In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question: 'What kind of man are you looking for?' She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking, 'Do you really want to know?' Reluctantly, he said, 'Yes. She began to expound, 'As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to ask a man what can you do for me that I can't do for myself? I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man... or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, 'What can you bring to the table?' The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.
She quickly corrected his thought & stated, 'I am not referring to money. I need something more. I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life. He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain. She said, 'I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man. I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked...believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don't need a financial burden. I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man. I need a man who is family-oriented.
One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God. I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy. And by the way, I am not looking for him...He will find me. He will recognize himself in me. Hey may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a help-mate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself. When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, 'You are asking a lot. She replied, "I'm worth a lot".
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I saw the above post titled SELF WORTH on Facebook and thought I should share.
Have you ever been there? Had expectations from a man and get told that you're asking for or expecting too much? Well, it's one of two things; You can either lower your expectations and settle for less than you want and deserve, or, stand your ground and say "I'm worth a lot". Provided you are indeed worth a lot...
Good morning darlings. Have a beatiful day ahead!
Oh well, back then, I aint reducing any standard for nobody...it is what it is...I know who I am.....So it's either you catch up or you drop out of the race.....Can't deal...
ReplyDeleteGood morning T and ttbr.
ReplyDeleteAwesome post!
Imo, I believe people are attracted to you based on who you are..
But, I do not agree with you lowering your standards for someone, no, the one who will be worth it would definitely come along.
And i wanted to say she has been looking for moi.......... errrm, Anyways i guess i'd get my torchlight and trekking shoes to start looking for her.
ReplyDeleteOn a serious note, its refreshing to hear people define their standards especially in their partners. It gives a sense of direction and purpose for a budding relationship.
Lmaoooo!
DeleteGood day beautiful people
ReplyDeleteNo to lowering of standards what so ever
Beautiful Post.
ReplyDeleteDon' t lower your standards. the one that will find you will be worth the wait and you'll be happy you didn't lower your standards just because society expects you to as a lady. Knowyourworth
Beautiful Post.
ReplyDeleteDon' t lower your standards. the one that will find you will be worth the wait and you'll be happy you didn't lower your standards just because society expects you to as a lady. Knowyourworth
She killed it with "He just has to be worth it". After a few years of being married and being punched by marital challenges you will ask yourself "Is he worth it?". It is best your answer at that point is a resounding yes.
ReplyDeleteNice piece. I am worth a lot.
ReplyDeleteNever reduce your standards for anyone; Whoever wants to be in your life will rise up to meet your standards.
I am worth a lot! Lord help me not to ever forget that! :)
ReplyDeleteAbsolute 'karamba' to this post. Woman, love thyself!
ReplyDeleteAbsolute 'karamba' to this post. Woman, love thyself!
ReplyDeleteI am a virtuous woman for my price is far above rubies
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