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Licensed To Be Unfaithful.

Agree? Disagree?

When will men start taking the blame for their own human failings and stop making everything bad the woman's fault?
     I saw this comment on Bella Naija yesterday. This poster does not blame it on the woman but on nature. (It just never is the man's fault, is it?) Tell me what you think. 

"My view on this will not be popular but that’s the reality.
Blame it on the Coolidge effect! In a letter to his then friend Sigmund Freud,Carl Jung (Those of you who did personality assement tests…chevron,mobile or any global org,must hv heard this name) wrote; "The prerequisite for a good marriage, it seems to me, is the licence to be unfaithful",Jan 30,1910)… Sad but true! Variety and change are the necessary spice of the sex life of the male species.That is a man’s inner reality.
     ....The sole reason why a man exists is to procreate and provide for his offshoot. A man in his lifetime has more than 60bilion sperm cells to procreate with. Do you honestly believe that you will be the only recipient of his sperm in his lifetime, even while married? No! That was why the church kinda brought a check on man’s philandering through marriage. But has that stopped even with the vows? Your guess is as good as mine."

I'm reminded of the comment thread on a blog I read last week. Husband cheated. Wife complained. The male commenters (and I'm referring to grown men, not children like that one who is perpetually in Jupiter) all asked her; what did you do that made him cheat on you?

When women in the forum responded and said they were sure they had played their roles as good wives perfectly yet their men still cheat, the men came up with another one. This is priceless; "There's so much temptation everywhere a man goes. You go to work, temptation. You go to church, temptation. You're driving on the road, temptation. Man is only flesh and he is bound to fall once in a while na. And it is your duty as the wife to help him back on our feet when he falls". 

Nna mehn, what wouldn't I hear? So when a man cheats on you, you should sympathize with him and say "babes I'm sorry that stupid Jezebel made you sleep with her. Don't worry, next time you will not fall for her big hips".

Isn't it funny that while we condone men's cheating and accept it as the norm, we have turned them into both weaklings and less than animals, with no control over the tiniest impulses?

So far we have the following to blame for man's infidelity. 
His spouse- Yes. 
Nature - Yes. 
Temptation- Yes. 
The man- No. 

I guess men are indeed licensed to be unfaithful. 



  1. People, and not just men need to start taking responsibility for their actions. Men will cheat, and women too...that's the sad truth.

  2. Men cheat because they lack self control. How in God's name is a woman suppose to help a man have self control? It's really annoying :(

  3. All men shall stand before d throne of God and give account of themselves.

  4. this one pass me o! i cant stand knowing my hubby has a side chic and remain. if he must have please he should have the decency and respect for me to be discreet about it. ignorance they say is bliss.

  5. Hahaha, thelma I see what you with the Jupiter thing, his thought pattern is definitely not of earth. I was chatting with a friend and he sed cheating is inevitable that it doesn't mean anything, after I told him my stance on the issue he concluded I wasn't ready for marriage :(

  6. Rubbish talk
    Everyone is responsible for his or her actions
    People cheat cos they want to not cos they cant be faithful

  7. I hate hearing that all men cheat crap..all human beings can cheat! A good woman can cheat wen pushed to the wall.. It's the same God that created us his own image o.. Ple take marriage vows for granted .. They don't know it's deeper than words.. It's you making a promise to God to stay faithful and cherish your wife.. Wen u cheat it's like mocking God ..If u cheat, I will slice ur balls off.. Lmfao!!

  8. They should shut up abeg. Unless the person was both drunk and forced into the union he did it willingly. Me i was tipsy taking my vows, i needed the courage if not would have been giggling like a fool or had a nerves issue. But even then i still know what i said and promised before God.

  9. Man and woman mata...#endlessshit

  10. This makes no sense whatsoever. So now men are born cheaters? Like Blogoratti said, we all need to take responsibility for our actions. I know women who get hit on by men everyday, they don't because of that pull down their pants every opportunity they get so, that temptation excuse is exactly what it is, a load of horse manure!


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