you give in or refuse outrightly? Do you compromise?
Ah! Yes, we have a mail that mirrors just what I'm talking about, sent to Linda Ikeji's blog.
Please I need your advice. My husband is the dearest thing in this world I've ever had! He's so different from most other guys: intelligent, funny, handsome, very muscular and well-built, and is an amazing person. He's also extremely playful. And I love him so much for all these. But there's this part I don't really enjoy: he makes some demands I'm not comfortable with. The two main ones are these: most mornings when we wake up from sleep he would insist we should kiss deeply with our unbrushed "smelly" mouths. The few times I agree, I don't enjoy it at all! Our mouths usually taste very sour then! I can never understand why he likes it but he says his love for me far exceeds my unbrushed mouth! Also when we're eating, he would tell me to pour food I'm chewing in my mouth into his own mouth, even when my saliva has made it so wet and yucky!
Sometimes he just wants me to put plain saliva from my mouth into his own! And he would say it's the same thing that happens when we kiss, but to me they're VERY different. And funny enough, the few times I agree to do these things, he would end up with a very very huge erecti*n and we would end up... But the problem is, when I don't agree, he would say I'm not interested in improving our intimacy, that I'm the only person in this world he can do them with yet I'm denying him the pleasure. The truth is, I don't think I'll ever be comfortable with these things. Please what should I do??? Does my agreeing to do these things really build our intimacy?
Hmmmm, I feel quite sorry for this lady. Ladies and gentlemen this isn't relationship or it would be easy to say if you cannot deal then walk away. This is marriage. What would your advise to someone in this situation be?