My fiancé asked me out for more than one year before I even listened to him. I had been turning him down because he is married although he is getting a divorce. He moved out of the house and has lived alone for more than one year and I have seen the divorce petition and the affidavit so I know he really wants to divorce his wife, but the wife and her family are dragging their feet. First I refused to get involved because he's a married man but I later got to see that they are really separated. But I still didn't want him and I was very cold to him, even with that he moved heaven and earth because of me. My family met him and immediately they really liked him, truthfully I liked him too, he is good looking and also very nice. Before he sounded like he just wanted a fling but later became very serious and he said he wants to remarry as soon as he can. You know the more you spend time with somebody that's how you start getting used to them, I fell in love with him and we have been together since then. I never wanted to marry a divorcee and it is not any parents dream that their child will marry a divorcee but when we met him we saw that he is a very good person. He already said he wants to marry me although we cannot legally get married until his divorce is final. But we are planning the introduction and plan to marry traditionally later this year.
Please there is something troubling me please. We got into a heated discussion even though we were not arguing. In fact I cannot remember everything but we were not arguing or fighting. I was surprised when he started to talk about his ex wife. He started saying that she is a very good person, that she is a good woman and if not for some circumstances they will still be together. He said that there is an adage in yoruba that says it is easy to marry a bad wife, but it is suicidal to marry or to have bad in-laws. He said his wife is very wonderful but her mother is the stumbling block, that her mother controls everything and she does not object. He said if not because of her mother they will still be together, that he will have never left her because he loves her and she is a good woman.
Please come and help me decide because my heart has been troubled. I always knew that the fault was from the other side because he was the one that went to court to file for divorce and he moved out. He used to sound very bitter and I thought his wife was the person at fault. Now he said all this and I am wondering if it will be wise to continue with our introduction and engagement. After all, if God forbid, his mother in law dies, or if she changes, or if his wife says she will leave her mother alone, doesn't it mean that he will dump me and go back home? They have a child together and I am igbo while they are yoruba. He insists that he loves me and is making plans for our life together, he has put down payment on a house because where he is staying now is just a room apartment.
Please I need your advice. I love this man very much and my family is planning our marriage. I want to marry him too. But should I move on and save myself from waste of time and disappointment?