Hey guys, remember I told you about blog readers making oral submissions? Well this situation below is so similar to what I discussed with a blog reader recently. I will still post her story on a later date but first let's hear what you think about this. Read below;
My husband is very close to his family. Extremely close! They see him as their "big daddy". He is everyone's big brother, uncle, "egbon of life" and ATM Machine. When he travels he always gets socks, boxer shorts and all sorts for his peeps. I know he is into his family but when does it become too much. His late brothers last son is getting married and as the "Big Uncle" he is expected to foot a significant part of the bill. My husband has a household to take care of and I don't want a situation where our well runs dry. I spoke to my husband about his overdose on philanthropy with his family and he decided to fall back and support them with N1,000,000 towards the wedding. His nephew and other family members are angry and feel this is stingy and I am the cause as they naturally expected him to do more than that. Whilst these family dynamics may have worked prior to us getting married, it's been 3 years and they need to respect his position as a married man. Yes, he can afford to take on a lot more but I felt the need to intervene so they don't continue to take advantage of his kind nature. Are they wrong for not appreciating the small donation or am I the witch of a wife who has involved herself in their family's business. I may have created enemies but is this battle worth it?
*Once a man is married, should a wife learn to manage finances between herself and her in laws or is she right in marking her territory and cutting off all the excess funding for her immediate family alone. Does she have a sense of entitlement? Has she overstepped? #DoJudge #SharingMoney #Love#Money #inlaws #relationships.
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