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HELP! A Broke Married Man Wants To Date Me.

Can u believe one dufus has been disturbing my life? When married women complain I wonder if they know that their husbands disturb us single girls more than single men. This is not a letter to the wife, I am just asking. This man gave me a ride to work one day and I gave him my number. Since then he won't let me rest. He said he wants a relationship with me. He is not my type at all but I can make exception because he is married so he does not have to be my type. But I was not interested because he drives a 2008 Honda Accord. Pls is that the type of car his mates r driving? I said maybe that is his wife's car or one of his cars but it is as if it is his only car. One day he called me and I was so tired that I agreed to be his girlfriend but I quickly told him that I'm going to Abuja the next day, for 3 weeks, so that at least for 3 weeks he will not disturb me. The next morning he called me that please let him just see me before I travel because he won't see me for 3 weeks, I said no problem. I went to see him in his car and that is how he was just talking for one hour. He told me how he met his wife and how they got married. He said I should open up to him so that he can understand me better, that he can read his wife like the back of his hand but he is finding it hard to figure me out. shuooo. He showEd me all his children's pictures and told me about them one by one, I was so bored. Jesus! I told him that I didn't want to miss my flight so I had to go back inside then he said I should kiss him first and I can go. It was that time that I knew that this man is just a time waster. I asked him so you didn't bring anything for me? He said what do I mean? I said so your girlfriend told you that she is traveling and you came to see her and you didn't bring anything? His face now changed but I no even send. We drove  to the ATM and then he came and gave me 5 thousand. I looked at him and the chicken change, he saw my face, he now said that please I should manage this for now, I am not rich but I am not stingy.

My question is why the hell are you chasing women if you are not rich? He is a married man with four children and a wife and as difficult as the economy is, instead of him to focus on his family he is begging me to date him. And again, is it that he thinks I will date him for love? I don't understand o. I took the 5000 and went inside. I have not taken his call since then but two times now, yesterday and Tuesday when I didn't answer his call he came to my house and parked outside and was calling my phone. Thelma this man was outside my house for two hours waiting for me, even though I told him am traveling.

His 2008 car makes me laugh because my own car is even more expensive than that. Another thing is that he lives in vgc yet he does not have one kobo. Girls will open their legs for a man because he lives on the island but some of them don't even have money to put fuel in their tank. Long story short is that I want to ask single girls do some of you date married men for love? Please what is the point of dating a married man if he cannot take care of you, are all the single men dead?

Hahaha. TTB readers over to you. 

Meanwhile Happy Workers day to all the workers in the house. And Happy New Month too!


  1. Hmmm,interesting...

  2. Hahahaha...... Lawdamercy!!! I would love to read the comments on this one...I am married so I got no answer for this.....over to the single ladies... This should be interesting.... **side eyes**

  3. Lord have mercy
    This poster doesn't have time to waste ...Lol

  4. Correction- doofus not dufus. I don't support dating married but I agree with you poster, it is stupid to date a married man for love. If you're going to eat a frog then you might as well eat a big one.

  5. This is so amusing. His wife probably asked for soup money and he probably didn't give her a dime. But he had 5k to dash babe.

    Omashe o!!

  6. If he has no money to give you thats a double negative. No point in committing a half way sin to hell. If you are going straight to hell and not passing go you better do it in a private jet and if there is no private jet available seek a range rover or G Wagon.

    Its a lose lose situation . Don't do it!

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    2. Lose-lose situation

      What I could figure out abt this post is that the babe herself is used to dating married men that she's got her standards. Your car is better than his? I'm sure you are working for an oil company.

      Law of attraction, so u could stay in a married man's car for 1hr+ and you were bored? I don't think so. You were just waiting for when to ask him for money. In other words that's who you are. You love to attract married men but just pissed that you attracted a 'broke' one by Ur standards. And you are here trying to feel like a nice girl who doesn't like dating married men.

      Mind you, I'm not against your hustle but don't try to be hypocritical about it. Lagos

      I think I'm gonna create a black comedy script about peeps like you. Lol

    3. Hmm,never did quite look at the story from ur angle @Uyi. Interesting...

    4. On the contrary I am not claiming to be nice. I don't send anybody, I do what I have to do. Bye.

    5. Anon 7.31...
      Now this is more like you... I couldn't agree more!

      One advice, if the man can't afford you just find a way to not give him room to feel welcomed. Apperently he knows your house address and that's not a good one, Lol cos he might not stop for a while but just keep ignoring and he might get the message sooner than later.

      Married men would always be 'Men' first before they are 'married' and the former is quite vicious. It takes a lot of discipline and self control and not all men are brought up that way. So the world has to get used to it or fight.

      But I'm sure the war in the middle-east would be over first before that.

  7. Smh... I don't even know what to say... *sigh*

  8. Lol...

    This lady dey vex gaaaan... I don't date married men. No matter how attractive he looks, once i know he's in a relationship/married, i lose interest. I have a colleague tho, she will date any one so long as he has money and she will most definitely help you spend it.

    All the married women crying that the single ladies should leave their husbands alone, its actually the other way round. Take for instance, this my colleague was dating a married man sometime ago, naive me didnt know he was married, i just assumed he was a bf but the guy seemed way older (like in his 40s) i just reasoned that since she's older than i am, then the man should be ok... blah blah

    Fast forward a few weeks after vals, they had broken up, me i was even still pleading on the guy's behalf that he's nice, drives a bam car, isnt ugly...blah blah but she claimed he wasn't giving her enough money. Ok.
    When i gisted a male friend of mine, he just concluded that the guy was married. He said no woman lets that kind of guy go for such a reason except he's either married or gay. I asked her about it like 2weeks ago and she confirmed that the guy was indeed married. The shock!

    Fast forward two days ago, she just anounced that Mr Married man is coming back, ha! Why? after all my preaching and begging 2weeks ago. What happened? Apparently, her life is boring at the moment and Mr. Married man hadn't stopped begging to make a come back so she's considering letting him back in.

    I for one think there's no reason to/justification for dating a married man. There are many single guys out there, find urself one! No point toying with someone else's happiness

  9. Nd he lives in Victoria garden City..... Mayb he is d CSO

  10. True to all but number 2 (false). Vry funny though

    1. Haba!! How did dis comment get here!!! Was nt suppose to b for dis post. Anywayzzzz

  11. Happy New month to everyone.
    There's no justification dating a married man..For whatever reason(s)

  12. Smh.
    Thelma, abeg make it clear sometimes when this is someone else's post, not yours. That would have spared me the extra 30secs I spent trying to figure out whose post it was. That, plus the 75 secs I spent skimming through this is 105secs I am not getting back :-(

  13. This is a bit saddening to read...

  14. I dont see why I as a single lady should give audience to a married man in the first place, much less ask him for money. He gave you a lift...fine, you gave him your number...still not him any extra attention and asking him for money, I feel its just not necessary. Your car is better than his den you should have driven yours instead of having to get a lift from him! the money was 'chicken change' but you still collected it now you are complaining that he is pestering you...what did you expect? Or do you want 5 taasand to just go like dat? Mbanu......#JoyDaNuGirl

    1. I weak my sister. This world no fit settle ooo.


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