When will men start taking the blame for their own human failings and stop making everything bad the woman's fault?
I saw this comment on Bella Naija yesterday. This poster does not blame it on the woman but on nature. (It just never is the man's fault, is it?) Tell me what you think.
"My view on this will not be popular but that’s the reality.
Blame it on the Coolidge effect! In a letter to his then friend Sigmund Freud,Carl Jung (Those of you who did personality assement tests…chevron,mobile or any global org,must hv heard this name) wrote; "The prerequisite for a good marriage, it seems to me, is the licence to be unfaithful",Jan 30,1910)… Sad but true! Variety and change are the necessary spice of the sex life of the male species.That is a man’s inner reality.
....The sole reason why a man exists is to procreate and provide for his offshoot. A man in his lifetime has more than 60bilion sperm cells to procreate with. Do you honestly believe that you will be the only recipient of his sperm in his lifetime, even while married? No! That was why the church kinda brought a check on man’s philandering through marriage. But has that stopped even with the vows? Your guess is as good as mine."
I'm reminded of the comment thread on a blog I read last week. Husband cheated. Wife complained. The male commenters (and I'm referring to grown men, not children like that one who is perpetually in Jupiter) all asked her; what did you do that made him cheat on you?
When women in the forum responded and said they were sure they had played their roles as good wives perfectly yet their men still cheat, the men came up with another one. This is priceless; "There's so much temptation everywhere a man goes. You go to work, temptation. You go to church, temptation. You're driving on the road, temptation. Man is only flesh and he is bound to fall once in a while na. And it is your duty as the wife to help him back on our feet when he falls".
Nna mehn, what wouldn't I hear? So when a man cheats on you, you should sympathize with him and say "babes I'm sorry that stupid Jezebel made you sleep with her. Don't worry, next time you will not fall for her big hips".
Isn't it funny that while we condone men's cheating and accept it as the norm, we have turned them into both weaklings and less than animals, with no control over the tiniest impulses?
So far we have the following to blame for man's infidelity.
His spouse- Yes.
Nature - Yes.
The man- No.
I guess men are indeed licensed to be unfaithful.