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Too Busy To Call. Myth or Reality?

I seem to have been meeting some very busy men of late. If I didn't know better I'd think I've been idle and that's why they all seem busy. But actually they are indeed busy and I've been anything but idle. Still...

Someone "hooked" me up with someone recently. The first date was splendid, it was actually very promising. But...

Eight days later and still no word. I told the "hooker" (no pun intended) that I'm not game anymore. 

"Please Nwando noooo, he's busy. He's really really busy. He says he really really likes you. He will call!". 

Me: Nobody is that busy. I understand he's a pretty important person with loads on his plate. But

He eats, he sh*ts, he sleeps, he pees, he drinks water, and he reads the papers. Surely taking half a minute to say or text Hihellohowareyou can't be that difficult. So...

Im'ma keep it moving and he should too. 


Last month or so, I met someone whom I learnt is really busy too. While the former has built his empire, this one is building his. Busy guy this one; the boss at the office, managing the staff, the talent and the underlings. It really must be very time consuming and tasking. Still,

Days and it was either no word or the halfhearted "hey" lacking enough vibe to receive a "hey back"...

I kept it moving. 

He said "I've been soo busy. But since I didn't (call/text/ping), then you should have". I said "You can't be asking me out, and expect me to make all or most of the effort"... Dude!

Let's keep it moving. 


Some people argue that some people are so terribly busy, completely occupied and stressed out that even when they get a second to rest they are too exhausted to do anything but... rest. So it's not that they don't miss you, think about you or care about you, it's just that their lives are so consumed by all this busyness that it becomes almost impossible to pick that phone and say hi. 

But here's what I think;
It might come across as simplistic to you, but that's what I think and I acknowledge no exceptions. 

What do you think? Is "too busy" bull crap or some people's reality?


  1. Yes, nobody's always too very busy to make a call at least in days. Yet, it doesn't mean the said busy person doesn't value the friendship /person.

    I think if it's not a full relationship yet, a man or woman should be given some time.

    There are instances where guys gives excuses for not being as engaging as they should in the start of relationship, but later, not too long after, they fall more deeply, head over heels...and then
    the miss wonders "did he just lose his busy job?"

    It's the power of time.
    And maybe more exposure to + observations of the miss' worth.
    Or maybe Cupid suddenly decides to play his game.

    1. Seconded. For some people. But it's two ways, as you have said and then priority (and procrastination, yeah I'm so guilty of that) also comes to play.

  2. Thelma, ur thoughts are exactly mine.
    No one is too busy; it's all about priorities biko

  3. I'm sure Obama makes out time to call pple he wants to keep in touch with so if ur not the leader of the free world (bin wanting to use that sentence for a while now) Abeg shift.

    1. Lols,every post has given u ample opportunities to use that phrase. All u had to do was just write it. Whether it made sense or not is entirely up to

  4. If anyone is truly that busy, then prepare to date urself if u r in a rship with such person.

  5. This comment is for Michie girl. Your friend dat hid u n ur baby is in an abusive rship dats y she acted that way, u mentioned he entered ur house to confirm u were female. Please talk to ur friend, dat girl is going thru a lot in that marriage but she is scared to speak out.

    1. Or maybe he prohibited his wife from being a friend to you.

  6. I hate that too busy to call excuse ! It irritates me.. It's not a valid reason atall.. After all he eats and pees or does he pee on his seat?? My late dad used to work over 12 hours everyday and he still used to call his wife and kids evry day even if it's at 2am.. If he says he's too busy to call ,he's not that into you ..

    1. You just said your dad(God rest his soul).

      This is a 'new' guy for heaven sake, so he should automatically start doing wat dad did? Hian, Plz give these guys some break. I mean, everyone has got priority list and I do not expect anyone to just immediately put someone in the top after just one date.

    2. Daddy or not..My point is nobody is too busy to call..

  7. Time, maybe time will tell, just give them the space they need and he/ they would come back if they really like you as said.

    No one is really busy Yes, but some really are busy. I can speak for myself, I have been so busy that I couldn't call my loved ones and didn't notice my lapses either till it was brought to my notice.
    This is not to justify their actions, I am just saying that ... They really might be busy

  8. Yes I have dated someone like that, always said he was too busy to call that when I have a good and proper job I will understand, I still don't understand till now, if you value people you will call, its that simple, sometimes I am very busy, I call people on my walk from the bus stop to my house because I know when I get home I will probably not have the time. Please don't be the one calling more than the guy chyking you, even messages and social media help if you are so busy.
    Time flys without us knowing so I suggest having a To Call List, weird as it may sound it helps.

  9. Total bull crap
    If you don't have time to call you don't have the right to have or like a girl
    Its a matter of Priorities

  10. Too busy to call for eight days??? Haba! That one dikwa somehow. But there is no 'one size fits all' for these things, let me not conclude sha

  11. Is he so busy that he hasnt picked up his phone to call anyone since you last saw him?
    Its either he is still involved with someone else and trying to end it or he is just not interested or he is dating a couple of girls and trying to decide who to settle with.

  12. "Some people argue that some people are so terribly busy, completely occupied and stressed out that even when they get a second to rest they are too exhausted to do anything but... rest. So it's not that they don't miss you, think about you or care about you, it's just that their lives are so consumed by all this busyness that it becomes almost impossible to pick that phone and say hi."- Thelma believe it or not this is very true. When I worked with KPMG I lost almost all my friends and none Of my relationships worked, in fact I did not have to to have a relationship. To even send a text was luxury. So the guy may not be into you or he may actually be very busy.

    1. *i did not have time to have a relationship. I forgot to add that this was one of the reasons I quit the job. After four years I realized that I did not have a life, my friends had given up on me and moved on and the only men I knew were my colleagues because I never went anywhere.

    2. My bestie joined KPMG last year and its exactly the same story, If not for friendship I would have given up, but I try to be understanding and I do the reaching out, not sure we are still besties though. But I have other friends there too and they still get time to talk and reach out so its the department i guess.

    3. Yes, KPMG can be like that and yes again, it depends on the department. Just like you I almost gave up on a friend when she was working there. In fact I did give up. But after she left things got back to normal and funny, we just got back from a party about an hour ago (LOL) (irrelevant, I know) (LOL). Basically give your friend time, I hear things can be really crazy over there.

  13. Its actually possible to be too busy to call but even then, you make out time to call people that matter to you either early in the morning or when there's a lull in the day or when you're walking to go and get something downstairs, etc.

    My family has been complaining for over a year now that I don't call anybody, its not cos I don't love them, I just forget about it or keep procrastinating it until I see mumsie or popsie's call on my phone and I go "ye! I didn't eventually call".

    Thing is, I have the tendency to forget everything once I get to work so I've been making more of an effort lately. I make sure to call my sis and(or) my friend in the morning at work. I also call any one I need to call when I have to go and get something outside. Thing is, we're all busy but if you care enough, you will make out time to call.

  14. Mami, I don't believe that crap that one can be too busy....are you kidding me?? No one is ever that busy mami......

  15. It's a myth. We always find a way to contact those who are important to us. Even if it's a text message or brief call while driving to or from work. "Too busy to call" is just another version of " just not that into you".

  16. You come across as petty and veryyy needy, some things need to be given time, the world doesn't revolve around just one single person, some people actually live very busy lives. Not every guy you meet has to date you.

  17. If you care about someone well enough, you can't stand not hearing from the person for days. So too busy is just not an option biko.

  18. Nobody is ever too busy to call. They don't because you are not on their mind. Finish! If a guy really likes you he will call even while on toilet duty. Best to keep it moving.

  19. Well,just to add my 2cents,people might be too busy to call,i wldnt knw but I knw some people arent the "calling type".
    So they (which is an uncanny coincidence) might just not be the "calling type". Maybe u shld find other avenues to reach out to them?

    1. Exactly. I'm not the *calling type* either but I can communicate through IMs during my break periods. I don't think it's proper to go a whole day without checking up on an SO, let alone 8days!! Wow...

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    3. not the calling type too, but I text a lot. e

    4. Call/text/mail/ping/send a letter in a bird's mouth... Basically communicate.

  20. Myth.
    I have been around heavyweights - from a corporate and Department of state level...people will make time to call you if they give a damn. I have seen an ambassador put a meeting on a 2 minute hold in the middle of baghdad to call his son right before he went on stage for his school play.

    We prioritise what and who are important to us. The only people who cant make time to call are the ones that are dead, and when they have something to tell you, they show up in your dream. So abeg.

    Some people have bad communication skills, and instead of admitting it, they hide behind work. I dont care much for phonecalls, but will quickly send emails, bbm, whatsapp etc messages.

    1. Abi o..u couldn't have said it any better Pynk. Smh for pple giving excuses for their bad communication skills. At least they don't forget to rest at every lil' can forget a quick "check-up" on a friend/loved one wt the so many communication mediums out there

  21. A myth. Anybody can call you in their free time,people that care will free their time to call you. J


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