"Oh my God, Lagos is so beautiful!", she shrieked. Then just as if she read my mind she added "Well depending on the view you're looking from".Well it certainly was a beauty from where we stood, in the Presidential suit on the 23rd floor at the Intercontinental Hotel, Victoria Island. We most certainly loved the view from that top floor.
Yesterday I joined the Spice TV crew on set as they shot an episode of Spice Toys at the Intercontinental Hotel. Shooting can be so tedious yet very enjoyable, and as I wandered from room to room in the four bedroom suite, with two luxurious living rooms and other awesome amenities, I was reminded once again why I just have to make money! After all, the persons who occupy these lavish hotel apartments nor got two heads, abi?
At some point I had to head out to Ikoyi where a NIMASA seminar was holding. The seminar was for top level execs, it had about 100 participants in all. I was willing to wait at the lounge or something but I was summoned and asked to join the seminar. Of course it all sounded like Greek to me, except when the men weren't making funny banter and cracking themselves up. Yes, "the men".
I looked around and I was the only female in the hall besides one or two others. The other females were either ushers or waitresses. I found myself asking WHERE ARE THE WOMEN? Are we really just natural mothers that would rather stay home and nurture the kids than conquer the world? Or is that perhaps our own way of conquering the world?
Reminds me of something I've heard said at several TED talks over time; in the corporate world, the higher up the ladder, the fewer women you see. You'll find that the low level jobs are saturated with women but as the rungs get higher the women get lesser. (I acknowledge that this can partly be attributed to male privilege)
I wonder, are we less ambitious than men? It's been scientifically proven that we don't have lower IQs, so what gives? Well that only leads me to believe that most women, given the opportunity would rather stay at home and nurture. (However my host later explained that the seminar was for surveyors and engineers and its a field that's predominated by men).
I sat in traffic for hours and between Ikoyi and home I made three dates none of which I intended to honour (sometimes saying OK is just easier), I was knackered. But after a shower, I snuggled under the sheets and started to send "I'm sorry I won't be able to make it" messages when Onyi called and said Mr Ashiru was opening his lounge and if I would like to come, I said yes. I dunno... Maybe because the last party Onyi and I attended together was the class party we threw in SS2.
We see quite a lot of each other (I call Onyi my IDEA BOX. You see ehn, anytime I have a career related challenge, a decision or a move to make, I call Onyi. The girl always has some extremely sound ideas. And she spouts them off immediately, just as if she had done her research and was patiently waiting for me to ask), but we just never party together. Onyi prefers high society; wine tastings, themed parties, cocktails on one yacht or the other... While I tend just to prefer somewhere I can drink my vodka without feeling the pressure for perfection.
The event was aii, and the only reason I'm referencing it is because the music came from a life band and the singer was pretty good. In fact had it not been for the guitar and acoustics you would think it was the actual songs playing. When I saw Tunde Demuren I knew I would see Banky W and as I watched him pose for pictures I wondered if I could ever do that, see a celebrity (I don't know) and ask for a picture. I'm just too proud or too shy or too apprehensive to do that. (The one time I saw Basket Mouth and tried to be friendly he was quite nasty and unnecessarily sarcastic, I was embarrassed).
Well guys, next thing I know the singer stops and shouts "Banky W is in the building! Make some noise!!! Errr, Banky I want to do a song with you o! Banky I have told myself that I will work with you". First I was piqued by his straightforwardness and I thought within me that if this were my joint I would give that singer a stern warning. That's so unprofessional, and I wouldn't want to lose celebrities' patronage because they're worried they'll be ambushed by wannabes. But then again I remembered those days when Flavour used to be the life band singer at City Centre, Enugu. He was just a scraggy hungry singer singing for scraps and nobody particularly paid any attention to him. But hey, look where he is now!
-I guess we're all just trying to make it any way we know how... I know I am.
Moving on... While we were there I chatted with one of the people I'd made plans with earlier, and since I was already out I promised him I would stop over. He sent me the address but when Onyi and I got there I wondered that there were very few cars, I'd thought he was at a lounge. Well it turned out it his office. Yes, his own law firm. I also learnt he owns the building too. I was awed, first off because in the short time I've known this guy I always thought he was in his twenties, thirty at most. Also, I thought he was a junior associate at the firm, and the times he said "one of the partners at my firm" I thought he was referring to one of his bosses. And then I always wondered why he was always always at the office. At times he would call me past midnight and say "I'm at the office" and I'd always thought he was an overzealous, ambitious low level employee at an overly competitive law firm. LOL. Now it all made sense and I was really impressed.
As it turns out he's obviously older than I thought, and wayyyyy more successful. The two-story law firm is ultra modern and the theme is minimalist, very classy with a soothing ambience. A few of his friends were drinking brandy and planning to hit the clubs. Before we climbed the stairs Onyi hesitated and asked me "Is he married?", and I realized that it had never occurred to me to ask, because I thought the guy was really young (thinking about it now I can't imagine why). He overheard Onyi and assured us that he's single. Onyi scoffed; because if he's married I'm not going inside. LOL.
Anyhoo, I got home at 2am or thereabouts. Onyi and I parted ways at the tollgate. I got ahead before her and she said I didn't have to wait for her. To be honest I was relieved. I love Onyi but my father drives faster than she does. When we were heading out and I had to drive behind her I felt like my legs never left the brakes! I mean, at that time of the night the roads are free, why crawl when you can fly?
*Quick question guys, do you think having a foreign accent in Nigeria gets you ahead? In the last few months, I've noticed that people (especially in Lagos) pay more attention to someone that speaks with a foreign accent, and if that accent is British, they shut up and listen in complete awe. If the person says something as inane as "water is wet", their eyes stay unblinking and they nod their heads as though the person just said something very profound.
Last month at the Nigerian Entertainment Conference that held at Eko hotel, they wouldn't let us into a particular carpark. My friend called one of the security men to ask why, he just shrugged and started to walk away. Then she shouted "Oi!" and went into full britico accent. My people, without any hesitation the gates were open and they made space for us.
Why though? Why are we so impressed by foreign accents?