I love that I can have the most random conversations with my friends and a few days ago we were randomly talking about types. Ok. I remember how it started.
Some guy invited me out for dinner and at the time he did I was with a friend. Now, physically this friend is the exact opposite of me so I didn't mind taking her along. Yes, I just said that. Let me tell you something o! When someone likes me and I don't completely hate his guts, I don't let him meet some of my friends. Especially if that friend in question is like me; pretty *bats eyelashes*, dark skinned, tall and full-bodied. I don't. Mba nu. I cannot be taking spicy fried tilapia to where a cat is playing and expect it not to want to eat! I've learnt my lesson. Ok, moving on...
So Anyhoo, my friend, skinny and light skinned, we went for this dinner together. I was surprised to notice that the bobo was checking her out. In my mind I'm like nna, how is it possible? How is it that a guy that's digging me can dig her too?
I was chatting to my other friend about it the next day and we laughed about some men who "ain't got no type". I fear these men o! They are attracted to tall, short, thin, fat, light, dark, big breasted, small breasted, Apple bottoms, flat asses, Funke Akindele, Toolz Oniru... Smh.
And that's how we got to talking about types. My friend opined that those men that don't have a type and like every kind of woman, are better than those that have a type but go ahead and marry the opposite of that type and then start sleeping with other women who are his type! Yeah, this happens. I a friend who very loves fleshy women, BBW kinda thing. But no, because he cares too much what people think he went ahead to marry a size 8. Well let's just say he should have married some cute BBW.
I remembered him when I saw this comment on Bella Naija; Its good to have a type but I'm not obsessed about it. I had a type but decided to throw it all away cos of his good character. We are married now and though he moves heaven and earth to please me, i guess the fact that i decided to overlook his physical or (not my type) still affects me. He doesn’t know but i sometimes wish i had put this into consideration b4 accepting the ring. I get really scared about this and really don’t know what to do. It has really affected my sex life cos we decided to abstain before marriage and now i am not excited to even do it. He makes me happy though but sometimes i wonder…
This lady has said a lot in this comment. She has also brought up that age long issue of buying the car before taking it for a test drive. The Godly thing to do, yet oh so risky...
Back to types.
Do you have a type or are you one of those who's anthem is "I ain't got no type!"?
If yes, what is your type?
Are you married or in a relationship with your type?
This I really want to know; If you're not with your type, what were your reasons for accepting to be with them even though they're not your type? Why did you make an exception for them? (I once dated someone who so was not my type, in any way form or shape, just because he made me laugh a lot. Dang! It's then that I believed people who say and man can get any girl he wants if he can make her laugh).
*Men I've dated usually have a type. It's a bit freakish but I've noticed that I look like a lot of my Exs girlfriends, wives or Exs. LOL. it's funny but very weird when you see your former boo with your carboncopy*.