Skip to main content

Love Doesn't Hurt. Loving The Wrong Person Does.






Thelms please this story from chronicles of hope from SDK's blog. It is a touching story that I can relate to. God bless. 


Hello Stella
I am sharing my story because of the several chronicles of narratives I read on your blog.
My story is to encourage and tell young people, especially ladies that all things work for good at the end of the day.
I started dating Tom (not real name) when I was in school after he had asked me out for a long time. He was a gentle and humble young man, so I fell in love with him. I was the reigning queen. People called us Romeo and Juliet (I can love for Africa). When I asked him later why he loved me, he said I am the most intelligent woman he knows and might ever know. In my heart I thought, “What a reason to love”. He pampered me. Loved and cared for me.
I later discovered that he transferred to my department not quite long. That made the love wax stronger as we were together all the time. Our friends were happy with our relationship. He introduced me to his parents and siblings. They were all pleased because “I be fine girl”, I speak good English, dress well and love their brother and child. I later felt I was like a trophy to him because everybody who knew him kept hailing and congratulating him for “catching” me. He was a low life. I helped his dress sense, spoken English etc.
I started writing exams for him. That means writing mine and his while he sat beside me. During exams, we pushed my friends away so that he can be comfortable. On few occasions I was almost caught. Infact, I would have been expelled. God saved me.
As expected, I graduated before him and went to service while he had to spend an extra year because of those courses he failed before we started dating. On my last day in school, he held me, knelt down and started crying. I was surprised. When I enquired, he said everybody is saying I would leave him when I go for my NYSC bla bla bla. I held his hand and gave him my word. I promised not to leave him. He begged me to wait for him that he wants to marry me. I agreed. He met my family unofficially. Everybody who knew us, knew we would get married.
In NYSC, we would talk alnight and every other hour during the day. He never forgot to tell me he loved me and would marry me. I turned down good suitors. I said NO to well-to-do young men. After my NYSC, he went for his service after paying to process and collect his result. While I got a well paying job immediately. I was still holding on to our promise. The fact that I was young also helped. I was just 22yrs. More suitors came and I said NO. I turned down proposers of people I would have loved to marry if I was not in a relationship. All the while we left school, we never stayed in the same state but we kept shuttling to and fro.
His parents kept calling me to be patient, that they will soon come and see my people. I never cheated on him for one minute. My friends kept advising me to be smart but I didn’t take such advice. 
 to few years later, he got a job after I and his people kept hope alive by giving him stipends monthly. God blessed him and he bought a car after working for one year. THEN, problems started in our relationship. Everything changed. By this time we had dated for 8years. I kept seeing evidence of him cheating. He kept apologising. He even had several sexcapades. I was hurt but I felt I didn’t have a choice anymore. I took rubbish. I became the victim. Then I decided to commit him. I told him we should see my parents and he said good. That was where my problems began. We fixed a date for introduction and he and his parents failed to show up. How embarrasses I was. I started observing diabolic nature between him and his mum. Though I had noticed
this severally but I was blinded by love not to ask him. He said a prophet told him not to marry me. Later his sister said it was a native doctor bla bla bla. His parents called and said I am bini. That they 
did not know that their ancestors swore that no one should marry bini. I felt angry more than heartbroken. I was sad. But I did not alter a word to them. I kept saying OK. And that got them more confused or rather scared.
A holy anger arose in my friends and family and they started praying for me. My dad went on his knees and prayed for me. They said I should move on and I did. I declared a one month fast. I prayed to God to heal my heart. I asked him to surprise those who have scorned me. Him and is people kept calling for forgiveness and I told them I don’t have anything against them that they should go to God for forgiveness. One month after this whole drama(I moved on immediately), I met the cutest man I have seen in my life. He was actually a friend I met 10yrs ago but we lost contact. He had been trying to reconnect with me all the while but it was not possible. Someone told him about me and we re-connected. I thought I was in love but when we met, we realised how love can be so beautiful. We talked about our past and thanked God. I felt peace and joy. 9 months later, we got married.
Today I am the happiest woman alive. My husband is a business man and a pastor. I am an administrator. We are comfortable. He adores me. At times I think it is a dream. But I am enjoying life and marriage. My mother inlaw is an angel. Did I mention that my parents inlaw are pastors? 
They don’t have time to puck-nose into our marriage as they are marriage counsellors. My inlaws are my paddy. No time for interference and control. God healed my heart. He blessed me. He saved me. He surprised people…within 9 months I was married to my friend. Today we are the envy of couples. Despite the normal ups and downs in marriages, people use us as a point of contact. Believe me when I say God saves us when they break our heart. People who break our heart DO NOT deserve us
Mrs Anonymous.




Comments

  1. And that is why you should give praise even when things are not looking up.....he ALWAYS has a plan.....mehnnnnn this was a fun read..more like a testimony!

    ReplyDelete
  2. Hmm..God ways are different from ours..and Every disappointment is a blessing in disguise.

    ReplyDelete
  3. I'm happy for the girl. Waiting for someone is a 50 50 risk. If you are going into that kind of lonngggg relationship prepare your mind that there is 50% chance of being dumped. If you can deal with that carry on.

    My friend's sister dated one Engineering student from her year 1 in 2000, they were just a beauty to look at. They got married in 2009 with 3 kids now. Saw them early this year in Abuja and was just awwing. Babe is still a size 8 and both of them still looking like when they were in Uni just richer with kids.

    Seriously, you wrote exams for a guy that you intend to marry??? O di egwu!.

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Turia Pitt Suffered 65% Burns But Loved Conquered All...

Amazing Story Shared by Dr. Ben Carson on Facebook, i thought it is inspiring and i decided to share;

The Australian ex-model Turia Pitt suffered burns to 65 per cent of her body, lost her fingers and thumb on her right hand and spent five months in hospital after she was trapped by a grassfire in a 100 kilometre ultra-marathon in the Kimberley. Her boyfriend decided to quit his job to care for her recovery. 
Days ago, in an interview for CNN they asked him:
"Did you at any moment think about leaving her and hiring someone to take care of her and moving on with your life?"

His reply touched the world:

"I married her soul, her character, and she's the only woman that will continue to fulfill my dreams."

***
This made me very reflective. I just wonder; if the person you love today encounters an incident or accident that transforms who they are physically, it could be amputation, it could be paralysis, it could be severe burns that scald their flesh beyond recognition, w…

...

Good morning people! 
Just checking in to sign the register. Lol. It's been a very busy week and it looks like it might be an even busier weekend. I was hoping to get some writing done when I got to the airport yesterday but I even almost missed my flight. It was hopeless trying to do any work on the plane as it was bumpy af, and this toddler behind me wouldn't stop screaming in piercing shrieks like he was being exorcised. 
I got into town pretty late and needed to keep an appointment ASAP. I'm heading out right now and it's going to be a long day, but thought I should drop this first. 
Have a splendid day. Im'ma be back soon.

#WriteRight. VIVIAN: MY FIRST SEX EXPERIENCE WITH MY BOYFRIEND

He was my coursemate, crush, then my boyfriend.... he was super
intelligent, smart, tall, dark and handsome. Believe me he got
swag, but he didn't seem to notice me. (I'm a nerd but a sassy one
if I say so myself).  So oneday I decided to take it to another level..
After listening to a song "IF YOU LOVE SOMEBODY TELL THEM THAT YOU
LOVE THEM and watching the season film of The Secret Life of
American Teenagers. ..when Amy Jeugerns mum told her "you are only
young once". LOL that part got me.
Hope you know what i mean?

Though I'm okay with chemistry class I approached him to coach me for
the Quiz that was coming up, we found out that we had this
great chemistry between us.. hehehe both the covalent and
electrovalent bonds....

So one thing led to another till one unusual Saturday. I invited
him to my house and he came. The guy got swag, he even came
with a packet of durex condom.
We talked for a while and and and and and and
Kai!
See how you are serious dey read this story....!
My…

One More Post...

THE ‘NEW’ SIDE CHICK: I WAS HER

A side chick is commonly known as a mistress or a woman that’s romantically involved with a man who is in a committed relationship.  However after doing some reflecting, I realize that’s not the only type of side chick.  I want to discuss “the new side chick”–a woman who decides to stay by a man’s side after he has expressed his lack of relationship intentions with her through his words or actions.  So many women have made this mistake at least once in their lifetime, and unfortunately I’ve done the same thing. I like to think of the new side chick as an appetizer.  You’re there just to satisfy the immediate appetite of the man, but as soon as that mouth-watering entrée comes out to the table, you will get pushed to the side, literally.  Why?  Because that entrée is what he really wanted; he went to the restaurant to order steak, not hot wings.  You were just a placeholder, fling, temporary commitment, or  maybe even just a “good ol time” until what he really wanted was presented to hi…

Shhhhhhh....

I'm in an amebo mood tonight. Don't ask me, I honestly don't know why. Also I'd like to share too but I'd do that anonymously in the comment section. Tonight I want to talk about secrets. It's ok, we can all be anonymous. 
Is it true that EVERYBODY has a secret? 
Is there anyone here who doesn't have a secret? I'd really like to know; You're a completely open book and there's not ONE thing about you that you wouldn't mind other people knowing about? Please raise your hands up. 
And for the rest of us, what's something about you that no one knows, or very few people know? Who's got a dark secret here, or a weird one, or a funny one even? I really don't mean to be invasive but I don't want to be the only one sharing, plus I think hearing other people's secrets is quite fun, don't you think?

Let's Be Random Together! (Open Keypad).

Hey guys, a while back blog reader F said something about creating an Open Keypad post, where you can write whatever you want in the comment section. I thought it was a fun idea!
So who is interested? Comment on anything you feel like, ask me or anyone a question, talk about how your day went, your job, your interests, tell us something about you that we don't know, share a testimony with us, rant about anything you feel like, talk about your crush/boo/spouse/relationship/marriage, challenges you're facing, ANYTHING AT ALL! 
I'll only make one request; that we stay civil. 

(F it was you who made this suggestion, right? I'm not too sure and I can't even remember the post the comment was made on). 
BTW please Ejoeccome out come out, wherever you are!

Adventures, Fun, Friendship & Laughter at the TTB Hangout (Lekki Conservation Center).

Nicole to Clare: mummy lets go. I want to climb that ropy thing!

Isn't Clare beautiful?!

Uyi et moi. Clowning. 

Mother & child. 


Scary af! Trish on the ramp. The chica loves the outdoors so much, she was like a kid in a candy store. She and Uyi took this walk twice! More power to them, you can't pay me to do this a second time.


Uyi & Tiwa

Question of The Day.

TTB readers doesn't this tweet below remind you of something?
That mail that someone sent me a few weeks back. 
But why on earth should a man sleep with his son's fiancé? But what am I saying, some men even sleep with their daughters...

Oh well, I'm throwing the question to you. What has happened in your life that you never saw coming, you never hesperred it, you never imagined could happen, you never imagined could happen to you? 
It could be good, it could be bad, it could be ugly. Do tell!
And it can be more than one. Let me tell you a few. 
-owning a blog -week long dry fast at Prayer City (I never hesperred it).  -staying in an (emotionally) abusive relationship.
The others require anonymity. LOL. Now over to you.